my uncle told me something that i cant get over?

Question

well i was doing a praformance and u no when u do belly dances u were a short top right so yea i wore that and pants and so i did my dance that he calls me over to him and says when those clothes get small or you why dont u give it to me and me and u can play with it togethher
i told my parents bout this and i still cant get over it he was drunk that night and later he goes up to my mom and says give me ur daughters number and so my mom slaped him and yea and i see him every tuesday like today i will see him at the temple and he tries to talk to me but i dont wanna face him i'm to scared...my mom said to stay away from him i do but im scared i cant get the words out of my mind when i see him is there a way i can stop thinking about this and i dont wanna talk to him about this so plzz tell me a way that i could get over it! plzzz im scared of talking to my dad sometimes

Answer 1

If your uncle comes near you tell him you will report him to the police and scream bloody murder. If he goes to the same temple as you maybe you can get the temple to talk with him about his perversions. You may be scared to talk to your Dad but it may help so consider it or have your mom tell him.

Answer 2

that is scary if i was in your position i would be scared to. look maybe you should have friends with you when you're at the temple on tuesdays ok it's better to have people around you when you have a problem.. friends always make it better do what your mom says stay as far away from him okay i know it's hard but you have to. if you see him walking towards you walk the other way and when you're ready maybe you should talk to your dad about it because all dads want to protect their kids no matter who it is. I really hope i gave you the help or advice you needed.

Answer 3

Seems like your parents are not strong enough so you have to be strong.

Your uncle is a pervert. Stay away from him.

Talk to your parents and tell them that you do not want your uncle aroud and if he ever comes around you will have no choice but to call 911.

If your parents do not do anything about it. Dial 911 and let the police take care of the situation. Make sure you tell the police that you are very scared and that your parents are not strong enough.

Good Luck.

Answer 4

Don't be afraid it's good u told ur mom bc now if god forbid something happens she is aware of the situation. If you feel like he's going to hurt u face him and tell him "DON'T TALK TO ME NO MORE" he has nothing to say to you and u have nothing to say to him. Fight ur fear u don't want to live in fear all ur life bc of a drunkie. When u see him don't think about it I know it's hard but it's going to be the best thing for you so it will help you get over it. BUT stay away from him bc i would be scared if anyone told me something like that it means he's a sicko and needs help!!!

Answer 5

have your mother tell him you do not feel comfortable talking to him now no matter what state of sobriety he was in. or better yet, write a letter to him. tell him how much it scared you and that you dont feel comfortable around him and it might be like that for a while. i would suggest you stay away from him until everyone gets this whole situation figured out. he might have been drunk but ive been drunk and i have never been possesed to have sexual relationships or fantasize about having them with my own neice. obviously theres something deep down that clicked and came out when he wasnt thinking about what he was saying so if youre ever around him just make sure theres a trustable adult with you or just avoid him for the time being.

Answer 6

One major thing-

Don't act any different than you would if he was a stranger. Some people think that because it's family that it is not as big of a deal. That is totally not true! You need to talk to your parents. Don't be emberassed. They are here to protect you. If they don't want to do anything go to the police. If you are a minor- he can get in big trouble for harassing you like that. Don't wait fo rit to happen again. Learn to stand up for yourself before it's too late.

Answer 7

I'm sorry that this happened to you. I'm even more sorry that it was a family member. I don't think you should forget what your uncle said, because if you do then you might let your guard down. Make sure that you are never alone with him.

Don't let what your uncle said to you, mess up your relationship with you father.

One other thing... if your outfit caused your uncle to see as something more than his niece then maybe other men may be seeing you in different way too. Just a little something to think about.

Answer 8

You should stay away from him. Sometimes those kinds of people are not capable of controlling their selves and this could be a bad situation. It is good that you were able to tell your mother about the ordeal, and she is on your side. Just make sure that there are always people around you when he is in attendance and avoid any conversation with him.

Answer 9

That's a scary situation, my best suggestion is NEVER be alone with him. It sounds like you have no choice with seeing him, but don't be away from your mom or anyone else. If there are other places where you know you will see him, try and find an excuse if you can. Plan to do something with friends or something. It sounds like your mom is on your side and she'll help as much as she can.

Answer 10

You poor girl. It shouldnt be you scared he should be humiliated and totally ashamed. That was sick of your uncle. You should stay away from him period because it sounds like he can molest you if he had the chance to. This is growing up. when you grow up the innocence flies out the window and we as women realize that some men are sick and you need to avoid them. It will all be ok. Avoid him. Do not let this man control your mental security and happiness. He is sick and sad. Try to keep yourself busy for awhile till your memory of him passes.