I have known my best friend for 13 years. We were both best men for each others wedding and am wondering how to address his card and gift as his wife and i are not fond of each other, but i do get along fine with his kids and of course my best friend. I want to be respectful to him and dont want him angry if i exclude his wife on card/gift yet, i want to write him a nice personal card for being a great friend for 13 years. What to do? thank you.
2007-06-19 05:44:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Bill and Mary (or whatever). Just because she's a beast, you don;t have to be one
2007-06-19 05:47:47 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In the first paragraph of the card, wish the whole family well. Then in the rest of the note, address your friendship with him in particular. If you don't want her and/or the kids to read the rest of the note, then make the card out to everyone, and in another envelope inside the card address something to him personally. I wouldn't be offended if one of my husband's friends with whom I don't get along well did that. Any gift should be for at least the couple if not the whole family.
2007-06-19 05:56:32 · answer #2 · answered by wendy08010 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry.. That's hard to see your best Buddie move on... but it does not mean he is moving out of your life.. I think this is very sweet that you want to get him a card.. But might I suggest that you do get the card for the whole family..Then give him his own personal letter telling him how you are going to miss him...Do not exclude the wife are he may start excluding you.
One true friend is worth a million..
2007-06-19 06:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by Sprinkles C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him a personal card. I don't think it matters if you include his family, unless it's a family gift. You might want to write two cards, in that case. One with general good wishes to the family, and one with a personal sentiment for your friend. Whatever you do, don't insult his wife in either card. Just wish them well and tell him you'll miss his company.
2007-06-19 07:39:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Address the card to the entire family. Inside the card, write: Bill, ---------- and then tell him all you want to. On the other part of the card write, Mary, Johnny and Susie - the best of luck in your new home. Then sign your name on the bottom of the card.
2007-06-19 07:39:19 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just get a card and maybe a gift card of money to help with the moving.
2007-06-19 05:48:25 · answer #6 · answered by humble servant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Address the card to the whole family and include a personal note for him on a separate card or piece of paper. (Don't mention to him that you aren't fond of his wife!)
2007-06-19 05:49:30 · answer #7 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you leave her out, you will not only cause problems and further dig the nail deeper between you and his wife, but you will also cause problems and headaches for your "best friend", do you really want to do that?
Just put them both on it and stop being so childish.
2007-06-19 06:04:25 · answer #8 · answered by jebul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Address it as Mr & Mrs John Smith when it is being mailed.
You can add a personal note for just your friend inside.
2007-06-19 06:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by no_frills 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a true BEST FRIEND and be respectful of his choice to marry this woman. Put her on the gift or don't send one.
Alternately you could save whatever it is you want to do for his birthday.
2007-06-19 05:54:02 · answer #10 · answered by Michael B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
respect both of them and include both names on the card. I would never exclude someone just because you don't see eye to eye....that sounds childish.
2007-06-19 05:53:24 · answer #11 · answered by meandthekids 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋