My daughter is 24 now and has been dating this guy for two years and I believe he will soon propose to her. He's a white guy, tall, dark and handsome, etc, also well-spoken, and generally treats her well. However, he is an artist and doesn't make very much money, so I don't know if he'll be able to take care of her + kids they have.
One of my colleagues has a son who likes my daughter (they met at a company get-together a year ago.) He's a succesful jewish doctor, around 35 years of age, who already has his own practice.
She really loves her current boyfriend but the jewish guy would probably treat her better and also provide for a family.
How do I make her break up with her boyfriend and date my colleague's son?
2007-06-19 14:05:40 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why would u want your daughter to marry for money. Your a dumb *** dad.
2007-06-19 14:08:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
You might look into hypnosis, mind control, perhaps threatening her with familial banishment. Otherwise doing your best to show the boyfriend you despise in a negative light might work or not. Women have a tendency to like a guy more when their parents hate the guy.
On second though maybe you should just let your 24 year old daughter live her life and make her own choices. You can still lecture her about how the guy she loves cannot provide a stable future for the two of them or children they might have. I suspect if the guy is worth her time he will step up before he asks her to marry him and get a real job and keep his 'art' as a second job etc.
2007-06-19 14:11:52 · answer #2 · answered by John96 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter can marry whomever she wants. It's not a decision for you to make and she doesn't need your permission to marry him. Just because he doesn't make a lot of money, doesn't mean this guy won't be a great husband to her. I saw the rest of your questions, and they all seem the same. You're very focused on the things that don't matter in life: money, appearance, etc. And in your *kids'* lives. It's none of your business who they date/marry, and you should just lay off, leave them alone, and be happy that they are happy. And maybe you should lear to value people for who they are, not what they have or how they look. Being that shallow isn't healthy and you clearly have a major issue with yourself since you judge people so harshly, and tend to have an issue with controlling other people's lives. Sorry to come across as mean, but you should really think before you speak.
2007-06-21 09:08:09 · answer #3 · answered by -°¤§~Blue Eyed Sinner~§¤°- 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make your daughter forcefully break up with her boyfriend. If all the problem is that he doesn't make enough money, well that's no excuse. Your daughter has the right to marry and fall in love with anyone one she wants. You are to aprove of the guy, but you can't chose for her. You have to let her decide on her own. And if your daughter truley loves her curent boyfriend then she will make the best of her situation. As for the money problem, you never know, he might get a beter job or hit his big break and get rich. So you just have to trust your daughter and be ready for anything. Anything is posible as well change.
2007-06-19 14:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by lil mizz perfect!! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, as a mother you want your daughter taken care of financially...but what you're asking advice for is HORRIFIC. If she was dating a guy running from the law who can't have a job b/c then his felonies will show up, that's one thing. But b/c she loves a nice guy who's an artist and not a doctor, is NO reason to try and mischeviously make her fall for some rich guy. I feel SORRY for your daughter, b/c of YOU. You want her to marry a rich guy she doesn't love to live miserably, become manic depressive, and eventually divorce the dude and raise her kids as a single mother? Yeah good plan MOM.
2007-06-19 14:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be shallow. Your daughter is 24, old enough to make her own decisions about men and her future.
Money isn't everything in a relationship. Sure, it helps the couple out in situations down the road... but shouldn't you be happy that she would marry for love? No girl wants to be hooked up by her father anyway... awkward!!
Obviously, his bank account isn't a problem in her eyes, and it shouldn't be for you either. I would not even begin to express this to her. If it were my father, I would be so hurt and offended by him even thinking or suggesting such things. I understand, you just want her to be well provided for, but sometimes you just gotta leap into the unknown and see what happens. Don't attempt to end the relationship if she is happy in it! You could risk your relationship with your own daughter.
2007-06-19 14:12:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should interfere with true love. it's your daughters decision on who she marries, and wealth isnt the resource of Real hapiness.
i understand that you want your daughter to be sucessful and have a succesful marriage but you have to know that the way she feels is the most important thing..and if you're a loving good father you'll let her go even if you think what's best for her is different than that. :)
2007-06-19 14:09:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do that!!! If you daughter loves her boyfriend and wants to marry her let them to whatever the F%^#$ they want. She will hate for the rest of your life if she finds out that you did everything to make her brake up with the art guy.....in a few words: LEAVE HER ALONE.
2007-06-19 14:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by vania 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE IS GROWN AND I FEEL SHOULD MAKE HER OWN DECISIONS. I HAVE ALWAYS HEARD THAT IF YOU MARRY FOR MONEY, YOU EARN IT! IF THE OTHER GUY LOVES HER WHOLELY, THEN HE IS ALSO RICH IN THE HEART. THE DOCTOR MAY NOT TREAT HER WELL ANYWAY, WHO IS TO TELL? THERE IS NO GUARENTEE EITHER WAY, BUT I FEEL BEING POOR AND HAPPY IS A LOT BETTER THAN BEING RICH AND UNHAPPY. IN THE END, IT'S WHO IS GOING TO LOVE HER WHEN SHE'S OLD AND FADING AND VICE VERSA. WE TAKE NOTHING WITH US WHEN WE LEAVE HERE, BUT TO HAVE A LOVING MATE, HAPPY HEART AND JOY, IS ONE THING THAT WE CAN TAKE WITH US; IT CAN NEVER BE REPLACED.
2007-06-19 14:16:42 · answer #9 · answered by m21161 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
provide him with an alternate . get it ? dont be dumb let nature take its course because if you are right in your judgement it will prove out in the wash . be sure though that if you really cared anything about her and not your establishing of contacts , financial it sounds , then youd quit riding the broom on her and let the tall dark and handsome one , no not let , help , prove that he is worthy as im double sure he already has but your too pig headed to admit it . get out iof their lives , trust me youll lose what you love most .
2007-06-19 14:12:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cannot make her to marry a rich guy because is her choice and besides i think you are not really a good father. come on just make her choice
does your father did this to you too
or how do you feel you were the daughter and your daughter said you must married a rich guy
think about it for peek seak
2007-06-19 14:08:59 · answer #11 · answered by Syaoran Li 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋