Ok, so this girl and I have gone out on a couple of dates. Both were excellent and there is definitely a great vibe there. I know that I really like her, but since it is so early, I don't yet know exactly how interested she is, or I guess I should say whether she is interested in a relationship.
She went on vacation last week and will be gone for the next two weeks as well. I was also on vacation out of town this past week. Well, before I left, I wasn't exactly sure how much I should contact her, just so that I didn't push things too much and become to clingy, ya know?
I decided every 3 days or so is about right....well we ended up speaking almost every single day, and a couple of times twice a day. Obviously this is a good sign, but would you take it the same way? I just am a little surprised (in a good way) that she would take the time to talk as much, considering she is busy with family on vacation.
Should I be excited about a possible relationship with her?
2007-06-19 06:42:30 · 5 answers · asked by John H 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's definitely a good sign -- if I start dating a guy and don't feel interested, I stop answering the phone pronto. Even once ever 3 days is too much for me.
Who's doing the calling? Is it both of you? If so, that's a good sign. If it's mostly her, that's an even better one. It sounds like she's interested, if nothing else, in seeing where things might go, and in being friends.
If you wanted to be cynical, you could write it off as her family is just really, REALLY boring and she has apparently run out of other friends to entertain herself with.... but that's just my daily dose of thunderstorm. ;)
Just bear in mind that the whole early days infatuation thing doesn't always mean a whole lot. This guy I just dated for half a year used to call me all the time and we'd talk and talk and talk and it didn't keep us going more than 6 months. I've had guys who I've hit it off with and we've been nonstop for days just to peter out in mere weeks. So as an indicator of relationship success, number/frequency of phone calls are insignificant. As an indicator as potential relationship INTEREST, though, definitely a promising sign.
2007-06-19 07:16:24 · answer #1 · answered by some girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes- be excited that she is showing more interest than you expected, but don't get overly happy. It's still early and I'm sure you're both kind of feeling each other out and getting to know one another on a deeper level. Let things progress naturally. If you ever feel like you're coming on too strong, you probably are. Let her initiate contact every now and then.
Other than that, things sound great. Good luck!
2007-06-19 13:54:15 · answer #2 · answered by YSIC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should be excited, John. But you need to stop analyzing the relationship so much. Instead of worrying about all this stuff, consentrate on some creative ways to show her that you like her, that you're happy and want to spend time with her. In other words, romance her. She may just fall in love with you, and then you'll have something important to worry about.
2007-06-19 13:49:31 · answer #3 · answered by Flame 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't rush things.
the word "relationship" is always really..vague.
just do what feels right.
go on dates, have fun.
take it easy.
you seem like the kind of person who is always thinking about the future and what will be, but you have to stop and just focus on how things are at that moment.
and if things are good.
you'll feel great.
;)
2007-06-19 13:47:04 · answer #4 · answered by Kayla Arielle M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes if it was her calling you more than you calling her
2007-06-19 13:47:22 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋