2007-06-19 09:14:36 · 14 answers · asked by determined for baby #1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You should pay your pastor, not buy a gift for him. You give him an envelope with a check (like you will any other vendor.) Plus inviting him to the reception dinner.
2007-06-19 09:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by Mickey 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are paying the minister an officiating fee, a gift is not necessary unless you would like to add a little extra to his or her payment.
If the minister is not charging you to officiate the wedding ceremony than a gift is in order. You should give them at least $50 or a gift certificate to a nice restaurant in a "Thank You" card.
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-06-19 22:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by Avis B 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are not "required to". It would be a great gesture.
If you are already planning to pay your pastor, give him a nice, from-the-heart gift. If you're not planning on paying him, you should.
When I married, I gave mine a pic of us (my husband and I) with a nice handwritten not thanking him for performing our ceremony.
It's the thought that counts.
Good Luck on the wedding day! Don't be too nervous or you will forget it all!
2007-06-19 16:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You don't have to buy him anything if you don't want too, but if you want you can give the pastor a thank you card with the check, it's a nice gesture
2007-06-19 16:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by Red_Rose 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a rule, if you pay someone for their services, you do not have to buy them a gift...you may tip them, but no gift is necessary. That being said, if you are close with him, a gift might be a nice thing to do in addition to payment.
2007-06-19 21:47:48 · answer #5 · answered by its about time 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I thought pastors had fees for performing the ceremony. If not, then a small donation to his/her church would be a nice touch.
2007-06-19 16:35:10 · answer #6 · answered by Marianimal 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No gift is necessary.
That said, adding 10% extra to his fee would probably be very appreciated. Pastors aren't usually wealthy in the monetary sense, so a bit extra is a nice touch.
If S/He refuses the bonus, tell him/her to put it in the collection box.
2007-06-19 16:32:22 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
not a gift, but I gave my pastor an envelope w/ money.
2007-06-19 16:22:46 · answer #8 · answered by NYCgal 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No gift but they should be paid for their services.
2007-06-19 17:29:41 · answer #9 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He should "just" get paid.
You and your husband are the ones who should be receiving gifts.
2007-06-19 16:23:07 · answer #10 · answered by JohnnySmoke 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋