okay so im 19, still a virgin, and i have high standards for guys, and as a result im sexually frustrated and im tired of holding out! i honestly dont see sex as a big deal, but i do want my first time to be with someone i really truly care about and who i know feels the same about me, but im so frustrated and i really just want to do it already! so should i just be more realistic and date guys who dont completely fit my standards?
>my standards are: not cocky/conceided, good sense of humor, intelligent, dresses well(but not better than me), someone with charm and wit, ambition in life, cares/has interests about things other than drugs and parties.
i usually get the cocky guys with no ambition in life and care mostly about where theyre partying tonight.
2007-06-19 11:43:09 · 6 answers · asked by lana62727 3 in Travel ➔ Italy ➔ Bologna
At age 19 - good luck.
Most guys that age are just living for the day. Some may have ambitions, but few know what they are (and even less have any idea how to get there).
Most are looking for the next party and the next potential piece of tail.
Give it a few more years and things should even out. or, just date a guy in his early 20's that is beginning to out-grow the party stage of life.
You could drop your standards, but would that really make you happy? I wouldn't have sex, just to have sex - it will ruin it for you.
2007-06-19 11:49:03 · answer #1 · answered by aa889d 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problems is meeting the right guy. If you have sex for the sake of having sex I can guarantee you won't enjoy it. If the pheromones aren't there, sex is unsatisfactory, especially the first time. So please, don't lower your standards. Take a course in your local college (an evening course), join a club or a group, attend community events. He has to be out there somewhere. I know it seems frustrating to you, but you have many decades ahead of you. If you lower your standards, you won't be happy. Be patient and proactive. Don't look in bars, try the library instead.
2007-06-19 18:49:32 · answer #2 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you are not looking in the right places for the person you want to be with. Do not lower your standards.
The kind of person you described is available. You have to find him.
It is alway wise to avoid the losers you described.
Good luck.
2007-06-19 18:48:20 · answer #3 · answered by ken erestu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep looking. Lowering your standards just to be with some empty-headed moron just isn't worth it. You're worth more.
2007-06-19 18:50:51 · answer #4 · answered by Charlie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER lower your standards! Lift high your standards, and wait for the right one to come along, to achieve them!
2007-06-19 18:49:00 · answer #5 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, you will find him.. unless you are dating someone now? :( lol
2007-06-19 18:49:48 · answer #6 · answered by Danny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋