well he's okay with the just crushing part. the problem is that his brother talks to me complaing about his wife not performing her " married duty" and i guess my b/f told him about some of the sexual stuff we do ( i guess brothers talk like that ) and now the brother makes comments and acts really interested in me and its making it hard to have just a crush on him because me and my man are in a bit of a funk ourselves...what should i do???????
me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years and it's just recently that we started hanging around more with his brother.
2007-06-19 12:48:55 · 20 answers · asked by sweetcalif24 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the brother doesn't make the comments as often or seriously around my boyfriend
2007-06-19 12:50:01 · update #1
ok my b/f is ok with me having a crush whether its his brother or or a movie star...he saiys "its just a crush so no worries" and he and his brother are close...not nasty sick close but they are like best friends.
2007-06-19 12:58:57 · update #2
One thing you never ever do is touch his brother no matter how much you want to or cant seem to resist the attraction thats just wrong and pretty sick not judging you just saying in general. It seems that you like the attention you are or have been getting from the brother after 4 years in a relationship things seem to fade I know what its like I'm with my bf for over 3 years and he just doesn't show me much attention as he used to isn't as sweet and doesn't really try hard anymore because everything is established already between us if this sounds familiar then just know that its one thing to like the attention but its another to actually act on it. If something were to happen it would not only ruin your relationship but it might be like your coming between 2 brothers and you do not want that trust me
2007-06-19 12:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by bkgrl718 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The question you should ask yourself, Is your relationship with your honey mean anything?
Because once you ACT and do something with his brother will then things change for the worst. It's like having a friend and the you become friends w/benifits. Things change....
And the ONLY way things could happen between you and his brother is if his brother gets divorced. You don't want to be the cause of that!
And if you and your honey are having trouble, take some time apart. That way you know if it's meant to be with him....and if so ya will get back together.K
I hope this helps. And feel free to ask me anymore questions...
2007-06-19 12:57:19 · answer #2 · answered by Maria S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it, i mean its natural that your going to have something for his brother, i mean they are siblings after all they all came from the same place.
Dont go running for the hills on the first sign of trouble in a relationship, work it out and stuff and switching partners can only work if
A) You and your partner are very secure in your relationship
B) The other people are also secure
C) You understand its only sex, nothing more
The biggest problem with sex is by nature it creates bonds chemically as a sort of natural way to keep the dad around after the deed. So yeah its not worth the trouble most of the time.
2007-06-19 12:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well do yourself a favor. Take one or the other, you can't have both. Be smart instead of each of you going through a pile of crap. What's worse is the punchline will be nothing like you expected. Be honest with yourself and decide what you want and what they're intentions are. This is how things get really nasty...your boyfriend and his brother who is married. That's just going from bad to worse! Your boyfriends brother probably just wants a piece of you anyways. If you want to ruin everything then go ahead. Ask yourself why he got married to a deadbeat
2007-06-19 12:58:36 · answer #4 · answered by cj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.
This is a weird story fit for jerry srpinger but thats ok cause everyone has a jerry springer story to tell they just keep it to themselves. Just dont get in between a married couple you wouldnt like someone to do that to you in life you gota to know what wrong and whats right and just try to follow the logical rules of whats wrong and right. Id say stay far away from your boyfriends brother.
2007-06-19 12:57:27 · answer #5 · answered by Heart of glass 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay as far away from this man as possible. He is just trying to get in your pants. Where is his wife while he is doing all this flirting. Married men are hands off. They can always tell you the sad story about what the wife is not doing. Just watch how the act around each other, and you'll see that he is just telling lies. Be careful... your boyfriend could just be testing you.
2007-06-19 12:58:19 · answer #6 · answered by cat walk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun firstly let me say, why would you even find this other man attarctive dont you see how wrong this is!? he's MARRIED, if the guy really had problems with the sex in his marriage he would be talking it over with his wife or getting a divorce he wouldnt be telling you, secondly even if you did end up with this other guy just look at the way he treats women would you really like to be with a man that tells other women all of YOUR private problems in bed? seriously this is pretty messed up I dont even know why you would have feelings for such a pig of a man and as for your bf hes a fag too, no man that cares for would be OK
2007-06-19 12:54:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well to maybe calm the fire of your crush try spending more time with your boyfriend without his brother. Also maybe let your boyfriends brother know you don't want to hear about the sexual issue with his wife, so then you aren't thinking in your head "I could take care of that problem for ya"
2007-06-19 13:23:27 · answer #8 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but it sounds like your boyfriend and his brother are jerks. The married brother should talk to his wife about the problems they are having, not talk to his brother and then look over his own brother's girlfriend! If your boyfriend really cared about you, he would beat the crap out of his brother for being interested in you.
2007-06-19 12:55:04 · answer #9 · answered by Kyley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him. Your boyfriend's brother is married. Don't go and have an affair with him because he thinks you're cute and you have a crush on him. Stay with your current guy and distance yourself from his brother. The only way this will end is in tears if you don't back down.
2007-06-19 12:52:13 · answer #10 · answered by Lillian M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋