Wedding guest etiquette?

Question

There is this girl at work who seems to think she is invited to my wedding,

I went to book the date at the register office she is saying 'Am I sure that I want to get married there, why not at the BOTANICAL GARDENS?' She was saying this while I was on the way out to book at the register office!!

She then thinks she is invited to the wedding and is probably awaiting an official invite, then she expects me to pay her so sing at my wedding!!

Do you think that is cheeky?

I would understand if she was Diana Ross or Whitney Houston, but I think it is out of order!

Answer 1

She is being cheeky, just don't send her any invite. and if you want to keep it diplomatic tell her it is family and close friends only and that your fiance and you already choose a live band or a DJ.

Answer 2

Lol- sounds like she is living in hopes. When she doesn't get an invite she will get the message. Perhaps she's a tiny bit jealous or desparate for friends. My sister used to be dreadful when there was anyone having a wedding- she used to invite herself if not formally invited- she would go and buy outfits and and new hats- then turn up anyway- with her hubby and three kids in tow. Then she would wheedle her way into the reception!! She even used to dress her kids similar to the bridesmaids (her son hated it-lol!) and push them to the front of the pics with the bridesmaids. When my brother got married last year for the second time she even got an outfit the same as the brides!!!!

Answer 3

Is it possible you are sending her the wrong message? Why would she be expecting an invitation to your wedding unless you may have given her belief that she will be invited.
You might want to tell her that you are planning a small, romantic wedding with just close friends and family,
and being that you're not close friends with her, she will get the message.
*Always be kind and courteous to people because in doing so, you will not intentionally hurt their feelings, and they will respect you for your honesty. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Make a point in telling all your work colleagues that you've got to keep numbers low for the wedding and night do, due to money or space, when shes there to hear. ans say your only inviting family and close friends, then it doesn't seem like you singling her out.

Answer 5

What is up with her? I hope she is very young (at least she has a chance to mature), but DO NOT let her pressure you or ruin your wedding.

Are other people from work invited to the wedding? If so, that will be rough for you.

Best wishes on your upcoming wedding.

Answer 6

Well, I was born in 1950 and brought up quite 'properly'. I know things have changed enormously in society, but I would really not invite your friend. There is another word that comes to mind other than 'cheeky' but I shan't be rude enough to say what it is.

Answer 7

Very simple way to handle it.

When you send out the invitations, put "By Invitation Only" on them. Then have someone at the door checking the names of those who arrive. You could have one with "sample" written across it sitting on your desk. If she is as forward as you say, she will see it and read it. She would have to be pretty dense not to understand what it says.

Answer 8

Simply don't invite her...if she decides to question you about it say "I'm sorry, I was only able to invite family". End of story :)

Answer 9

THAT IS VERY VERY RUDE OF HER. YOU NEED TO TELL HER THAT YOU ALREADY HAVE PLANS FOR THE MUSIC AT YOUR WEDDING AND THEM TELL HER THAT IT WILL NOT BE A HUGE WEDDING THAT YOU ARE ONLY INVITING CLOSE FRIENDS AND FAMILY. IF HER FEELINGS GET HURT, THEN IT IS HER FAULT.

Answer 10

Some people! Why does she think this? Tell her its friends and family only. That should shut her up.