They have made me cry, scream, and just sit in the bathroom for an hour until I could leave. I try changing the subject, telling them to back off, and even just ignoring it, but nothing works. My cousins dangle meat in my face (im a vegetarian) and my dad just yells. I have never tried to push any of my beliefs on them, and never even bring them up until they make fun of me. I hate going to family funtions, even though they happen all the time. How can I get them to back off without yelling?
2007-06-19 05:52:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They have made me cry, scream, and just sit in the bathroom for an hour until I could leave. I try changing the subject, telling them to back off, and even just ignoring it, but nothing works. My cousins dangle meat in my face (im a vegetarian) and my dad just yells. I have never tried to push any of my beliefs on them, and never even bring them up until they make fun of me. I hate going to family funtions, even though they happen all the time. I'm a teenager, and am forced to go the everything unless I fake sick, and can't leave early. How can I get them to back off without yelling?
2007-06-19 06:12:42 · update #1
The fact that you haven't given in shows you have a lot of strength of character, good for you.
They obviously get pleasure from winding you up, so don't let them see you upset.
Phrases to use would be "I don't dance to that tune anymore" or I'm not rising to the bait, sorry"
Or even just laugh and shake your head. Whn they see they aren't getting a reaction they will gradually stop.
Keep strong, you got principles, they don't
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2007-06-19 05:57:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
They aren't making fun of your ethics so much as they are mocking what they perceive to be your "holier-than-thou" attitude about it. (I'm not saying you ARE acting that way, I'm just saying that's probably what how they HEAR it.)
Talk to your parents about it in a calm moment. Remind them that you've made a lifestyle choice and this is really important to your beliefs, and you'd appreciate it if your family could respect it. Ask them to set a good example to the rest of the family by admonishing the teasers.
If that doesn't help, you might have to take matters into your own hands. Reming the teasers that you're not trying to push anything on them, and you'd appreciate it if they respected your choice and let you eat in peace. You may need to remind them that they are being immature and petty by teasing you about it. If necessary, you may need to take your food and leave the table.
2007-06-19 06:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you go?
Why do you want to be around a group of people that make you cry scream and sit in the bathroom for an hour?
Doesn't sound like a good environment to me!
Stop going!
2007-06-19 06:04:34 · answer #3 · answered by LB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your family are behaving in that way to see you getting upset. It sounds cruel but they obviously are not taking your feelings seriously. the next time it happens just get up and leave. you do not have to put up with that!
I think you must be a very strong person to stick to your beliefs under that kind of pressure
2007-06-23 03:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by tootnuts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of letting things develop into a slanging match, let them know respectfully your beliefs. Try not to react under provocation. If you don't react they will soon get bored. Stand by your beliefs and you'll be fine. It takes a much stronger person to ignore their taunting than it takes for them to taunt you in the first place. You've already shown you've got principles, so you're already stronger!
2007-06-19 05:58:11 · answer #5 · answered by Glen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Family gatherings should be a place of support, love, and safety. If your family is mistreating you, there's a good reason for you to stay away from get-togethers. If your family abuses you in this way, you can only find relief in separating yourself from them.
2007-06-19 05:57:37 · answer #6 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried not going to family functions? If all they do is hurt you.. it sounds like you should take a break from them for a while.
If you don't feel you can talk to them.
Blessings~
2007-06-19 06:35:39 · answer #7 · answered by Rebekah W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
woah, thats really harsh of them, u havent done anything wrong, i mean itd okay to not agree with ur choice, but everyone has opinions and they should be respected, as long as ur not forcing to go vegetarian, whats their problem?? my advice is, i know its hard, but keep going, try not to worry bout what they do/think of you, ignore them, stay strong!!
2007-06-19 07:51:22 · answer #8 · answered by SCREAM!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Laugh at it. The more you respond the more they will do it. If you ignore their digs or just laugh along they'll get bored and find someone else to tease.
2007-06-19 05:55:50 · answer #9 · answered by lululaluau 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop going around them for a while. If they ask why then tell them why.
2007-06-19 05:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋