Why do people think working moms?

Question

don't love their children as much as SAHM moms? 1) Some people have no choice BUT to work 2) if a woman WANTS to work, why should she be made to feel like crap by women who CHOOSE to stay home?

Should people have to explain WHY they work to every Tom, Dick and Harry? No. My son's dad died when I was pregnant in a car accident, and I had to/have to, work. I also finished my Bachelor's degree at night. My son is in a great school, not at some crappy place, and he loves it there. If a woman chooses to work, isn't that her choice?

Answer 1

This is such an old debate, every person is different, parenting styles vary, there is no "one size fits all" I say whatever makes a mother & her family happy, works. Some working mother don't spend time with their kids because they are always too busy working, but some SAHM don't have time either because they are busy cooking, cleaning or attending other tasks. Either way there are pros & cons to both situations, as long as you are satisffied with your role as a mother and your children are thriving you shouldn't feel guilty for either choice you make. Both choices bring a lot of work and sacrifices. We as mother always want what is best for our kids and would never choose to go to work or stay home if that would hurt our children.

Answer 2

Yes it is your choice and you shouldn't care what other people think because the SAHM that say something to you are the moms that wish that they could work and the working mothers wish they could stay at home and every woman has a different reason why they feel they must stay home or must work....like in your situation unfortunately your babies father passed away, so you have to work. I am a stay at home mother, but i choose to stay home, well 1) because I can and 2) because my mother was murdered when I was 4 and I was brought up by my step-mother who was very abusive, so that taught me that no one will care for your kids like their own mother, which is not true in every case, but I have panic attacks with just the thought of my kids being away from me and someone hurting them..........but that is just me. Don't worry about other people, just be thankful that you and your child are happy, healthy and together :)

Answer 3

I dont think that way at all. I think being a stay at home mom is a lifestyle you chose. And sometimes it can be as hard as having a job! Right now I am a SAHM and sometimes I miss working. It was like a little vacation for me to get out of the house and be an adult alone. Dont get me wrong I love my boys, but everyone needs me time.

If you are a working mom it should show you love your children anyhow, because you are showing you will do anything in your power to make sure they have what they need.

Answer 4

Why do people think that SAHM sit around eating crap and watching TV all day? I'm not an idiot, halfway to a Masters degree, and I'm not lazy, but that's the assumption.

Because people are idiots, pretty much, and only want to feel better about themselves by judging and condemning other people.

I think if a woman can work, and balance all the other stuff she has to do, she's like supermom. There is no way I could balance both unless I worked some job flipping burgers. My two best friends are a doctor and a biochemist, and they blow me away with how they manage to advance their careers, raise gorgeous sweet kids, and keep a house clean (altho my doctor friend just started with the housekeep and now I'm jealous lol!)

Answer 5

I have been both. Being at home with your kids can be a great thing but there are other things that matter as well. Let;s face it most families today can live on one income, so both have to work, although some times it is hard on the kids to be in daycare or home alone(if older kids) has its draw backs too.
MY point of working was I wanted something for me to be proud of myself other than just kids, to know I had achieved some of my goals in life. Also you can not always be dependent on men to take care of us, I mean how many marriages actually work these days.So you would have no education or job skills when the father walks out to take care of your child. (not smart in my opionion)
So I believe a lot of people have thier views and No one has a right to judge a parent by if they work inside the home or outside the home, judge people that leave thier children fiftlhy or dont feed their children or who are abusing children.
Go with your heart and do what you believe is right and like I said someone going to "judge" you no matter what you do. Best wishes to you and your family, sorry to hear about your loss.

Answer 6

It's your choice to work, and if you really believe that it's the best thing for your children, then you wouldn't feel guilty.

just don't say you don't have a choice.
People choose to keep the lifestyles that they have. They don't want to make changes. Anyone can live on one income, but do you want to move to an apartment, or give up that Mercedes, etc., etc. (selfish choices).

A child is better off with their parent watching them, not in some institution. Woman don't want to believe this, so they continue to climb the ladder.

I gave up a career to stay home with my children, it's the best thing I ever did. I finally learned that it's not all about me, and where we live, and what kind of car I drive, and that fully contributing to the upbringing of my children is the most important thing to me, my children, and society.

Answer 7

In today's society you are wrong either way. I am a SAHM and in no way believe a woman who works loves their child less. I consider myself fortunate to be able to stay home, but never pass judgment on those who can't/don't and I feel very judged by all the working moms out there, we cant afford for me to dress as nice as they do etc. Just do what is right for you and your kids and try to let everyones opinions roll off, you will be much happier when you can do it.

Answer 8

I have done both as well. I am now a sahm, but I don't think that mom's that have to work love their children any less than me. I know what it is like to have to support your family. Don't worry about what other people think about you. Supporting your little ones shows just as much love as staying at home with them.

Answer 9

I think what most sah moms really mean is that if there is a couple and they both work and have a tight budget but then choose to have children knowing that they would never be able to care for them themselves, why do they choose to still have kids??? I know that things happen and there are all kinds of different circumstances that happen, and for women like you i applaude, that is hard work! And god will have a reward for you later in your life for what you have endured. My question is what is the point in having kids if you are not going to raise them and be with them for more than 75% in their awake hours. I used to babysit my niece and I would get her at 6:30 A.M. and her mom would came get her at 6:00 P.m. and she went to bed at 7:30 pm she only had an hour and a half to spend with her mom 5 days out of the week!!!!!!!! That is crappy in my opinion, I mean what was the point in having her?? Why plan a child if you aren't going to put in the time to take care of them yourself?? That is the point that i think most sah moms wonder about.

Answer 10

I totally agree with you. I have 3 kids and my husband and I both work full time. I was a stay at home mom for 2 years and figured out that it was NOT the thing for me! I needed to work! Part was finances and part was just me needing to have a life outside of my family! Now I have an awesome career and I'm happier in my own life, and that reflects on my attitude towards my children, and we are ALL a little happier now that mommy is is working!