A relative married quickly after finding she was pregnant the baby is now over a year old. They did have a baby shower for her. Now she longs for the large wedding reception she did not have. It has been two years since the couple married. They are renting a hall and planning a reception this fall. Is a gift appropriate? I find this tacky. What do you think?
2007-06-19 13:02:24 · 29 answers · asked by CRS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Pretty much buries the tack-o-meter needle. Nothing like a gift grab. LOL I suppose you should bring them something.
2007-06-19 17:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
This depends on the circumstances. My husband's cousin had one given to her and her husband a couple of months after the baby was born. In that case I say no because it wasn't their idea. As for your relative, did they register some where? If so it is kind of tacky to expect gifts 2 years after the fact. If this is just them having a reception because they want to share it with family and friends then no I don't think it is tacky. Don't feel pressured to bring a gift. If they have been married for 2 years they should have most of what they need for a home anyway. A nice card wishing them well should do just fine.
2007-06-19 21:02:54 · answer #2 · answered by skylo0406 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's a little over the top and too long between the marriage and now she will have a reception? It is tacky but that is her decision and if they want to make fools of themselves and be a laughing stock of family and friends then let them do it. What they should have done is give the baby a big birthday party and double it as a belated wedding reception all rolled into one.
2007-06-21 20:10:15 · answer #3 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know the etiquette involved in something like this, but I'd have to agree that it does seem tacky. Personally, were I in their shoes, I'd consider just having a gathering of family and friends to maybe celebrate the marriage, but I would not expect anyone to bring gifts and I certainly would not promote it as a wedding reception. Maybe that's just me, but I say do what you feel comfortable with.
2007-06-19 20:19:18 · answer #4 · answered by Brian M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is tacky. You didn't add if she is planning to register, then, it would be worse. It's no one's fault that there was a shotgun wedding and it should be considered just a party. I would just give a the couple a nice card and some flowers. I would imagine that they must have a complete household and do not need traditional wedding gifts. I just hope that your cousin is doing it for the right reasons and not just for the gifts.
2007-06-19 20:14:28 · answer #5 · answered by lynnguys 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also find this tacky. I don't think you need to give a gift in this situation. It's more of a party for the 2nd anniversary than a wedding reception. I probably wouldn't attend myself, but that's just me.
2007-06-20 10:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by tink 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would bring a gift anyway...regret is tough to live with, and it really is a small consession to make to someone...you'd have given her a gift is she had a traditional wedding, right? Personally, I think it would be better recieved if she had a reception type event for her 5th wedding anniversary with a vow renewal, but I'm obviously not planning the thing, so just bring her a token, and enjoy it as a party!
2007-06-19 20:47:39 · answer #7 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it is tacky but I think it is odd to have it that far out.
I could see it being done this far out if one of them were away in the military, but that doesn't look like the case.
I would get a card and not a gift. If you gave a gift when she got married, get a card. If you didn't get a gift, then either a card and/or a gift, whatever you feel like doing.
2007-06-20 09:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Extremly TACKY! Sounds like she wants a bunch of gifts. They could have just had a vow renewal or threw a big party. A wedding recetpion two years later is ridiculous!
2007-06-19 20:09:15 · answer #9 · answered by Mommy-of-Twins 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you-definitely tacky. Don't feel obligated to take
a gift. I would look at it as just another party. I sure hope
they aren't expecting people to bring them gifts after they've
already been married for two years.
2007-06-19 20:12:02 · answer #10 · answered by Ron M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that anyone that would have a reception just to get gifts is one thing. But if they want to do this to have a renewing of vowes and to have the opportunity to share thier love with all those they care about that should be celebrated. Let them have thier day. and if you feel so sorely about it, I wouldn't worry about a gift.. and just don't go.. I wouldn't want you to help me celebrate if you thought bad things about it. I think it's rude to go to any affair empty handed. Wine, dessert, gift card. It is tacky to go to any party with out a token of thanks that they thought enough about you to have you at thier affair.
2007-06-20 00:02:07 · answer #11 · answered by wonka wonka 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋