If I am unable to attend a wedding, do I send back the RSVP? There is no space to check for unable to attend only for number of people attending.
2007-06-19 09:35:21 · 23 answers · asked by bornagainbrat 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It would be polite to respond and inform the people that sent the invite that you will not be able to make it. However, etiquette does not require that you do so.
Hope this helps...
2007-06-19 09:40:14 · answer #1 · answered by Simple Man Of God 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
R.S.V.P. stands for a French phrase, "répondez, s'il vous plaît," which means "please reply." The person sending the invitation would like you to tell him or her whether you accept or decline the invitation. That is, will you be coming to the event or not? Etiquette rules followed in most Western cultures require that if you receive a formal, written invitation, you should reply promptly, perhaps that same day. For hosts who are planning a dinner party, a wedding or a reception, this is important from a practical point of view, because they need to know how many people to count on and how much food and drink to buy. More important, though, is the simple courtesy of responding to someone who was nice enough to invite you, even if it is to say that you regret that you will not be able to attend.
Many wedding invitations come with a response card that you can mail back right away. Other written invitations will carry the host's telephone number so you can call with your reply, although under strict etiquette rules, a written invitation requires a written reply.
2007-06-19 16:42:31 · answer #2 · answered by Charley 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, some invitations (rsvp's) are worded as such and is very confusing to the recipient, but yes you need to RSVP. Simply note on the line where it asks how many attending, a "0" that is indication that you are not attending. It is not being rude, it is being thougthful and precise.
2007-06-19 18:28:13 · answer #3 · answered by Red 4 Green 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there's a number, call and say your not coming, but I'm sure you checked. In the case that there is no number, most people know that if there is no return, the invited cannot attend the gathering. Or better yet, if it's not too late, write a later to them and say you can't come, trust me they will appreciate not having to stress over the question of chicken or fish for you.
2007-06-23 02:37:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, for goodness sake send it back...otherwise the poor bride who has enough on her plate already ends up having to call u and ask if you're attending...which makes her sound rude for basically pointing out that you're rude for not sending it back. And for future reference, if there's no box for "unable to attend" u write zero in the number attending!
2007-06-19 19:55:33 · answer #5 · answered by elk571 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try sending a short note briefly but politely apologizing for being unable to attend.
2007-06-19 16:55:30 · answer #6 · answered by Catherine 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you may then write I regret I am unable to attend. That is a weird RSVP card you describe
2007-06-19 20:07:51 · answer #7 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Then strike off the number of people attending and add a zero .
2007-06-20 11:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
send a note and decline; you can even write in on the back side of the RSVP (slightly tacky, but passable) at least they will n\know you are not attending and can plan accordingly
2007-06-19 16:58:27 · answer #9 · answered by georgiagrits1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even if the card only has space for a positive response, I would still send a note, or at least call or e-mail that you can't come. It is not mandatory, but it is very nice.
2007-06-19 17:53:17 · answer #10 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
send it back just put 0 on the number of people attending
2007-06-19 16:41:51 · answer #11 · answered by Me 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋