i´m a good looking guy.. i´m chubby but i´m tall too.. kinda geeky guy.. like to read.. like to play.. like politics.. news.. i´m not a disco or pub guy... i dont like those things.. i find them boring... i´m like a 35-40 y/o man in the body of a 19..
i´m one of those "i like when we do this, i dont like when you do that" persons... i mean.. i know what i like and what i dont.. you can call me closed or wathever.. and i am a jealous guy... but not one of those selfish... its just i like to protect what i´ve fighted for...specially my partner..
I really love her(4 years relationshp)..i am all over compromise.. and i was planning a life with her..i´m totally trustable and would never cheat on her.. then she left me for this guy(her classmate) who is my opposite.. likes to party.. has bad reputation with women.. (she says its only reputation, that he´s not like that), he´s an activist and believes he´s the leader of sumtin.. she´s wanting a future with him.. would you trade me for him?
2007-06-19 04:28:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i just wanted to add that she is like me.. she likes to read study and stuff.. but sometimes she told me that she wanted to live.. and try new things.. and that she was scared about having just one boyfriend and getting married with him... its like a mix but she´s mostly the same way as i am.. and i guess that new guy has some of that too.. not as much as me.. but i guess he might be close... as far as i know(which is not much)... i´m not closed to try new things.. its just that i prefer stability against rushing up things that will come over time (travels, meeting people..etc)
2007-06-19 04:54:46 · update #1
She likes bad boys. You don't fit into that category right now. She just wanted a change of scenery. If she can do this after 4 years - what would she do after a 10 or 20 year marriage?
Let her go fall on her face. You seem like a good guy. She'll be pouting about her decision eventually... even if you never see it.
2007-06-19 04:33:10 · answer #1 · answered by Challah back Girl... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm... no I wouldnt because it seems like the other guy would probably cheat on her anyway... I dont think that they will last, but I also dont know the whole situation or the other guy..
I think that maybe she wanted a little more excitment in her life.. She is young and at the age, where they want to run around, and try new things.. get into trouble.. do whatever.. Commitment is a hard thing at such a young age..
I think it would be good for you to get out and try something new and adventurous..
Like I just posted how I am fed up with how all men cheat these days.. Well you may be one of them good guys that dont and that is hard to find.. Let her go.. There are tons of women in this world and I am sure you will fins a great one someday!
Letting this last girl go is so hard because she is all that you know and you were with her so long.. but 4 years is nothing compared to the rest of your life.. So get out there and enjoy life dont waste it away over some girl when you cant do anything about it anyway.. Good Luck
2007-06-19 11:48:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was your girlfriend with the problem, not you. I can totally understand where you're coming from, and what she did was just selfish and wrong. After four years with you I guess she wanted change, she wanted to be wild and crazy for a while. She'll probably realize her mistake once that guy cheats on her, and come back to you crying. But don't take her back. I know you loved her, and probably still do, but there are a lot of other girls out there who would like you for who you are, and wouldn't want to change you. It will be hard to get over her, but it can be done. So stay strong and don't look back! Good luck!
*Nat*
2007-06-19 11:36:48 · answer #3 · answered by NatNatAttack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
....Dude....you.........YOU ROCK!!!! And I am a 45 year old woman in the body of a damn 15 year old. So, ditched for your opposite? Hmmm, she just wasn't right for you. You are 19 right? Awesome, you are young and healthy!!! Go out and meet some people *not at bars persay since you do not like that, from what I gather* Go to the movies on friday n saturdays >.> flocks of girls go there all the time *...not me I'd be home reading* BUT TO ANSWER YOUR Q!!! I'd rather have a "geek" than a stupid annoying party boy. Go out and find someone better than her, I'm sure you'll be much happier ^.- Best Of Luck!
-Ryko
2007-06-19 11:36:24 · answer #4 · answered by xxx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well at my age I would like someone a little more outgoing than you, but if i were older and ready to settle down and start a family or what not (like your ex) i'd definetly stay with you. There comes a time when you need to stop the immaturaty and become a responsible adult (like yourself). If she is even thinking about it you need to dump her and find someone that will love you for you! Good Luck Sir!
2007-06-19 11:46:26 · answer #5 · answered by Mandi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only have your word, but he sounds like a lot more fun than you. If you're acting like 40 at your age, what will you be like at 25? At 40? I think I might actually make the trade in spite of your many obvious good qualities.
2007-06-19 11:32:58 · answer #6 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I would not. But not all women are alike any more than all men are alike. Some women just can't help themselves...they have to go for the bad guys. They think it is or will be more exciting. NOT! Been there got the t-shirt! You will find someone who is more suited to you eventually. It will happen when it's meant to happen. I'm sorry she did that.
2007-06-19 11:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about trading, it's just that she was ready to move on. The feelings that she once held for you, no longer exist. I wouldnt trade one guy for the other, because men arent a game you can pick and leave behind when your bored with them. I go into a relationship, and if it dies out I have no choice but to progress foward, as your ex did.
2007-06-19 11:33:23 · answer #8 · answered by La Princesa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound kind of safe - some girls like that.
He sounds kind of rough - some girls like that.
I repeat now the age old saying - its not you, its her.
P.S. But who knows? If you have been together so long, maybe she just needed a brake to find out how much she really needs you!
2007-06-19 11:35:54 · answer #9 · answered by Nikkitta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all personal preference. I'm mean every girl likes a little adventure now and then. But to flat out leave you for him. He doesnt sound like quite the charmer either.. It makes me wonder and it should make you to. How genuine was your relationship with her? How much did she love you?
2007-06-19 11:34:06 · answer #10 · answered by miss_chelsea_stone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋