My family wont accept my decision about the marines?

Question

Hi, I'm a 16 year old guy right now, but I want to join the marines after graduating from college. I come from a family of Indian decent (indian as in from india not natives) and my mom and my stepdad both want me to become a doctor or an engineer. Yeah yeah let the stereotypes roll in.....haha
But anyway, My mom NEVER encouraged me with anything that I ever wanted to do throughout my life. She just wants me to be something that she wants as if I were just an extension of her. Honestly, she doesn't even know what the marine corps does. She thinks that the navy, coast guard, army, marines, and air force are all on huge force who get guns and shoot at terrorists.
She is so scared of me getting drafted that she even wants me to move to Canada to dodge the drafts. I wanna join the marines really really badly, but if my mom never encouraged me with even the smallest things, how the hell do I tell her I'm joining the marines when I grow up?

I mean joining the military at all will make her upset and probably cut me out of her life. I obviously want to keep my mom in my life, I mean come on, this is my mom, I love her! but joining the marines has been my dream since like forever, why can't she just understand? Why does she doubt the things that she doesn't know about? I understand that she could be worried about me dying, but dying is a part of life and you can't run away from it. You die when it's your time, and If I die in war, then I just guess it's my time. I would honestly welcome death with open arms if I died a valiant death on the battlefield. Hehe not to sound corny or anything :P

Answer 1

Wait until the Marine Corp gives you your very own M-16 Assault riffle. Then have the conversation with her while your cleaning it. She will get the idea.

Answer 2

honey once you're 18 you can do what you want. Joining the Marines is a wonderful opportunity for anyone, especially if they want to be a doctor or an engineer. The Marines provide valuable training in whatever job you want, and after you get out, they pay for your college. I would suggest going before you go through college. It will help you with the discipline you will need to succeed in school. As far as your mom, you may have to accept that she will never be supportive of your ideas. It sounds like she just doesn't know about the Marines, what they are, what they do. Call a recruiter to come to your house and discuss it with your parents. Get brochures and try to leave them around the house where she might pick them up and read them. As far as a draft, there is no draft in effect right now, and I doubt there will be one, so don't worry about that.

Answer 3

Well I will support you. I think that you are a great person wanting to give back to your country. It is men like you who will keep this country great. Don't be a draft dodger, that is the cowards way out. You just keep this goal in mind and go for it. The military will pay for your schooling through the GI bill, but you have to join first. Or do it the way you want to and join after college. If they do reinstate the draft, You would be better off to go down and enlist so that you get to be in the branch of the Military that you want to be in. But there really is no serious talk of reinstituting the draft.

Good for you. You sound like a very mature man and not a selfish teenage boy.

SEMPER FI

Answer 4

i joined the british army when i was 18 my mum was so proud but my dad hated the idea we have an irish connection to our family and my dad is very republican.
joining was one of the best things i done you learn more skills than just firing rifles
you get paid to keep fit
you get paid too travel too
once you come out after completing youre service you will find that people give you a lot of respect and employers love to employ ex-service men because they are hard working, pay great attention to detail and always produce a high standard regardless to whatever the task they have been given.
not sure about the american forces but in the british army there was no problem with difirent races or skin color we had several indians in our squadron and there was a massive recruitment of fijian's too.
hope youre parents will respect youre wish to chose youre own path in life . good luck

Answer 5

Your only 16 and you are talking about joining after college. A lot can happen in those years. You might even change your mind. I wouldn't worry about it. You will see that when your older you will think differently and have a better capacity to tell your mother and father what you want for your life. After all in the end it is your decision and if they don't respect it they will have to deal with it no matter what things might happen.

Answer 6

Any parent would be scared in this day and age of their children joining the armed forces. You have some time to weigh your options, don't sign anything until you have made a final decision. Your mom is just concerned about you and it sounds like she just wants the best.

Answer 7

That is an awesome decision that you want to join the marines. Your Mom needs to face the fact that you are growing up and it is time that you make your own decisions. I think if you want to join the Marines, then go ahead and do it! Good for you!!

Answer 8

You just tell her that is what you want to do. That is an awesome decision that you want to join the marines. Your Mom needs to face the fact that you are growing up and it is time that you make your own decisions. I think if you want to join the Marines, then go ahead and do it! Good for you!!

Answer 9

What you need to do is just be honest.

Sit your mother and your stepfather down on the couch and tell them very seriously that you need to speak with them, and then tell them how you feel. You want to join the Marines, and they can't change your mind, but at the same time, you crave their support and understanding. If they don't understand the Marine Corp., then educate them. Show them brochures and websites online that explain it better. Tell them that a son in Marines is something you want them to be proud of.

Even if they don't support your decision, if you come across as strong and sure of yourself, they should respect your point of view and accept it.

Good luck to you!

Answer 10

dude are you serious? 2 more years u graduate high school right? then 4 years of college. by then the war should be over.
anyway if I was you, I would use that college degree and get a job and make more $.
there is not point of going to college if you want to join marines.
go after HS.
I wanted to go too marines but I realized I have brains and went to college.

Answer 11

First off you have to live your life for you and make the decisions based on what is going to make you happy in life. Yeah it will be hard for them to accept at first because they do care about you and every parent worries about their children no matter what they do in life, but once you make the decision for yourself they will see how much it really means to you and hopefully be there for you. You are growing up and making decisions on your own is one the adult things to do. People are never going to agree with everything you do in life, heck some of them will never agree with you no matter what you do, but if it makes you happy and it is a dream of yours to be a MARINE then by all means do what makes you happy!!!! Not that this is going to matter to you but I stand behind you fully and am proud that you have chosen to make such a life decision at a young age....

Good Luck

shelly e