Particularly if you have children. He does have a right to know anyone who is going to be around the children,I suppose. But couldn't it cause a flare-up of jealousy? I haven't introduced them - although I think they would be civil - because I think it could bring complications in the long run. Maybe - plus,isn't it inevitable? My ex comes for the kids every other day; he's bound to meet my boyfriend eventually anyway. So,should I plan an appropriate situation? Or let things take their course? Opinions?
2007-06-19 10:42:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is bound to meet the guy eventually, why not go ahead, especially if kids are involved, if you go ahead and arrange a meeting, say not at the house but some neutral area, then everyone will be comfortable and maybe get along...when you get remarried he not only marries you but your ex husband....
2007-06-19 10:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by LV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend has already met ypur children than it's a pretty good guess that your ex know Mommy has a new boyfriend. If it is serious and he is spending time with your kids than yes your husband should know about him. I would tell your husband you are dating and he will be around the kids, then let your ex- decide if he feels the need for a formal introduction.
2007-06-19 10:51:43 · answer #2 · answered by jshuggie23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to let the meet if your boyfriend is an active part in the kids lives. That way he is has a face to put with a name when your kids are telling him things about "moms boyfriend"! And it gives him a comfort level about who is around his children.
2007-06-19 10:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by katybeth212001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not set it up. Wait until they meet. When your ex-husband comes to get the children he will meet him. If you plan for it then your boyfriend may think you want your ex's opinions. Which may cause unneeded jealousy. Good luck!
2007-06-19 10:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...let them meet each other maya...a man deserves to know the other guy who's influencing his children in your new relationship anyways...dontcha think? Keep them away from each other during social events though darling...cause sometimes us guys can upset the apple cart of another guy by telling little lye's and secrets...just like some of you women do occasionally...wouldn't you believe? (I'm gonna get hurt for this one this time...I just know it!)
2007-06-19 10:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you are going to involve some guy in His childrens' life than he has every right in the world
2007-06-19 10:45:42 · answer #6 · answered by Greg 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they will have to meet because of the kids, if the relationship is serious enough for him to be around the kids,then meeting their father is inevitable
2007-06-19 10:50:27 · answer #7 · answered by Jazz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should not be.
But accept the reality in life circle around.You can't control all elements yours.
how could you control others.
Be honest and faithful to yourself.
face the reality Its harsh but won't creat any problem for future.
2007-06-19 10:50:32 · answer #8 · answered by salim a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats why hes an "EX". Ex's should NEVER get jealous. I dont think it would do any harm. Like I said, hes an Ex. At least hes there for your kids.
2007-06-19 10:47:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
take action for urself cuz yah ur right something will spark and possibly cause something that wouldnt happen if u just introduced the two...
2007-06-19 10:46:06 · answer #10 · answered by RevivingPhoenix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋