Its killing me :'( PLEASE HELP ALL YOU CAN!?

Question

3 months ago my ex broke up with me, we were together for almost a year, i love him so much i still do love him! Going through a break up is hard, and he started talking to this 20 year old girl who lives in canberra, he is also 20 and i am 16 although i am fairly mature for my age. He is head over heals for this new girl, he says he loves her with all his heart and thier love is true and she feels the same about him. Its killing me so much, one week he loved me the next he loves her, and there is not one thing i can do about it! He says he is madly in love with her personality and alot more. She is even moving up here in QLD to be with him :'( do you honestly think this relationship could work out, he did move on very quickly?? Can you find your true love at the age of 20?? Its just killing me because i love him soo much and i told him i would probly be the only girl who ever truely loved him for him he said it isn't true because his new girlfriend does.. Will they last? It hurts :'(

Answer 1

I think before anyone can know for sure what love is really like, is to date. People date a whole lot of people before really maturing emotionally and don't get to the real stuff until they are about 30 years old. You will fall in and out of love several times before the real thing, so, don't get so serious about things now. Look forward to lots of falling in love, and unfortunately, out of love too. It will take a while to get over the bad stuff, but that's just the way it goes. Believe me, you will get over it! Get out and meet new people, do new things (not drugs or alcohol), and you will forget you ever felt this way about a 'common' guy, really!! Good luck.

Answer 2

What makes you think you can't find true love at 20 but you can at 16? It is very quick for him to move on, but no one can say for sure if they'll last or not. Right now, you need to take care of yourself. Stop talking to him, no calls, ims, emails, any of it. Go hang out with friends, get involved with some hobbies and projects. Give yourself and chance to get over him. If he's willing to just leave you like that, he's not the one for you, and given some time, you'll realize that too.

Answer 3

I can relate IO have been there before.....does it last npo one can say that for sure. One thing for sure you will get over this and thispain will go away..I just cant tell you when. Detach yourself from him and if anyone speaks of him around you either leave the room or simply say I'm not interested and change the subject. Dont talk to your ex in anyway and pick some hobbies to involve your mind in....anything to takle him off your mind. In time you will look back and say "thank you for letting me go" cause you will have met the man of your dreams and learn what love really is. Remember that this pain will go away and you will move forward.....I'm sorry your feeling this way..

Answer 4

Well, you found your true love at age 16, why couldn't he find his true love at age 20? Well, one thing is for sure, that they won't last forever. I don't know how long they're gonna last, but it won't be forever. Let's see how long you'll last, and that won't be forever either, no matter how much you love him, you'll get over it eventually.
One other thing, jealousy is not love, so always remind yourself when you love a guy, If I feel jealous, then I don't love him.

Answer 5

First off I want to say, I'm VERY sorry. Second, all you can do is just try and show him how much you really do love him, more than some hussie he just met. But if that doesnt work, then he realize sooner or later how he really feels, because in a realationship, if someone says they love that person within a month or so, it aint true, he's just obsessed. Good luck, girl. :D

Answer 6

I dont think your ex knows what love is you cant fall in and out of love not that easy. I think you should just act very cool and wait to see what happens. He might just be saying things to make you jealous did you ever think about that? You sound as though your a very clever girl just be cool sit and wait and you never know he might be chasing after you again. Try not to worry.

Answer 7

Well if he's totally in love you can't do nothing about it but just move on with your life. You will find another guy soon. But with guys they can break up today and are back in love tomorrow so hey just sit back and wait if you must to see if it lasts or not. But if I was you I would try to forget him and move on. ANd when you start thinking of him just remember he broke up with you to be with another. So pick your head up and move on. Want to chat just Im me anytime.

Answer 8

They could last.
Don't hang on to something that isn't there anymore.
It sounds like you are very negative towards him and tell him it won't work because you want him to be with you. I'm sorry, but that's a really mean and selfish thing to do and I don't blame him for not wanting to be with you.
You and him broke up. End of story. Move on.
What he does isn't any of your business anymore. If it hurts so bad, stop talking to him.

Answer 9

Always know and remember that there is more to you than your physical body. This provides an instant perspective to any earth activity. The agony becomes more tolerable, the Ecstasy more profound. Accidents may happen, but you cannot fail. What you've had was the experience of being human. *The Ultimate Journey

Answer 10

He does not know the difference between love and attraction. If he got over you that fast, than he was never in love with you to begin with and why would he tell you about his girlfriend. Don't talk to this jerk anymore and move on. You will find your true love, believe me.