I have been looking at different recpetion sites and the majority of them are about 25-30 minutes away from the church witht he excpetion of a few places right in my city that are extremely expensive in price. My mom keeps telling me a half hour is too far away and that this one place is on a hill and that's a bad idea in February since the wedding is in Massachusetts. Do you think a half hour is too far to drive for a reception? Would it make a difference if i forewarned everyone on theinvite that the recption would be a half hour drive? That would allow them to choose weather or not they wanted to attend just the ceremony. Shouldn't I be able to get what I want since it's my wedding and my request isn't crazy?
2007-06-19 06:49:38 · 20 answers · asked by LA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
A half hour is fine. Over 45 minutes and it starts getting a bit much but it is still doable because people who want to attend your wedding will, and will find a way to do so. You don't have to forwarn everyone - you will have the location of both places on the invite - maybe include a directional card and they can figure it out for themselves. Mom is wrong, but if she is paying for the wedding prepare yourself for many more battles ahead. If she isn't, thank her for her opinion and do what you want.
* I just went to a NH/Mass wedding where they were 45 minutes away from each other. No one had a problem. Everything was so spread out anyway, it took 20 minutes to find civilization!
2007-06-19 12:13:47 · answer #1 · answered by JM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a big distance. Can you offer a bus for the guests who don't want to drive? I wouldn't feel right asking guests to travel that far - while it is YOUR wedding, the fact that you are inviting others means that you have to consider them as well. If you left plenty of time between the ceremony and reception then you could do it - but I'm sure you could find something closer. Think about it though - what is more important to you? Having your family and friends spending the day with you? Or having the wedding and reception in the "perfect" places? Answering that should answer your question about what to do. Edit: Anything within 30 minutes is quite acceptable to expect guests to travel. Over that I think a bus in and out of the reception area is required.
2016-05-19 21:56:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no, it is not too far. My reception was about 40 minutes away, as have a few weddings I've been to. Also, most people leave an hour or 2 to kill between the ceremony and the reception to have pics taken, etc, so I don't see it as a big deal. Also, I would not specify the time in the invite - you will put the address of the reception and the ceremony and directions - they can figure it out from there. You know, if given the choice, they will skip the ceremony and go to the reception. And remember - it is YOUR day - don't give in to anyone (except maybe your future husband!). Congrats.
2007-06-19 07:05:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn't drive ANY farther than 30 minutes. If you can make it any closer, I would recommend doing so...
I have a couple reasons for this answer: Number one, you state that your wedding is in February in Massachusetts. The weather can change in an instant, and people who RSVP'd that they'd make the drive and come, may change their minds and stay home due to inclement weather. Rude? Yes, definitely, but people will do it.
The other thing to think about is if you're serving alcohol, do you really want your guests driving a half hour back? Yes, I know all about personal responsibility, and I too would hope that someone would exercise a scrap of common sense and be responsible; but the truth of the matter is that people do dumb things ALL THE TIME.
That's my two cents on the whole thing. Best wishes!!
2007-06-19 07:18:13 · answer #4 · answered by sylvia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep in mind February weather in Massachusetts. I am a life long resident of Massachusetts and I know Feb. is a weird month. I'd keep away from the place on the hill. I suppose 30 min isnt too far on a nice day (my friends reception place was about that far from her church), but once again, if it's bad weather 30 min turns into much longer. Think about it...and if you mom is worried about distance ask her to help with the cost of a local place.
2007-06-19 07:02:44 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think half an hour is far at all! Maybe you live in an area where everything is nearby... but I've been to numerous weddings where the reception hall and ceremony location were 30-60 minutes apart. I don't think it's an issue for most people and unless I had to drive 2 hours to get from the ceremony to reception, it wouldn't stop me from attending!
2007-06-19 08:01:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not a rediculous request, It too far if it's over an hour away. 30 min is nothing. If it's where you want on YOUR big day, nobodys going to have a problem with it that theyre so upset they wont come. It is not an outragious request. The last wedding I went to the reception was 15 min away but they happened to be doing road work and the detour took over 30 min, we still went and we had so much fun. If it's what you want- gor for it! Congratulations, I hope you have the wedding (and reception) of your dreams!
2007-06-19 07:00:08 · answer #7 · answered by cait5156 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, but if I knew the 2 were half hour apart, I wouldn't attend either one or the other. I do think it's too far, IMO. The distance should be no more than a few minutes. You may find you're deterring people from attending, and I'd assume you invite those you do because you actually want them to come, right?
"Shouldn't I be able to get what I want...." that kind of talk gives brides a bad name, and does not ingratiate you to your friends or family, I am sure. What is it you want, at the true heart of it? A place you've chosen that many will likely feel they can't attend both your wedding and reception or actually getting to be able to celebrate with your loved ones?
2007-06-19 07:40:13 · answer #8 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Where I live, everything is 30 minutes away from everything else! My wedding reception was 25 minutes away from the church and nobody had a problem. As for being on a hill in February, that may throw me off if the weather is bad, butyou have a 50/50 chance of it being nice/bad.
2007-06-19 07:14:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually you want to keep it 20 mins or less. However, adding an extra 10 mins to save a bundle is perfectly fine in my opinion since many sites say 30 mins is acceptable.
It is less driving time and how complicated it is to get there. I think a good rule of thumb is that once you exit the major highway if you have to make more than 3 turns or there isn't pavement you run the risk of your guests getting lost.
I think as long as you forwarn them that its 30 mins away you'll be OK. I don't know about the hill part since I've never been to Mass.
2007-06-19 07:01:31 · answer #10 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋