I always told myself I would be cool if my best friend got a girlfriend, but I think its becoming a wedge between us.....we still hang out a lot, but she comes everywhere, and its weird because I was good friends with her before, but now their together and when we hang out its really weird for me because they are always together....it just feels like they don't care about me, i'm not trying to be selfish or anything but I can never hang alone time with him, I'm not used to sharing him....I talked to my pastor and he said to just pray and forgive my friend, but I really wanna call my friend out on it, what should I do?
2007-06-19 08:52:12 · 17 answers · asked by Randolph 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
have sex with her...that will teach him
2007-06-19 08:55:52 · answer #1 · answered by Jen D 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Your friend is still cool with you. It's just that he's got a girlfriend now and when a girl comes in the picture, even best friends have to step back. You understand that, don't you? You're feeling a little left out now, but try to get over it. He hangs out with the both of you, to keep from hurting your feelings, but you've got to give him a break. He wants to spend time with his girlfriend alone and you should understand that. Don't ruin his happiness by calling him out. Be a real friend and step back for a while. I'm not saying you should get out of the picture all together, but step back and give him room to enjoy his new relationship. He'll appreciate it and your friendship will stay solid. Best wishes!
2007-06-19 09:23:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you are screwed. That's the long and the short of it. She has things you simply cannot offer, namely a vagina. It sucks that your buddy would bring her everywhere, but this is an old, old story. Some guys are very needy and attached and have to spend every waking moment with their girlfriends. Your jealous feelings of being the third wheel are totally normal and something most guys have experienced. You want your friend back, but the girl gets priority. This is a part of growing up, and it will not be the last time. Do not confront him. It will make you look pathetic, and in fact he will probably tell you to get your own girlfriend and stay out of his business. Your interference will only draw them closer together, and you will end up on the outside looking in. If you must do it, simply do it by organizing a guys night out. If he chooses to come, then it will be understood from the beginning that she should stay home this time. But do not expect it to be a regular thing, and do not expect his heart to be in it. He sounds like the kind of guy who would rather spend time with her. Soon you will have a girl of your own; just remember then not to shut your friends out of your life.
2007-06-19 09:06:29 · answer #3 · answered by brandopolo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are upset that your friend, MALE? got a girlfriend and you do not have one. Sh*t happens in life, everywhere and everyday. You should be proud that you friends has a girl, or maybe she is the one that you have been wanting. If that is true, you should or should have told her and she would have at least known your feelings. It is not his fault that she went for him, or she may be using him to get a reaction or an emotion from you pointed towards her. Who really knows? Women are be a hard creature to figure out.
2007-06-19 09:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by psycho magnet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to "call" your friend "out" on this...But when a moment alone presents itself, you can and should say, "Gee, I sure miss our hanging out now and again, just the two of us together. It's great you have a girlfriend...but I miss our friendship as just guys together." Not so hard, is it? Truthful, not stated in anger, merely introspection. Say it once, and let it go and see if in time, he doesn't "get" what you mean and understand and try to make one on one time with you as a buddy.
I have always, promoted/desired, my husband to enjoy his friends one on one without me...friendship is most important, even in a male/female relationship - with others. It lends itself to discourse and objectivity and provides support as well as help and is fun and mentally healthy. I think you get this, and that's cool. Now, you just have to see if he does...
Grace
2007-06-19 08:57:41 · answer #5 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you going to do when they get married? You won't be able to hang out with him all that much then.
You should talk to your friend if it really bothers you, but keep in mind that you are always going to be a third wheel that gets less attention, since their attention is focused on each other. I think that you should find your own girl, or else find a new best friend.
2007-06-19 08:57:05 · answer #6 · answered by Randy G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be happy for him and let him and her be happy. Are you jealous b/c she is with him and not you? Not trying to be mean but life goes on and you will find a girl for you and then you can all go on like a date or something. dont try to get in his way b/c that could make trouble for you and him and he will quit talking to you all together. Good luck and try to find you a girl to hang out with all of you
2007-06-19 08:58:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are going through similar situations...except i dint like my best friends boyfriend. i would suggest giving it time ( cause all of the that spending time together will get old quick!) then if it becomes a problem then talk to him individually about it and pray that he understands.
2007-06-19 08:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by Pam Grier is an icon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah forgive him.....his intentions are not to hurt you...he's in love...if you're ready get a girl yourself, that way it won't be so akward, however...if this relationship is new give him some time, they won't hang out together as much then you'll have your cake and eat it too....good luck and God bless you!
2007-06-19 09:01:41 · answer #9 · answered by graciegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch, everyone hates the third wheel situation. I'm going through the same thing as you are...with a few more complications. Anyways, i called him out on it, and lo and behold, we have a full-blown war going on and the guy won't even talk to me. If you do confront him, be careful and be low-key in your approach. No guy takes criticism well, and if its his first girlfriend he might not know how to act around her.
2007-06-19 08:56:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell yr friend how you feel. tell yr friend that you feel that him having a girlfriend is tearing yall apart. and that you need sometime just you to to have fun together without his girlfriend. and if he doesnt do anything about it then find some other people to hang out with until he realizes himself that its messing up yalls friendship.
2007-06-19 08:59:36 · answer #11 · answered by im anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋