Should I try and get him back, or give up and act like I can handle not having him in my life anymore?

Question

Me and this guy were completely in love for about a year, we had known eachother for 4 years before that and liked eachother the whole time but we never dated.. everything started gettin complicated, and we started having a lot of minor arguments... then he had an accident with his head, and started getting more and more stressed out about things. He finally told me he couldnt handle the stress anymore, so we ended us. He was somewhat friends with his bestfriends cousin, but they just talked on the computer, I had talked to her a few times too along with him. After me and him ended us, he said he liked her, and they started dating. Shes 15, he's 19 turning 20.. and im 17. Now Im really starting to miss him and I want him back in my life. He even got a tatty that involved me.. on his arm. I was the first girl he ever said "I love you" too. I still love him more than ever. His bestfriend... also my friend.. said hes only dating her to make me jelous, and that he still loves meandmiss'sme

Answer 1

Don’t do it. At least not right away. The kindest, most loving thing you can do for yourself – and for your departed lover – is to allow time to do its work. Nothing about your emotions or your intellect, which have suddenly swapped places in the front seat of your existence, is operating on all cylinders. Reason, pride, patience, forgiveness… all are foreign concepts when your heart has been shredded and flushed.

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Answer 2

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Answer 3

You CAN handle not having him in your life anymore. He's moved on, so it is time for you to move on, too. Honestly, considering how he treated you and the fact that he is 20 and dating a 15-year old doesn't seem to indicate that he was a very good catch anyway. You can do better. Don't talk to him anymore. Avoid him. Avoid her. Keep yourself busy. Hang out with your friends. Have some fun. Exercise. Volunteer or join a club. Do something with yourself! Then give it some time and you'll get over it. When you are ready, you can find someone better. Listen, I know it hurts, but the truth is that you are NOT the first person this has happened to. Just about everyone goes through this once in awhile. You can be brave and get on with your life, or you can let it bowl you over. It's your choice. If you can't handle it, then you might want to discuss it with your doctor. Good luck!

Answer 4

Walk away or better yet run. Any guy who date's that young is a punk don't sweat him you are so young don't waste it. I am going to tell you that you will not miss him in 3 months I promise he will actually come running back but do not take it he is usuing you a touchstone. Do you want to be a star in your own life or just a stand by. Break free work out eat right take some lessons doing something get out and meet men, women, friends, be somebody and do something travel see things live now while you can and be thankful everyday that you are not married to a punk wimp like that..

Answer 5

Depends if you really think he loves you. If he loves you try to get him back and never stop, just try various methods so as not to be a stalker.

Answer 6

forget this guy, he sounds too complicated for such a young man. you never even dated? after a year? is he gay?

Answer 7

Let them go on dating. Then if they break up ask hime if he wants to be your bf again.

Answer 8

get him back or you will be thinking about him all the time and if you wait too late you wouldn't be able to get with him because he would be taken.