My first relationship was about a year and a half ago, and it lasted for a mere 3 weeks. But the breakup was awfully messy and complicated, and it left me heartbroken for six months (about until I left for college). While away at school I was able to forget about him, but since I've been home for the summer I've seen him a few times, since he lives in my neighborhood. Since then, I cant stop thinking about him. I've come close to tears.
I've been in a relationship with a wonderful man for the past six months, but we are apart for the summer. The long distance, plus seeing my ex, has made me very depressed.
How can I get over my ex-boyfriend? I thought I was fine, but then I saw him again, and all the hurt came rushing back... Help!
2007-06-19 06:59:32 · 8 answers · asked by Sarah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Learn to gracefully accept the truth. Life is going to throw all kinds of things at you and you need to be really picky about what you let get to you and what you don't or you will go crazy. You will meet all kinds of guys in the future and I guarentee the same thing will happen again. It sucks, but it's life and it's part of the reason people cry at weddings - because they are so happy to have that part of thier life over with - ha ha ha.
So my point is... just accept the truth and learn to walk with your head held high - you'll be fine in time but you have to learn to let certain things go in order for better things to come to you.... and they will.
2007-06-19 07:05:29 · answer #1 · answered by Challah back Girl... 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know how it feels. we were together for two months and it was really hard to get over him. I did completely when I meet this guy which I liked a lot. My heart started to beat again. Then, I realized that I could get better guys than the first one. Plus you said that your relation lasted only for 3 weeks so I am assuming the guy did not love you because love means sacrifice, patience, etc. You can also talk to your ex boyfriend and try to make peace with him. If there is something that is still bothering you tell him. You can email to him if you don't \have the courage to tell him in person. Now you said you have a new relationship so why are u still thinking about your ex. This man is supposed to make him forget because he is more important than the other right? or maybe you don't love him as you did with the other guy. Because I know that true love can't be forgotten easily. I know it sucks, but life still goes on. Good Luck
2007-06-19 14:36:59 · answer #2 · answered by Latina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really really really hate it =( I'm going through a similar thing. It's driving me crazy too at times. We (you and me both) are on the same boat.
Every now and then something from my past or something, just anything can trigger a memmory of her. I hate it.
I hate the fact that I'm so shy and depressed that I can't even make enough friends to move on from it. I hate it so much you don't understand! Maybe you do, but mine is probably worse. We've known each other for, since I could remember. We were kids and we grew up together.
2007-06-19 17:37:02 · answer #3 · answered by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting over an ex is never an easy thing to do. It honestly just takes time. There really isn't a quick fix to the problem.
But as long as your home for the summer..I'd suggest to keeping busy and trying to avoid the ex if possible. B/c seeing him will make it worst..Good luck
2007-06-19 14:14:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand you. I was in love with my first love..this was for 8 years ago and although i have a very nice and smart boyfriend now, i dont´t forget my first love.. Because he was the person who i love more than something else..Everytime when i see everything about him than i think i love him...but that´s false... i accept that he was my first love and that was it...
First of all you accept that you have feelings to your ex too...it´s not as bad as that ....maybe this help you..than you realize who you really love and forget your ex.. you be clear with your sense...
But this needs time...thats not work after a day...i need 8 years..
Think about it..i hope i could help you, but about your feelings you must go alone the way...i know it is terrible..
greetings..
Falco
2007-06-19 14:16:01 · answer #5 · answered by Falco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't get over my ex for 2yrs!!!!!!!!! It was the worst time ever. But what i should have done was keep dating and search for girls. I know it's really really really hard to forget about him, But you should really start dating other guys. Trust me it can be big help.
2007-06-19 14:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by dudewtfwtf1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you better start looking for something to do, remember an idle mind tends to think stupid things and one of those stupid things is thinking abt this boy that doesnt care abt u. you already got someone, why dont you enjoy his love and his being wonderful (as u say) to you, and remember as long as you try to have a positive outlook, you would eventually moved on and forget abt him.
2007-06-19 14:09:07 · answer #7 · answered by ivy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop thinking of him!
and find another boy!there are so many cute boys in the world!
2007-06-19 14:03:19 · answer #8 · answered by gaby 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋