Hi everyone!
There is this woman at my workplace, who claims she can sing and has a myspace promoting her music.
I announced to everyone at work that I was getting wed next year and she said, 'Do you want me to sing at your wedding?' She is not mention anything about prices.
Then I mentioned what songs I want played at the wedding, then she said again.. 'Are you gonna pay me'
I have not even invited her, she has it in her head that she is coming automatically!
If she does come, I wonder how she would feel if I charged her for the food she eats at the reception.
What do you think of that, dont you think its rude.
2007-06-19 06:37:29 · 22 answers · asked by Rebz 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes it is, I would tell he that she is not invited, she was not hired and maybe she can't even sing. SO tell her
your husband to be has hired some band or a DJ and that you no longer want or need her to be part of your wedding.
After all you don't want your day to be ruined by someone you don't like.
It is not an ordinary day,
Good luck, and enjoy your day.
2007-06-19 06:44:07 · answer #1 · answered by ... 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is a bit rude for her to automatically assume you'll want her to sing at your wedding, much less that she's even invited at all!
I'd just tell her you have a friend of the family lined up to sing because it is what your family wants or something along those lines; that way you don't really hurt her feelings but you make it clear you don't want her performing. As to having her at the wedding/reception - that's totally up to you. You don't have to invite her if you don't want to. On the other hand, if you've issued a blanket invite to everyone with whom you work, then she is free to come. Perhaps her cheekiness is just from sheer happiness that you're getting married; you never really know what motivates folks. In this case, I'd say it was the $$ & the chance to show off in front of co-workers, but then again, I don't know her. Good luck & congrats!!!
2007-06-19 06:50:10 · answer #2 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her "Actually, my fiance told me he has his heart set on ______ for the wedding music, so I can't use you!" This saves your working relationship. She has behaved rudely and very presumptuous- but you still have to see this person every day so don't make a big thing about it. As to whether you invite her- it depends on how big a circle you include from the office. If you invite a few people, you should invite her as well. If it's just like your closest friend, than I wouldn't worry about it.
2007-06-19 06:54:29 · answer #3 · answered by Fitzdiva 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All goes back to home stays at home, work stays at work. Keep in mind, if you invite ONE person from the office, you must invite all. That will cause much discontent in the office just as much as she is offending you now. Simply tell her you have not yet decided what to do about the music, just songs you would like to have. Afterwards, no more talking about weddings at work.
2007-06-19 06:48:49 · answer #4 · answered by Barbie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have to be firm here. Tell her you hadn't planned on a singer unless part of the band you had booked. She may be good but you cann't take the risk and also if she is as pushy as that it makes you wonder. Get out of this one NOW if you leave it to later things just get more complicated. Good luck!
2007-06-20 13:38:45 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, just tell her you found someone else. Or better yet, hold auditions for the contract and have her compete so she knows you really could do better if you wanted to. Let her know you're not the only one making the decision and that everyone else has to hear her first before she can be hired. Then tell her everyone else didn't like her style of music.
2007-06-19 06:44:11 · answer #6 · answered by SecretariesRule 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you do decide to invite her, she can only come as a guest. Don't involve her in any part of the wedding.
2007-06-19 06:45:18 · answer #7 · answered by jamoca 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is veryrude for someone just to invite themselves, but were you rude in the first place? Did you talk about the wedding openly with co-workers you were not intending to invite? That would make someone think that you were going to invite them...
2007-06-19 07:06:36 · answer #8 · answered by Des 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would be like, "ok, oh, you're charging us? No thank you, we have a professional for that."
If you are going to hire her, she's not invited to the wedding, she is "staff." She does not get to eat with the guests because she is not a guest. So if she wants to stay for the reception, she will be charged.
Also, make sure you audition her first. And if you like her, then hire her, if not, tell her politely, no thanks, we chose to go with someone else.
2007-06-19 06:49:12 · answer #9 · answered by MoMoney23 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you need to clear the confusion just tell her politely that your other half does not want anyone singing at your wedding and she is not invited, problem solved. she does sound rude.
2007-06-19 06:47:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋