ok i met this guy right and we started talking...he had told me that he's a born again Christian..ok fine..just as long as you are a Christian, i dont mind. we're geting close, but one huge problem, he is suddenly preaching to me saying that i'm in the wrong path and blah blah blah. i'm Roman Catholic, that's why he's saying that...he tells me that i need to find that right path for us to be together so of course i showed him the path to the door!...now he wants to be friends, but should i? this guy claims to be a Christian but he judges me by saying i'm in the wrong path which is not true, he's jsut saying that cause of my religion! that's not christian like!!!
2007-06-19
10:48:04
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who is he to judge me??? i have never done anything illegal and so on and also i try my hardest to follow Jesus...so cause i'm a Roman Catholic i'm doing something wrong?? he was in jail!!!!
2007-06-19
10:54:30 ·
update #1
Pew Potatoes, are you insinuating that i beleive in other gods??? another judgement cause i'm a Roman Catholic...thank you for opening my eyes tho the tolerance of born agains!!
2007-06-19
11:21:23 ·
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sigh...
That whole "born again" thing causes more harm than good. I know more couples broken up by Billy Graham. How can that be of God?
I'm so sorry you had to deal with that.
If you want to be "just friends" with him then you'll probably have to arm yourself. Learn a lot about your faith so you can refute his accusations.
Add to that that most men dislike strong minded women. So if you're able to refute his accusations (as it pertains to the church) then he'll probably lose interest very quickly.
God bless you.
Edit: Geezah makes an excellent argument for NOT staying friends.
Banana, Pay attention! SHE called it off.
2007-06-19 10:51:07
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answered by Max Marie, OFS 7
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Whenever single Christians collect, you can be sure someone will ask about "the rules" for dating or courtship. The problem is that the Bible doesn't hand us any rules for these kinds of relationships. The Bible talks about spouses, families, friends, co-workers, enemies, masters, bondservants, and the betrothed, among other relationships. There's nothing about boyfriends, girlfriends, significant others or "special friends." That undefined intimacy is a modern invention. The Bible simply addresses the unmarried, the betrothed, the married, and the widowed. But there is one rule that is very clear for everyone: The Lord's people are not to marry those who worship other gods (2 Corinthians 6:14). From the warnings against intermarriage in the Old Testament to the 1 Corinthians 7:39 injunction for widows to remarry only in the Lord, the Bible stipulates that those who worship the Lord should only marry those of the same belief.
Okay, but some would say dating is not the same thing as marrying. On the surface, this is true but it's a facile argument. Even dating is not comparable when two different belief systems are involved. One cannot assume that nonbelievers have the same goals in romantic relationships as believers. The biblical mandate for sexual fidelity within marriage and chastity for the unmarried is a foreign system for nonbelievers. It's not the norm to reserve sex for marriage. It's not even the norm to get married. So for a believer to date an unbeliever is to try to find an intersection between two widely diverging practices and lifestyles. It is rarely attempted without serious compromise in important areas such as sexual purity, accountability, confession of sin, and fellowship in the local church.
2007-06-19 18:14:32
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answered by Anonymous
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Forget it.
Fundamentalist Protestants do not believe (and say so loudly at every opportunity) that Catholics are even Christians anymore.
That's why he is saying you are on the wrong path. He believes, because he has been wrongly taught this by his church, that you pray to Mary and the Saints instead of to God, and that Catholics make Mary the Co-Creator with God, so you're an idolator and a pagan.
I know, it's total nonsense, but this is what you're going to find among these guys. So beware of that for future relationships, and get rid of this one. It won't change.
2007-06-19 17:53:40
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answered by Anonymous
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If he honestly believes that you are doing an incredible wrong thing and that bad things will happen to you unless you convert to his religion, then you were right to show him to the door.
As for being "friends", I personally don't see why you'd want to be friends with somebody like that. I have friends of different religions, but religion simply isn't an issue for us. In fact it rarely comes up in conversation, despite how devout some of us are.
2007-06-19 17:51:43
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answered by Anonymous
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Just a thought... what if he is right? He is sure that he is and there has to be some reason for it... from what you described he is not a bible thumping TV evangelist... just a normal guy, but one with a very specific belief. Maybe you should try and understand why he feels so strongly. I think it'd be a very helpful exercise to learn about his faith, not because you plan on switching, but becaue you can learn what makes him feel that way... in the end it could be a friendship that helps you better understand your own spirituality.
Just my 2 cents.
Dan
2007-06-19 19:16:45
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answered by Dan M 5
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Criticizing (or warning) people that they are on the wrong spiritual path is exactly what Christianity is about, at least in part.
Isn't that what Jesus did everyday?
Are you on the wrong path?
What does the Bible say?
That's what's important - not what some guy says, or some priest says - it's what God says that's important.
And don't just let other people 'tell' you what it says - make them 'show' you what it says.
But seriously, one last piece of advice - pray for the guidance you need.
2007-06-19 18:08:22
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answered by farwallronny 6
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Well maybe he's wrong, may he's right, here's what you can do. Read the Bible and see if the roman catholic church does as it is written or differently, then you'll know if you're in the right path...
you can read this (when God told me where he was and wasn't in man religion)
http://www.geocities.com/monfille/Testimony.htm
If you have questions, I'm here monfille@yahoo.com
2007-06-19 18:02:49
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answered by monfille 3
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I love your 4 last lines at the end. Well thats how they r (actually i do believe in God) critical, negative and very much worldly. If u value him as a friend then talk 2 him
2007-06-19 18:00:57
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answered by Anonymous
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It sounds as though you have a pretty good idea of what to do.
Don't compromise yourself. You can be open to hearing what he has to say and to learning about his religion so that you can respect his belief system, but you shouldn't give up your beliefs just to please him.
Catholics are Christians. You guys have a common God, but different paths you travel on in order to serve Him.
2007-06-19 17:53:11
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answered by aminah 4
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He should have explained to you his convictions from the Bible. How can he condemn something you are believing if he can't explain what he believes. He should have used a different approach. One day he will see his mistake. Just do the Christian thing and forgive him.
2007-06-19 17:52:57
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answered by Roxie J Squared 3
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