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Question

well i just recently started sleeping with my boyfriend , but there's one really big problem he finishes in 3 to 5 minutes (and i hate to say this but if my last boyfriend finsihed in 30 minutes that was fast) so needless to say he's not really doing anything for me im just getting started when he's completly done .... the weird thing is he acts like nothings wrong like he gave me the best of the best is this common? have you been with other men that think this is normal also ? or is it something he's just not comfortable with so ignores it? and is it something that i should address or should i just stay queit and hope he can atleast go for 10 minutes one day ? ........... lol, the worst part is he bragged so much about himself before and after we had sex

Answer 1

First of all, all men think they are friggin awesome in the bed! It sounds like he thinks he is grea tbecause no one has told him otherwise! I say talk to him and meet half way if he finished early then have a toy around so he can assist you in being satisfied but if you don't talk to him he will continue thinking that 3 min. is long enough and Lord knows we need to help that boy with that! Good luck!

Answer 2

You should definitely address it. All men think they are the best of the best. But any man who is the best pleasures his lady first and always. There should be more to your interaction with any boyfriend , than just intercourse. There are so many ways to pleasure in both directions. Sounds like you both need to work that angle. Let him know it is not enough. Trust me, even 2 years from now you will be sick of it if you don't. Open the communication, try new things, but you have to be innovative as well. The time frame of 3-5 is short, but I know of many that are no more than 10. That is why the foreplay and other means of being together are so important. It will also make you feel more connected as a couple.

Answer 3

Haha ok ok. I've had this problem too. Some guys will bring it up because they are embarrassed and just apologize repeatedly. They will also throw in a "this has never happened to me before!" for good measure. Others will ignore it in hopes that you won't bring it up. Maybe it's been a while since your boyfriend has had sex so the excitement is so much he can't control himself. My guy didn't last too long in the beginning of our relationship, but after dating a while he can really hold his own. I get tired first now. He just needed time to get comfortable with me. We talked about what it would be like so much that by the time we got to it it was so built up. There were so many expectations and he was just excited to be able to finally be with me. Once your boyfriend gets more comfortable with being with you he will relax and go for longer.

Answer 4

First of all, you need to talk to him during a time that you're away from the bedroom so no pressure to perform is placed on him right at that moment. When you talk to him tell him what you like that he does do. Then tell him what you like. Don't word it in such a way that it sounds like he's doing something wrong, but rather, put a positive spin on it like how exciting this would be or how hot you'd get if he did that. Once you've discussed this outside the bedroom, feel free to bring it into the bedroom. It's ok to tell your parter what you want during sex. Of course you always want to give encouragement when you do.

Answer 5

It seems as if he is only trying to satisfy himself, if youve addressed this issue and he's nonchalant about it, he really doesnt care that your not satisfied, most guys have this testosterone thing were they think they are the best lovers but in actuality they are the complete opposite. I can tell you one thing, if this doesnt change for you soon, you probably will not be faithful because your not satisfied. I dont care what people say, sex is a huge part of an relationship.

Answer 6

My gf and I have done it unprotected only. She's on birth control pills so we always have sex without condoms. It is better in the shower for cleanup purposes, but if you're worried about a mess on the bed, just put a towel underneath her and stick to the missionary position. I don't think there's anything wrong with sex during a menstrual period, protected or unprotected as long as you're both healthy people, and only have sex with each other. And of course as long as you're both okay and comfortable with it, and as long as it isn't uncomfortable for her physically.

Answer 7

Well, I used to have a man like that... and what we did was I got him off first ... oral or hand... then after he would play with me untill he was ready again then he would be able to go for a bit longer... and this always helped and worked for me...
you will eventually have to talk to him about it... just come at him with something like... hey ya know im not getting exactly what i need... then explian to him some things he can do to satisfy you..
good luck...hope this helps

Answer 8

LOL! He is probably insecure...or so full of/into himself that he doesn't realize he aint doin a thing for you babeh. You should talk it out with him and see if there is anything you can try to make it last longer. Maybe he is really excited and needs to learn to relax and enjoy himself.

Answer 9

You could ask him for some oral and/or tell him to go for a second round ..3-5 minutes ?? geeeezzzz

Answer 10

maybe he's not used to having sex with anyone, are u his first girl he had sex wit? cuz if ur his first then he might not no what to expect and he's not sure if its enough for u. But tell him cuz ur not getting nothing out of it!