Just so some Atheists know a person is allowed to re-marry?

Question

When they loose a spouse in death. (As in my case)
How does that ruin marriage?
Boys need good men and girls need good women to have a healthy view of life and people which both sexes make to children. People need to GET OFF there high horses that being married is just some fly by night union, and if a day comes that we call a homosexual union a Marraige that is the day we should enact a law that says ONLY people who plan to get together and have babies can be married ALL others can have legal contracts and if that means me so be it, because ALL CHILDREN have a right to a Mother and Father. Most of us did right?.

Answer 1

It's hard to respond to such an incoherent set of ramblings, and I'm not going to try. Instead, I want to suggest as kindly as I can that you learn to write more clearly. Specifically:

1. Make sure all of your sentences are complete and correct, including spelling. Remember that spellchecks do not weed out synonyms: "there high horses," for example, should be "their high horses." Avoid slang when you can.

2. After you've finished your first draft, edit and revise several times until your paragraphs are a perfect expression of your ideas.

3. The best essays (which is what you are writing here) begin and end with strong declarative sentences.

I would strongly suggest that you read White & Strunks "Elements of Style" and/or William K. Zinsser's "On Writing Well." "Elements of Style" is a very slim volume and is well within most peoples reading ability. With a little study and practice, you can learn to write well enough to become a powerful presence in any forum.

Answer 2

That's why they say "until death do us part." Some people may not like this, but marriage was not meant for eternity. It's only an earthly foreshadowing of our perfect union with God in heaven. So if your spouse dies, then I think re-marrying is a good idea if that's what you feel called to do. Otherwise it is prohibited in the true form of Christianity, and cannot be justified.

"Homosexual marriage" would be an attack on marriage, mostly because it cheapens the idea of what marriage was meant to be. If that happens it will become psychologically easier to get divorced. Whenever the law of "no-cause" divorces was enacted, the divorce rate sky-rocketed. Enacting "homosexual marriages" would have a similiar affect. And most psychologists agree that divorce is not a good idea. Many people would turn to divorce instead of working through their problems. They then bring those same problems to their next marriage, and statistics show that second marriages are twice as likely to end in divorce. Also, the fact is that the elements necessary for an act of love, are not present in a homosexual union. Homosexuality can basically be classified as another form of lust, just like any sex act outside of the bonds of marriage.

I will say, however, that marriage should be "open" to procreation. In other words, contraception, abortion, etc... is prohibited. But I would not necessarily say that is the purpose. There are couples who cannot have children of their own who can adopt. And that is perfectly within God's will as long as they are not sterilizing the sex act.

Answer 3

"Boys need good men and girls need good women to have a healthy view of life and people which both sexes make to children."

So, if one parent dies, then the kids should be removed so they aren't brought up in a home without both a mother and father figure?

"that is the day we should enact a law that says ONLY people who plan to get together and have babies can be married"

What about people who medically can't have children. Or who have decided to stay celibate?

You need to think through your arguments more.

Answer 4

The point is that Christians say that homosexual marriage is a danger to the institution of marriage. It's not, of course, but that's what they like to pretend. We don't think marriage is a fly by night' union, we simply say that it is no MORE than a union of two people who love each other and want to be together. It is NOT neccessary for a child to have both genders as parents. It just isn't. It's nice when it happens, but it's neither neccessary nor does it insure a happy, healthy child. Marriage is also not neccessary in order to have children, apparently. Again, it's nice when the parents are married, but it's not neccessary and it certainly isn't a 'right'.

Answer 5

Yeah, most of us had a mother and a father. And a lot of us had fathers who left us with nothing. Tell my dad about the "sanctity of marriage", okay? Don't you even go there.

There is nothing in the bible that says you are allowed to remarry. Not even when it's a death thing.

Children need strong adults, with strong beliefs, to guide them in life. Why does it matter if it's two women, two men, one man, one woman, or a man and a woman? Oh, and I guess you better start popping out the kids then, since you say we need a law governing whether people who get married can have kids. But please don't. We don't need more twisted, intolerant people on the planet. We have enough now.

Answer 6

Actually my father was abusive and violent so I asked my mother to divorce him when I was 10 years old. She did, and probably saved all our lives.

You know, some people marry not realizing they can't have children, and some marry not intending to have children but change their minds. I don't think YOU have any business deciding what other people's relationships ought to be called. Mind your own beeswax.

Answer 7

Sometimes we need to work with what we have and make the best of it. If two gay men want to adopt an abandoned crack baby and give him a loving home, how is that wrong?
Sounds like you are the one on the high horse.

Answer 8

A lot of gay couples who have been togther for 20+ years might REALLY disagree with that fly by night thing. I think the fact that you give **** about what people call marriage shows you need more in your life to worry about. You ask the question why people are so hung up on it? Why not? You sure are.

Answer 9

I just think that it is funny that Christians have a higher divorce rate. I certainly support getting remarried in the case of a death. I just hate the fact that so many kids get their young lives messed up with divorce.

By your logic, an older couple should never be able to marry.

Answer 10

Yes I did and I agree with you.
The bible defines marriage as being between a Man and a Woman only. One of the purposes for marriage is procreation.