How do i get my mom to back off?

Question

for the last few months of the school year, i have put on some pounds due to stress from SATS, finals, and projects. my mom keeps badgering me about losing weight and exercising more, but i really don't have the time. I exercise at least an hour a day, but she still is bugging me about it. i promised her (and myself) that after finals i would exervise more adn lose weight, but she won't listen!!! how should i deal with her?

Answer 1

I agree with your mom. Good grades and scores won't mean anything if you die from health problems. Your health is more important than anything else, and if you're unhealthy then you need to make that your top priority. You're a kid, most kids think they know everything and you don't.

I'm sure your mom could approach you about this in a better manner, but I'm sure you're exaggerating a little as well. I know kids who's parents remind them about issues once or twice a week and they consider that badgering. It's not. Is your mom being superficial? We can't possibly know that. Go to a doctor, find out what the doctor recommends for your height, weight, whatever, for YOU. Then go based on that. Maybe your mom's being superficial and maybe she's trying to get YOUR priorities straight for you.

Also, there's no reason why you shouldn't have time for exercise. You act like either you're the only person in the world taking SAT's and Finals and Projects or that everyone doing these things is gaining weight. Not true. Manage your time better.

Lastly, weight is always a huge concern for people, and also something that people put off ALL THE TIME. That sounds like what you're doing too. "...after finals...". Don't kid yourself. Just do it. It's important. Quit complaining.


***EDIT***

I'm going to come across as a total *** hole, and seriously blow any chance I have of getting Best Answer, but to the poster below me...OMG!!! You are so hitting on the essential problem with society right now. We baby our kids too much, and they grow up with all these psychological problems. I mean we censor our kids from everything we have to be nice to them or they'll get taken away, everything possible to keep parents from talking to their kids. And then what happens, the next generation doesn't know how to talk to their kids, so even when they try the kids are still screwed up. The situation is hopeless. I mean I don't support abuse at all -- I was an abused child, bo don't think I'm advocating that, but seriously, parents need to talk to their kids, and kids need to learn how to listen. If your mom is making a big deal about SO WHAT!!! She's your damn momma, at least she's not beating your *** or worse neglecting you and letting you destroy yourself. GROW UP!!! QUIT BEING SO SENSITIVE!!!

Sorry, just one opinion.

Answer 2

When I was a teen, I had a friend whose mom's greatest worry was that she and her sister would be fat. She constantly pestered them to diet and exercise. Now, twenty years later, my friend is trying to recover from anorexia and is constantly in and out of the hospital, and her sister is extremely overweight. They both feel that if their mom was supportive instead of such a bully about their weight issues, today they both would be healthier, happier, and be more secure about their bodies.

Someone trying to lose weight needs support and encouragement from her family. Your mom may think that she is supporting you, but she's not doing it the right way. By constantly harping on you to exercise more, she is undermining your efforts and giving you a low self-image.

Here is how to deal with her: Tell her, in a firm but gentle and mature manner, what she can do that would encourage you. She can support you by giving you compliments on how nice you're starting to look, and telling you how proud she is of you when you work out regularly. Maybe you could ask her to take you grocery shopping to buy healthy foods, help you make healthy meals for the whole family, or even set up a reward system for sticking to your diet. Tell her that more than anything, you need to know that she will love you regardless of how much you weigh.

Answer 3

Hello,

I don't know if you have a weight problem, that your Mom is so concerned about!

If that is so, she is only acting with your interest in mind, as Moms usually do.

But I would suggest that you do face reality, and make some compromise with her about how you will get around to this request.

For example:

* Tell her if you intend to do so:

* And when you propose to begin the exercise. If it is going to be after or before SATS.

*And if it is going to be a holistic approach like Nutrition, Exercises, Running/Jogging, etc.

This approach may just be the solution to the constant nagging!

BringBaka

Answer 4

realize that she is basing her opinion on the way you look to her, right now.

I have the same mom problem. When I went to college I was small, came back obese and my mom drove me up the walls for it.

Think of it like this, if you were smaller, she would have no problem with you and may even applaud you, but since you gained weight it's an issue to her. Something that must go, so she nags.

Try to keep it at that simple "superficial" level, because that's what it really is. Superficial.

I trust that despite what I just said, you are still working out and keeping your nerves from being frayed, unlike Chaney34.

Answer 5

It's so difficult to stand up to our parents. But this is the only solution. You need to tell her that it's YOUR BODY and although you appreciate her concern, you are going to handle it when you're ready. When people nag about things it makes you want to do the total opposite. Maybe instead of badgering she could be a little more supportive. Congratulate you on what you have done instead of what you didn't do.

Answer 6

Show her that if u get good scores u will have a good future and enough bucks in ur account to even get urself a personal gym as well as a personal fitness instructor !!

Answer 7

if you exercise an hour a day, ask her to join you.

Answer 8

tel her to go with you when you work out!

Answer 9

Hire a hit man. After all, how dare she be concerned about you, you little brat!