Would you dump someone if they gained 50 lbs while they were with you?

Question

And would you tell them that was the reason? (as if they didn't know)

Look, I'm not speaking from personal experience , so don't call me names, okay...

Answer 1

I would NOT dump someone that gained weight. I prefer a woman that is not a stick figure anyway.

Answer 2

Hmm, tough to say until you are in the situation.

It's probably different if a woman is 100 lbs. and 5'10" when you first met (and now weighs 150 lbs.), vs. a woman who is 200 lbs. and 5'2", and then gains 50 lbs. to now weigh 250 lbs.

Even if they were just a friend, I would be concerned about the sudden weight gain, and would encourage them to exercise, eat right, see a doctor, etc. If they are adamant about not taking basic care of themselves, then I would be curious if there aren't some deeper underlying issues that aren't being addressed. *Those issues* would be good reasons to end the relationship, and I would be honest with them about it.

However.... if the weight gain appears to be relatively normal, I probably would not dump them. It's normal to expect some changes to the other person's physical appearance as time goes on, and as long as the relationship works, why change?

Answer 3

If they gained 50 lbs they are obviously not into the same activities as me. 50 lbs is A LOT to gain... It would require some commitment to not staying in shape at all. If you had asked the same question with 10-15 lbs? No I wouldn't dump them if I loved them.

Answer 4

first of all, never ASSUME someone knows anything. if you are breaking off a relationship, the mature thing would be to tell the person the truth. lying or withholding the truth just shows you don't respect the person.

relationships are hard when people don't have the same values. tell the person how you feel about weight gaining and see if they will share why they are letting themselves go. maybe it's something that you all can work through together. maybe not. but it's always better to try to fix problems rather than just running away from them.

Answer 5

Yes. If my partner gained 50 lbs it shows that there is some trouble somewhere. Gaining 50 lbs, might show that she was unhappy with things and it would show that we couldn't communicate about our feelings. If such a situation existed I would talk with her, to find out if there was some tension, then I would brake the relationship, if I felt that I was in some way the cause of the weight gain.

Answer 6

No. What about all the good memories you have shared, the great conversation, and special friendship? Besides, everyone has features that look good. A lot of overweight people have a beautiful face, soft hair, etc.
I would try to encourage this person to live a healthier lifestyle, but not necesarily to lose weight. I would break up with a slender guy who eats potato chips in front of the tv all day because he is clogging up his arteries, but not a heavy guy who is active. It depends.

Answer 7

yes i would but not because of the 50 pounds. you should think about why they put on the pounds role for a movie or play, sports, health problem no need to end it,but stress say from someone he loves or about that cares more about the outside than the inside then they don't need you and you may as well end it before you give the man some health problems i don't mean to call you a bad person but no one puts on 50 pounds for no reason

Answer 8

I'm shallow, so yes, I would. I know the right answer is--'No! Looks shouldn't matter!'--but that's a bunch of bull sh**t. Physical attraction is a huge part of a relationship--if you just have a relationship with someone based on their personality, there will be no joy or fun when it comes to kissing, hugging, holding hands with [etc.] them. Mostly evrybody is a damn hypocrite if you ask me--mostly everybody whose just in a relationship, and isn't married to them would dump them in a heart beat, and even if they were married, they would probably grow disgusted by them. Mostly everybody is shallow--stop trying to make yourself feel better by saying you're not. Note that I said mostly--there are that select few who aren't that shallow, and I envy them with a passion.

Answer 9

Well first of all let me start out by saying, are you shallow person? and second of all, do you love this person?, Now the reason they have put on so much weigh is because they feel fine with being with you, are have decided to let themselves go alittle, instead of just breaking up with the person about them being over weight, explain to them that they need to lose weight because you care about them, and you dont want to dying at such a young age caused to stroke or heart attack, things consisted with being over weight, see what he says and does than, but if the weight still doesnt come off, I guess you have to decide wether or not you care for him enough to stay around, I hope this helps.

Answer 10

Absolutely not. Weight, nor over all looks, is a factor in a relationship to me. If I were with someone who did gain weight, the only way it would become a problem is if it was a health issue.