Whenever I am out with a dude or a group of people I can never engage in a actual conversation. I have always been quiet (i'm 25) I don't know what's wrong. Please help.
2007-06-19 09:25:49 · 9 answers · asked by ms_sexy_thang05 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You're shy. What you need to do is find a group of people who like to talk about things you're passionate about. It's much easier to jump into conversation if the conversation really interests you and you have things to say. Once you get this down, you can expand into subjects you don't care so much about. I used to be REALLY shy until I learned to take a chance and ask questions about what people are talking about. People LOVE to talk more about whatever it is they're already talking about, so you get to fire off a one line question and then sit back to listen to the answer while looking interested. Even though you're not saying much, you're now a direct part of the conversation instead of a bystander. Good news for you, with a little effort, practice, and age (the older you get, the easier it is), you can definitely get over feeling and being boring. It took me some time, but now I can pretty much walk up to a group of strangers and jump in and have a great time no matter what we (not "they") end up talking about.
2007-06-19 09:54:24 · answer #1 · answered by Dose of Reality 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being quiet. If you don't feel like saying something, then don't.
If a lack of conversation skill concerns you, then take some speech or debate classes at a university. You will eventually get used to speaking in front of people.
Failing that, the next time you go out make sure that you are the one who starts conversations, which can be over anything at all...the food...a movie...some beautiful woman you saw at the mall...anything.
2007-06-19 09:33:08 · answer #2 · answered by Mathsorcerer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Elizabeth is an idiot. You are not boring, you're just shy. Maybe you feel like you have nothing to contribute or say? My grandma is painfully shy, but she recently has gotten better by telling stories that have to do with the current conversation. Whenever a topic comes up that you know about or enjoy, or if it reminds you of something, jump in. Or even ask others questions about themselves. Everyone loves to talk about themselves.
2007-06-19 09:53:36 · answer #3 · answered by Angie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the plunge and actually START a conversation for a change.
Watch something to get aware of an INTERESTING current event, bring it up the next time you're hanging out and there's a lull in the conversation.
"Did you guys hear about the pregnant woman that's missing...she's almost due to deliver...do you think it's another Laci Peterson case...her bofriend is a cop?"
"If we did the same stuff as Paris, do you think we would have to go to jail?"
'What do you think of group sex?" (That's just to make sure they are listening! LOL)
Take off the training wheels...life is too short, jump on in!
2007-06-19 09:34:22 · answer #4 · answered by JohnnySmoke 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people are boring because they don´t know when to shut up. So probably they don´t get you or thing that you are mysterious.
Read more, watch more movies, that way you can share interests with more people and maybe have something to talk about.
Maybe you are the one bored with dude or group of people...
2007-06-19 09:31:57 · answer #5 · answered by Oh_cielos 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you are not boring, maybe just a little shy.
You could try just talking to one person at a time to get yourself going. It is a lot easier for me to talk to a person one on one than to talk to a large group of people.
2007-06-19 09:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by Selina Kyle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should pretend as if this person is your friend and these people are your buddies that way you can talk about the funniest and craziest things and they will laugh you will laugh and you will feel comfortable. thats what i do.
when i had to meet my Boyfriends family i pretended as if i knew them for a while and i just started talking to them about things i've seen done places i've been what i like and i would ask them what they thought about something.
just act as if they are people you already know and in no time they will be
be relaxed that way they can be relaxed with you
2007-06-19 09:32:18 · answer #7 · answered by Inventorygal 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes u r boring. no offense but u r a social reject.u do not no how 2 conversate with ppl. most probably think u r strange. alot of ppl e like that though so there is nuthing 2 b ashamed of. just continue being urself.dont try 2 change. ppl will notice if u do and think that ur trying 2 b sum1 that ur not. who knows, ppl may like u cuz ur calm,quiet, and discreet. sum ppl consider that as good traits. if ur frinds hang out with , they like u 4 sum reason, just dont try 2 change
2007-06-19 09:36:26 · answer #8 · answered by *Team Jacob Black* 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Your probably just shy, if it really bothers you see a counselor or psychologist, you never know maybe it's something more.
2007-06-19 09:32:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋