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Ok so I've been with my boyfriend for 1 1/2 yrs. We now live together, we are basically married, just not legally, that kind of a relationship...
For some reason, he had no trust towards me, he accusses me of cheating with EVERYONE, males, females and vegatables!! seriously!
He tells me that he WANTS to trust me but he has a "stong gut feeling" that tells him that I am being unfaithful or hiding something.
We have great communication so we always talk it out but he always ends up accussing me of cheating.
I would like to know if anyone has experienced this, male or female. Any advice????????
2007-06-19 09:51:02 · 12 answers · asked by Crzy Virgo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he's accusing you for no apparent reason, then it may well be that HE is cheating and is trying to cover for himself.
If he's REALLY that insecure, then you may want to move on. Without trust, your relationship is missing a large chunk of its necessary foundation.
2007-06-19 09:56:09 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him that if he can't learn to trust you and back off the accusations that the relationship is over. He is trying to put you in a box and the more he does it the more you'll resent him for doing it. Don't waste too much time on it. 1 1/2 years may seem like a long relationship, but nothing compared to how long the next 1 1/2 will feel if this doesn't stop.
2007-06-19 17:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by Terrance 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it funny cuz not even once have u mention that u havent cheated on him
have u ???
well obviously he has a trust issue either u cause it or he was hurt in the past u need to talk things out with him and tell himu love him and that he needs to trust
ask him what will it take for him to trust u
many people suffer from insecurities due to there own experiences
2007-06-19 16:58:45 · answer #3 · answered by simple J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not good cause in order for a relationship to work you have to have that trust. tell him how much him not trusting you is effecting your relationship and tell him what you can do to make him believe that you are being faithful. or maybe he keeps saying that you are cause he is the one that's cheating, who knows just be careful. but the accusing needs to stop cause that is not helping the relationship. hope this helps, good luck.
2007-06-19 16:59:04 · answer #4 · answered by Adina B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It usually is that when one person in a relationship starts to accuse the other of unfaithfulness (without any reason) it is either that they want to get out of the relationship, or that they themselves are cheating.
2007-06-19 16:55:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look out!
This is one of the biggest signs that HE is cheating on YOU!!!
The guilty person (your b/f in this case) is unable to handle the guilt of having an affair - so he transfers it ALL over to you... Gee, thanks ;);)
His "strong gut feeling" is his gut telling him that cheating is wrong - HIS cheating, that is!
Try to find out what he does in his time apart from you - but DON'T get caught doing so unless you want all hell to break loose... Build up a case, and confront him once you have some hard proof!
2007-06-19 17:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure why you moved in with him if you knew he had these insecurities...time to get into couples counseling if you want your relationship to work...so he can wok on his past issues that lead him not to trust people, and you can learn ways of dealing and helping him learn to trust.
2007-06-19 16:56:34 · answer #7 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he has low self esteem. A good psychologist could help.
2007-06-19 16:55:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience.. people do that when they are guilty,, they feel like well I am doing it so she has to be doing the same thing. Be careful.
2007-06-19 17:02:39 · answer #9 · answered by DON'T ARGUE W/ FOOLS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
might as well go ahead and cheat if you're being accused anyway. email me.
2007-06-19 16:54:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋