2007-06-19 09:57:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I guess it depends on why you dont want to do it. But I would figure out what your reason is and be honest about it. You are busy with a new job, its too big of an expense, the timing is bad, you dont feel like you would be the best man for the job, etc...but remind him that you support him and would love be there for him just not in that capacity.
2007-06-19 10:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Is there a reason why you don't want to be best man? A friend of mine was recently asked to be best man and said no - reason was that he just wouldn't ask the other guy to be his best man, so felt it wasn't appropriate to be the best man in this wedding. However, he has now completely been cut from the other guy's life and is not even getting a regular invite to the wedding. So, if your friend is petty in any way, just be aware that you may lose a friend over it. (This guy has cut people out of his life/wedding for very silly reasons.)
Anyway... perhaps tell him that you are just too busy and can't afford the expenses/duties that the best man title carries. Do you want to be involved in any way and not just as best man? If yes, maybe say you'd love to be an usher or a groom's man.
2007-06-20 10:36:42 · answer #2 · answered by tink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call him and say you are sorry but you cannot be the best man and you hope he will understand. If he says why not then give some of those excuses the others wrote here in their answers. OR Just say you arent good at that sort of thing but you will always be a good friend to him. Get it over with so he can move on with his plans. If he is mad then you dont want him as a friend since good friends would understand
2007-06-19 17:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh buck up!
A friend of mine asked me to be his best man and I didn't know how to get started. I went to the library and the book store and checked out/purchased a couple of books on the subject and next thing you know, I was an expert.
There is nothing to be nervous about. Weddings happen everyday.
Besides, it is an honor that your friend entrusted you with this position. Don't let him down.
2007-06-19 17:09:41 · answer #4 · answered by surffsav 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he has you to be best man you must have a good friendship so he should understand your reasons. Make sure to give him an honest reason though and dont just say you dont want to. If it is because of finances he may be able to help you. If it is because you're not sure what to do, you have minimal responsibilities and posting the question here will get you lots of answers as what to expect. No matter what your reason, to you it is valid, just respect him enough to be honest.
2007-06-19 17:52:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you don't want to be the best man. but why don't you want to be? is it because of financial or is it too much responsibility? This is your best friend so you have to give him a good reason.
2007-06-19 17:08:14 · answer #6 · answered by Ethan's Mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder why? Don't you like him? He considers you to be his best friend. I would think you'd be honored by that. But, if that's how you feel, then I guess you need to say, I'm honored, but I think it might be better for you to ask someone else.
2007-06-23 14:34:59 · answer #7 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's simply because you don't know how, that is easily remedied at the bookstore or library. Somehow I don't think that's it. Is it because you disapprove of his choice of a bride and don't want to be a hypocrite so feel uncomfortable?
2007-06-19 17:19:56 · answer #8 · answered by D 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just honestly and straight out, but politely. Thank him for thinking of you for the honour.
2007-06-19 17:08:25 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Want? I'd suggest you rethink that if you value the friendship. Otherwise I'll guarantee you'll never see him again.
2007-06-20 00:43:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋