They wanted to send us to Vegas for a week to the tune of 800 to 1000 dollars. We don't like this idea and want an actual wedding. Not sure if it would be better in the spring or fall. Also, if anyone has any real life experience that would be great.
2007-06-19 14:15:34 · 36 answers · asked by geneva 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am disabled. My dad designs computer software and my stepmother is an engineer. They make well over 150k a year together. I need help with this wedding for those who needed to know and they could very well afford paying for the entire thing. I haven't asked anything from them that they cannot handle. Any ideas for a cheap but elegant wedding that is outside?
2007-06-20 16:23:35 · update #1
I coordinated a wedding fro a friend at a japanese garden here in Chicago. The park district rents space for a small fee and included some things like tables and chairs for an additional fee.
You can also rent table cloths and chair covers. Ask your parents to pay for the most expensive thing, like the food...which can easily be elegant finger foood cater by a local restaraunt or made in the kitchen of one of your favorite cooks (fam or friend).
You can get cheap but nice flowers sparkling wine and have wedding/reception for not so much money. It is really all about the planning. You can start picking up things now on your own. Like center pieces and decorations from a hobbycraft store or something of that nature.
You can keep it simple by keeping your guest list short. Not attempting to go too extravagant. White always makes things look elegant so even if its not the most expensive, it looks nice.
2007-06-26 08:43:43 · answer #1 · answered by nappyhdfatgrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do some amazing things outside. Very chic these years here on the west coast! Choose sunset, the best...and here are some touches you and your friends can prepare ahead of time -
1) Thank your parents for being generous
2) Choose a park where there are large trees, or better one you and your soon to be hubby like for your own reasons
Hang silk flowers upside down from the limbs
Hang votive candles from the limbs.
Hang crystals from the limbs, this will create a rainbow affect all around
Hang fake pearl strings from the limbs
Tie ribbons to the limbs, etc customize to your colors
If you do this at varying lengths it will add an incredible romantic mood to what you would think would be a “normal” park setting.
You can rent or buy (cheap) an arbor and wrap it with silk greenery, etc hanging votive candles and flowers to match the surrounding trees for the canopy under which you exchange your vows.
The same can be placed on the picnic tables with inexpensive white table clothes (fall leaves or silk petals from your local craft store). Get creative, bring in your friends, you will be amazed at the party you can put together with a little creativity.
Forget the planners, the expensive setting. The marriage is the important factor in you life, not how much is spent on the event.
2007-06-19 15:11:28 · answer #2 · answered by loving_life 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the parents are being are being cheap then save up for your own actual wedding. You can still have a really nice wedding on a small budget...and i'm think a wedding in the fall would be nice also. Don't stress over the budget thing...it'll all come together in the end and it will be a great wedding. Congratulations and good luck!
2007-06-19 14:55:31 · answer #3 · answered by ram_this911 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1 hour so many answers. To be honest. #1 reason marriages fail. $$$
I think it's really important for a couple to be able to budget and work toward a goal. Preparing for a wedding is a great way to see if you are actully ready for the "till death do you part" to be in love is one thing. To be a partner in a marriage and to work with one person on all matters.... Well to really know.. here's a great test. I'm starting to believe that's why weddings are so stressful. If you can plan this together. You have a good foundation to work together on the things you will need to in life. As far as your parents go.. Don't expect anyone to get you what you want. It's all up to you to make your own happiness
2007-06-19 15:44:51 · answer #4 · answered by wonka wonka 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am getting married very soon. I have opened a seperate bank account that me and my fiance put money in every month. We've been doing it for 2 years, so that we can have the kind of wedding that I have always wanted. I am 30 years old and will be 31 when I get married. Its well worth the wait to have something that you want. You only do it once, so do it right and save up for something that you will want. Your parents job is not to pay for the whole wedding they can still contribute that $1000 and you can start that in your account. Why should you sacrifice what you want for what your parents are giving you?
2007-06-19 14:57:51 · answer #5 · answered by donellew2002 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want an actual wedding and not a Vegas vacation I suggest you start saving up and not expecting any money from anyone. If they want to donate the 800-1000 dollars to your wedding funds then great, but if not then deal with it.
2007-06-20 02:32:52 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents could only give us $2000 toward the wedding...but insisted that if we had a wedding, all the family (over 400 people) would need to be invited. I flipped out. I said I appreciated the money that they gave but it was my call and I couldn't afford to feed and entertain that many people on such a small budget (their money plus ours). The eventually relented...and we had a beautiful wedding. The other thing...try to plan the wedding for a year from now...then put away part of your paycheck every month in the "wedding fund" and then you'll hopefully be able to take care of it by then. Good luck.
2007-06-19 14:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by its about time 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being cheap if that's what they can afford. If that is all they want to pay for then be greatfull since most parents now a days don't pay for anything at all.
The truth is honey that a wedding is for one day for a few hours. The point is to get married not to have a wedding. You can be just as married after a picnic wedding as you will after a 30,000 one. It just makes no sense to go into debt for a few hours of fun. The wedding industry has brainwashed brides into thinking they "have" to have this or that. The truth is that you only "have" to have a groom, an offciant, and two witnesses. As for that "but it's my memories and my memories are forever" crap. Ask an older person if they remember what color ribbons they had or if there were personalized napkins? Probably not, what they remember is their husbands face when they walked down the aisle...things like that and those are free. They could probably tell you that they had fun but I doubt they could tell you if it was chicken or caviar because if you have fun or not is all about attitude.
2007-06-19 14:21:59 · answer #8 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 9⤊ 2⤋
We had friends that were really into softball. Both played in leagues. They had a wedding & reception in a forest preserve pavilion. After the wedding, they had a big softball game, bride's side vs grooms side. It was soooo much fun. Now, 15 yr later, whenever the families get together, they still argue about that game (fun argue.. "you were out and you know it." "I was safe by a mile.") and they have another game.
Our daughter had a very small intimate wedding on a beautiful bridge by a waterfall. Only immediate family, MOH, BM and pastor. Total of 12 people. It was beautiful, inexpensive, and after 9 yr of marriage, they now have a beautiful daughter and another on the way.
2007-06-19 15:02:10 · answer #9 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't afford to pay for your own wedding, then you're too young to marry or you're getting married for the wrong reasons. My guess is both. I'm right, aren't I?
Clearly, your parents think so too.
I mean, parents who are happy that their child is getting married would NEVER, ever suggest that they just take off to Vegas. It really looks like your parents don't really want to be at the wedding. And because you two refuse to go to Vegas and get out of your parent's hair, your parents probably figure that a picnic at an out of the way location, for just a couple of hours, would be the next least painful way.
I hate to say this, but your parents are probably already praying for a rain storm....
Pay for your own wedding.
2007-06-19 14:41:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋