My 3 years old son have been potty training since Friday. I took his pull up away completely and he does well if I put him on potty every 15 minutes thoughout the day. But if I am busy with my 3 months old daughter he would run and hide and do his business in his underwear and stay hide. He knew what he was doing.
He does wonderful at nap and bedtime without a problem.
He fights with me sometimes but eventually realize he need to go and went in potty. When i ask him if he need go potty he would run and I catch him and put him on potty. Is this battle normal? What can I do to better approach this with him?
2007-06-19 14:23:10 · 10 answers · asked by cuddlypanda79 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My son responded really well to positive reinforcement. At first I reinforced every pee/poo on the potty with something small - a sticker, an m&m, etc. That worked okay for a while but I felt I needed a new strategy to help him perfect the skill so I dangled a toy in front of him that he really wanted. I then made a chart for the fridge with 10 boxes then a picture of the toy in the 11th box. Every night before bed we reviewed his day and if he had a perfect day he would get to put a star sticker in one of the 10 boxes on the chart. When he filled all the boxes he got the toy. During the day I would keep asking him if he needed to use the bathroom and I would remind him that he wanted to earn his perfect day. It worked like a charm. You could also make up a treasure box with stickers, little treats, mini toys, etc. and every night after dinner if he's had a perfect potty day he can choose a treasure. Some kids also respond really well to new underwear or other people going on about what a big boy he is with his big boy underwear on.
2007-06-19 14:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him back his bull ups. Don't ever force potty training, if someone is telling you he is too old, then they are borderline abusive and don't know that every child is different and has to be raised different. It sounds to me like you are a stay at home mom so there is no need for you to disruped his life by changing his potty habits. One day he will decide when it is time to to potty. Maybe you could have him spend the night with another child that already goes potty this way he can see that this other kid is a big kid, he goes potty with out a pull up. They need to figure it out on there own.
I raised 3 kids and all three were different. One never had pull ups, she just one day took off her diaper and we never had to buy them again, another one of my kids was 3 1/2 and I swear she loved to live in her own warm pee. We had to try to train her because she had to go to day care but it took a while and my other child would rather die than have anything wet on her so she potty trained rather young. They all did different things with different results. Don't listen to the experts because they don't really know everything, you are the childs mother, you do what is best for your child with out messing up their head, because forcing potty training will do that. Good luck, its really no big deal. It will happen.
2007-06-19 14:35:05 · answer #2 · answered by NANCY J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, take the nappy off and get him some pants. NO MORE NAPPYS (except bedtime for the time being). "Tell him he is a big boy and has to go on the big boy potty" Tell him that if he needs to go to pee or poo then he has to do it on the potty or toilet. When he wets himself, tell him he should have done it in the potty and that next time he needs to go, it's in the potty and if does that for you then you will give him some chocolate or icecream - whatever treat he likes!! ((((ONLY for potty use))) If you give him the treat anyway, this won't work. when he FINALLY does do a wee in the potty/toilet, you gotta go WAY OVER THE TOP with the applauding and cheers and phone people up & tell them how clever he is, give him his treat, make him feel really big & Clever. He will Love all this attention & do it more. he will have accidents, but your gonna have to grin & bare it for a while honey, don't get mad with him.
2016-05-20 02:08:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're stuck in a power struggle. He wants things his way and you want them yours. You need to figure out which might be kinder to him: pushing this issue or stepping back. Do not give the Pull-Ups back, but don't push the potty: put it somewhere central, keep his clothing easy to remove, and don't mention the potty to him. Let him think it is his idea to use it - and he just might.
If that doesn't work, you might want to give it up for now and try again when his life is settled down.
2007-06-19 14:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by M L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually this is VERY normal. One method one of my sisters used was creating a "star chart" Show him that everytime he completes the task of going potty where he is suppose too that he gets a sticker from u and he gets to put it on the chart. Just make a chart like a normal calendar and pt out the spot he is to put the star with the proper day. Then let him show his chart off to everyone that comes to visit, and let him explain to them why he got the star. It worked fantastically.
2007-06-19 14:28:42 · answer #5 · answered by ~Just Me~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am betting that if you quit putting him on the potty every 15 minutes he will just go himself. He is prob frustrated with you putting him on it so often. If he makes a mistake, it's not the end of the world and don't give him trouble. Just say "it's ok, you will make it next time." Lots of encouragement and no down talking. Good luck!
2007-06-19 14:27:49 · answer #6 · answered by purple_lily76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What worked with my son is : I bought bags of gummy bears and every time he tinkled I would give him two and when he pooped I would give him 4. But make sure you check 'the pot' to make sure he's actually doing it. I never had to make him go. He wanted the candy so badly that he tried all the time. Good Luck!
2007-06-19 14:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by J C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep a small bowl with some cheerios near the toilet and have him toss in a few and aim for them. My son refused to go to the bathroom and i tried to make a game of it. Patience is the only other advice......Good Luck!
2007-06-19 14:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by sweetcalif24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realx, put a pull up on, let him tdo it himeslf. By kindergarten they are all going in the toilet anyway. Stressing stresses all of you and when he is ready he will do it. Of course it is easy to give advice now that mine is 13. There is where I need all the help.
2007-06-19 14:27:02 · answer #9 · answered by Valerie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the battle is normal and until he is ready he will not train it is all up to him
2007-06-19 14:35:22 · answer #10 · answered by the Great Oz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋