I have two younger girls 10 and 2 . My son at age 11 died last year on fathers day , four months before his birthday , I still get depressed , he was mommies little boy and the girls are daddy's little girls . I feel left out now . they don't treat me bad I just miss that bond my son and I had.
2007-06-19 05:35:53 · 11 answers · asked by renee m 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am so, so, very sorry!!!!! My heart and prayers go out to you and your family. Please, please go to some counseling, or a grief group, anything where you can talk to others that have experienced a loss. It really sounds like you need someone to talk to!
Momma P
May Angels Walk Beside You
2007-06-19 05:41:49 · answer #1 · answered by Momma P 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you have heard "I'm sorry" over and over. Just know that I will say a prayer for you to hep you overcome this terrible loss. I can't imagine what that is like and I don't want imagine. I have an 11 year old son as well and the bond between us is like nothing else I have ever experienced. There is truly something magical about mothers and sons.
Please find someone that has experienced this or a group that speicalized in situations like it. I'm not trying to preach, but there are many bible verses that will help you feel better.
Take care of yourself. You have two little girls who need you, too. Your husband needs you. I'm sure the pain will ease off after a while, but you will never forget your son. Cherish the memories you have of him. God bless you!
2007-06-19 13:29:18 · answer #2 · answered by sunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss. I can relate to how you are feeling, as I too, lost a son. (he was only 15 y/o.) I know what you must be feeling, as I am still feeling the emptiness too. It's normal to feel depressed, so do I from time to time. There's nothing like the bond mothers have with their sons, so when we lose a son, the loss is so painful. As time goes on, you'll be able to cope easier with your loss, but you'll always feel the bond you had with your son, even though he's in heaven now. He's watching over you now & always & may that comfort you all the days of your life. My thoughts & prayers are with you. :)
2007-06-19 12:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. I think losing a child has to be hardest thing anyone can go through and I think it is every parents biggest fear. You might feel left out now, but your girls still need you. They might be daddy's little girls now, but once they get older and go through puberty, that's when they will bond with you. I think from that point and then for the rest of thier lives they will look up to you and want your advise on everything. I can't imagine what you are going through, but hang in there for your other children.
2007-06-19 12:43:52 · answer #4 · answered by Shar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am terribly sorry for your loss! This must be the hardest thing in the world to endure. Once I saw an interview in Larry King of somebody with a similar situation. When King asked his guest how he went about life after the loss of his child he said that he treasures the short years he had his son and that he would rather have him than if he never had the child at all. I don't know if this makes sense to you but that is how he was dealing with it. Anyway, please know that many people are praying for you and your family. Perhaps therapy would be a good thing to try. Many blessings to you all.
2007-06-19 13:14:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it one day at a time.
Join support groups with other parents who have lost a child.
Take the lesson that you've learned with this loss, about the fleeting nature of life, and use it to make the most of the relationships you have now.
Think about how your son would want you to go on with your life. He loved you. He would not want you to spend all your days being sad.
Remember him and the lessons that he taught you about life, the fun that you had. Honor that for what it is, for the good that he brought to your life while he was here.
2007-06-19 13:45:40 · answer #6 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine that. My heart goes out to you, there is a differnt bond between a mother and a son. I hope to have that one day. Some never get to feel that. Even though it was cut short for you, I would take comfort that you had the time with him to experience what so many haven't.
2007-06-19 12:55:08 · answer #7 · answered by Honeypai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. It puts tears in my eyes.
I understand what you mean when you say you feel left out.
You will always miss this bond you had with your first child, especially since you were so connected - even if you had 3 other boys.
Cherish his memories as much as you can, Look at his pictures and talk to him.
Keep him alive in your heart and take the time to grieve.
2007-06-19 12:43:53 · answer #8 · answered by yogi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be living for your daughters. Your son is dead and mourning him and being depressed is normal, but take care of the living, remember you're not the only one that's been effected by his death, don't die with your son.
2007-06-19 22:35:09 · answer #9 · answered by jonesk_92656 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone grieves in their own way and in their own time.
I help facilitate a grief support group and have learned that it is normal to feel depression hit you like ocean waves at the beach for many years.
I would encourage you to find a support group in your area.
Try www.griefshare.org to find groups close to you.
2007-06-19 12:43:14 · answer #10 · answered by lunatic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋