My 12 year old daughters hair?

Question

My daughter is 12 and had really pretty hair.
She just recently went over to a friends house and let her cut her hair. Its about ear length now and I miss her long blonde hair. I don't know whether to scold her about this or not?

Answer 1

you should scold her about letting someone random cut her hair... make sure that the lesson is that she should have a professional cut it. You should also say something like, "you're lucky you're so pretty b/ this hairstyle wouldn't work on everyone." If you tell her that you prefer her old hair too much then she might want to just rebel and keep it short to spite you

Answer 2

I would definitely cut the 12 year olds' hair because she done it to the 8 year old and your son so she deserves to have hers cut. For the laptop situation, I would give it to someone not living in the home because it would just cause controversy for the brothers and sisters. Also, instead of letting the 8 year old take some of her stuff, just choose what you do not want the 12 year old to have and get rid of it to someone outside of the home also. I think that is a fair punishment definitely. If it was my kids, I would do the same.

Answer 3

I agree with Jessica. It is her hair, not yours. I think you should let her know that you think what she did *her BEHAVIOUR* was silly and innapproriate, but don't make a big deal about it and don't make her feel terrible about what she did. People make mistakes and 12 year olds do silly things.

If she likes it, which I doubt she does because she was probably expecting something else, take her to a professional salon and ask them to fix it up as best a possible.

My step-sister did something like this. She had hair down to her collarbone and decided to cut these two front strands that kept falling in her face to about 2 inches long. It looked ridiculous! LOL. She was 11 and my mom didn't get mad, but we took her to get a haircut to kind of "hide" the terrible cutting job she did.

It will grow back. Let her know that next time, if she wants a haircut, tell her she can ask you and take her to get it done. Try and be supportive becuase she probably realizes she made a mistake.

Answer 4

I wouldn't scold her because she may 12, but it is her hair. She is at a delicate point in her life where she wants to make decisions concerning her look and appearance and she will find what she likes. I think you should be supportive if she wants long hair, short hair, or no hair. It always grows back.

Answer 5

It was her choice... let her suffer because of it.
If she doesn't like her hair, that should be her punishment, but if she does like her hair ask her why she did it, and if she gives you a good and sincere and honest answer, scold her, but if she says something like "I don't know, i felt like it" then punish her not severly but enough to teach her to think about her decisions before she makes them.
To tell you the truth, I am schocked that a 12 year old girl would let her friend cut her hair, she has to have a good reason behind it.
Hope I helped. =]]

Answer 6

If anyone will feel bad or guilty about the cut, it'll be your daughter since ultimately, it was completely her decision to make. I don't think there's much of a point in getting upset about it. If anything, I think it's safe to say that her reasoning behind the cut was:

a) to try something new and see what fits her developing personality;

b) to upset you (since she IS a preteen after all);

c) a little bit of both.

Regardless, hair grows back.

Answer 7

Not scold, constructively discipline- she is 12 and you are her mother- you decide (with her) when her hair needs to be cut or you decide together how she wants it cut. She's not old enough to make her own decisions in life that are smart for her future- that's your job until she's 18!

Answer 8

Don't scold her, it's not HER fault and it's not YOUR hair. She probably already feels bad enough about how short her hair is, you don't want to make her feel worse for something that she didn't do. Just comfort her and tell her that you understand and it's not her fault.

Answer 9

MY opinion is scold her but say you liek the hair or offer to get extensions dont be tooo harsh though but be supportive

Answer 10

sorry but last I checked it's her hair....you have to let your child express herself even if you don't like it. she didn't go get her nose pierced or something like that so gage the level of harm. is shorter hair really that bad? No. is she happy with the cut? if she is then you should share in her happiness. sounds like she's trying to figure out who she is and punishing her will only cause her to rebel.