How do you know if your bi or not?
Me and my sister are each others BF and she told me about 6 months ago that she was bi. Recently I told her that I had occasionly thought about becoming bi myself(don't get me wrong I would go gay because I like girls way more than guys) over the past 2& 1/2 years but did'nt know if I could do it or not. She thinks it would be great and that I should definatly become bi. And since were already best freinds, she also thinks that it would be cool to have that secret between us (I'm the only one who knows she's bi) and the fact that I could help her with girls and she could help me with guys. I'm still a little confused because it's like one half of me is telling me to do it because I really want to and the other half of me is telling not to because I dont know if I could go through with doing something with a guy or not, or what I would do if some one found out about it . I really need some help on whether or not I should do it.
2007-06-19 06:41:00 · 12 answers · asked by Drifter 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I also need to know if I was to be bi then how to go about doing it( I'd like to start off slow if I was to do it), how to know if I could go through with doing something with a guy or at least how to prepare myself for it so I don't like freak out or something, and how to keep it a secret so that me,my sister, and the one's we date will be the only one's to know about me and her. I really would apprieciate any advice you have, and am truely asking for your help?
P.S. I'm also afraid for my butt :-D, does it really hurt that bad?
2007-06-19 06:43:38 · update #1
Some people say the mention of and if you get all I want that man... here is a web sight.. not perverted.. just the worlds sexiest men.. go look then ask your self if you think this guy is hot and you "want" to get with that.. then well it is obvious..
But for now I would just call my self bi-curious..
2007-06-19 06:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by Sprinkles C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make this kind of decision out of pressure from your sister. I understand the desire to have things in common but come on...your sexuality?! You need to be YOUR OWN person enough to define those things for yourself. Just because she's bi doesn't mean you need to hop on the boat. And by the way, you don't "become" bi - you either are or you aren't and usually people just know.
2007-06-19 13:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its not natural to have feeling for the opposite sex so if your having these feeling at all then your definitely Gay!
There is no Bi its either Gay or Lez !
You can`t be both if so then you definitely need some counseling on this.
Not be nosey but did you both get molested when you was younger? There is a reason why you both have feeling for the same sex.
Good Luck- Chatty-okie
2007-06-19 13:48:58 · answer #3 · answered by chattyokie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well as to starting with it... i dont think you really "start" i mean if you go some where and happen to be attracted to someone (male or female) then natural instict is to flirt... and see where it goes from there... i mean you can normally tell when a guy (gay/bi) is interested...
i also dont think being bi is soemthing you decide to do.. i mean if you attracted to both sexes... beyond just checkign a guys hair cut out, then you are bi... (does that make sense)
i think its so awesome that you have your sister to talk to and you guys are so close.. i hope she can help you and you can help her! thats so awesome...
i dont think though its "something cool to have between you" you know what i mean... i think that you do need to think of the reprocutions if your "secret" does come out... and if this is you... then you shouldnt be ashamed of it...
good luck! i hope this insight helped a little!
2007-06-19 13:48:20 · answer #4 · answered by cinnimon2693 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth, I didn't read your biography here, and most people won't bother either. But I still know the answer to your question: if you are sexually attracted to BOTH men AND women, then you are bi. If not, then you are not. That about sums it up. Your life story doesn't matter.
2007-06-19 13:44:43 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't think of it as being bi, straight, gay, whatever. lables make too much pressure. if you are curious, don't be afraid of experimenting. yes, some might call you a freak or whatever, but do only and whatever makes you feel good. and tell you're sister to call me!! xoxo cheers!!
2007-06-19 13:46:22 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off you dont need labels...find someone you are truly comfortable with. someone you can communicate with and take it slow. tell them when to stop and when to keep on.
You may find a girl to "experiment" with using toys, and first try it yourself.
if you are so worried about being secret, you may not handle a relationship well...who wants to be your "dirty little secret"?
think about the feeling of who you choose to have relations with as well...not just your own.
2007-06-19 13:48:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who are gay or bi-sexual usually say it is something they have no control over. You are saying something differently.
2007-06-19 13:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats totally fine...i go through fazes like that myself. if you want to lable it, you could be bi, or you can just be curious...
2007-06-19 13:45:34 · answer #9 · answered by Cutieful &. {♥} 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk to your pastor/preacher/minister/rabi/ or your imaginary friends.
It's obvious......you need direction.
What the hell is Bi ????
2007-06-19 13:47:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋