i don't get mad cuz she asks me to help her w/ cooking or any other 'girly' job i get mad cuz she asks me cuz i'm a girl...she even finally admitted today tht i shud know how to cook cuz i'm a girl.....my brother can sit on his *** and play his video games but i have to be the one helping my mom....and i tell her tht she's giving sexist jobs but she just get mad and turns it in2 a fight and starts yelling at me(which makes me feel stupid/embarassed!!!)...........and she just pushed me (not hard lightly).................some ppl just shudn't have been parents
what do i do?
2007-06-19 11:35:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
and everytime i get yelled at my bro starts lecturing me but then if i do it to him i get in trouble....and he's younger than me
2007-06-19 11:36:15 · update #1
teenagers! sorry sweety- moms can be real pains.
2007-06-25 00:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your mum isnt sexist she just wants you to be good at lots of things and if you learn all the "girly" stuff then its out of the way before you start on your career and doing what you want to do. Ask her if you can do some of the "male" jobs as well. This then shows your little brother up as well and makes him look like a lazy little brat.
Talk to mum (at a time when it is just you two and you arent arguing) about how you feel.
As for your brother - ignore him!! I am sure little brothers were put on this planet simply to be a total pain in the butt!!!
Being a women is great if you can be totally independent. Then when you get into a relationship it isnt because you need someone to do all the jobs you cant do!! :-)
Mums always want their daughters to learn how to run the house because men just cant do it!! The place would fall down around their ears if it was left up to them.
Its also really hard being mum to a daughter because you want to teach them so much including how to be independent and strong. Unfortunately girls have a really hard time growing up between 14 and 18 - think it has to do with hormones and all the changes we face.
Just dont be too hard on your mum okay - she loves you and wants to do the best by you.
2007-06-24 23:59:02 · answer #2 · answered by petal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You happen to have a mother that belongs to the "old school." It is unfortunate that you have to deal with her and your brother. I guess you want to ask what you can do under such sad living conditions. Put up with your mother until you are old enough to be on your own. In a way, this is a good incentive for you to strive and work hard so you will be able to get out of your parents' house as soon as possible.
2007-06-25 09:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by Belen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you move out you never have to worry about these problems again, but you will be grateful that you can cook and take care of yourself. your brother will depend on Mama his whole life until some unfortunate girl takes over Mum's job and starts being his surrogate.
Wait until you are older and out of the house, then look back and realize you got the better deal.
2007-06-27 08:57:53 · answer #4 · answered by † Seeker of Truth † 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happens to me. My stepdad always does that, and at first I thought it was sexist. Then I asked him why he always gave the jobs and I accused him of being sexist. He said, "I'm not sexist, you're just older and I want things to be done right." He said, "When your sisters are old enough, I'll make them clean like you do."
So maybe that's your mom's reasoning.
Good luck.
2007-06-26 12:06:20 · answer #5 · answered by Jordyn C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your brother should do just as much as you do. i think the issue isnt that you have to help out...but that your brother doesnt. this is totaly unfair. tell her that he'l be sat on his **** round her house for many years to come because if she doesnt teach him to respect women in the 21st century, no woman will ever want to be with him. see if this is what she really wants?!make sure she knows your not just picking for a fight, but that you seriously feel hurt and used just because you are a girl.
2007-06-19 11:48:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should help around the house; so should your brother. It is sexist if only you have to help because you are a girl.
2007-06-19 12:09:56 · answer #7 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should talk to her but I know that you have a hard job ahead of you....I think that you can point out ....that girls do drive cars when once they didn't , or become professionals and work outside the home ....therefore ....but you have a difficult ahead of you....
2007-06-26 10:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by frieda l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just going through sibling rivalry and general probs with the parents... it's part of growing up. This, too, shall pass.
2007-06-27 07:55:25 · answer #9 · answered by tooblessed2doubt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur mum is just preparing u for the real world maybe she is just coming out wrong ur brother also should do those things one thing i do agree with u some ppl should not be parents
2007-06-27 09:58:25 · answer #10 · answered by 2sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's just trying to bond with you? Learning how to cook itsn't such a bad thing. Stop overreacting and let your mom reach out to you.
2007-06-19 12:26:52 · answer #11 · answered by fixing_uh_hole 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋