My fiance was killed in Iraq this febuary when his vehical rolled over. Both familys are urging me to get off my butt and go out have fun and date again. I want to, I really want to go out on dates and stuff like that but, I'm not really sure.
2007-06-19 04:10:42 · 14 answers · asked by MayMay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The same thing happened to me my boyfriend of 3 years died in Iraq. I was so depressed and I cried and cried. I got over it but he is always going to be in my heart. He died last year in December and I started dating in September. Now I have a new boyfriend and we have been together since September!
2007-06-19 04:17:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The grieving process is different for everyone. It sounds like they just want you to be happy. But until your emotionaly ready to move on then its really up to you, you will always have a place in your heart for your fiance, but remember to live your life and grow prosper and move on I'm sure your fiance would tell you the same thing, the loss of a love one is always hard it takes time to heal the wound just explain to your family how you feel about it and tell them that you love them for trying to help you, when your ready you will be ready
I sorry for your loss and I hope that you will grow and live and prosper,God bless.
2007-06-19 11:18:02 · answer #2 · answered by Mitchell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until you feel that you're totally ready for it, don't let anyone push you out in it. If you go before you are ready, you may get a setback. You don't need to date to have fun either, hang out with some friends. Just wait until you feel totally sure about it, may take days, weeks, months.. but it will be worth it in the end :-)
and it will be better for both you and the guy you one day meet that you have been able to deal with your feelings around it.
2007-06-19 11:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by Kay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry to hear such a tragedy like this. It is definitely your call to know when you are personally ready to go out and date again. No one can tell you to go out. Your family is just trying to get you heal faster, which is a good thing, but you will know when the time is right to make that step. Good Luck!
2007-06-19 11:14:28 · answer #4 · answered by benz s55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as your heart will let you. Do NOT rush into another relationship. I would advice going out with your befstfriends and just having fun and maybe a little ating but yuo need time to grieve. When you're ready you will know, it is all about the feeling.
2007-06-19 11:14:25 · answer #5 · answered by DJTT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your lose. If everyone jumped off a bridge, would you? You can't alway do what people tell you to. If you want to take more time, then do it. You're the only one that knows when you are ready to mingle again. I wish you the best of luck and God bless you and your family.
2007-06-19 11:14:17 · answer #6 · answered by Troy Mac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do this whenever you're comfortable with it. It takes time to work out the grief from losing a loved one. You might want to start out by going out in groups with your girlfriends. That'll get you out the door at least. Keep thinking that your fiance would want you to be happy.
Sorry for your loss.
2007-06-19 11:15:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to go out on dates, you should do so. There is no point in hurting your life anymore than it already has been. Only you know if it's to soon, and that's only if your not ready. Other people don't matter. Besides, there telling you to go out and have fun right, so listen to them
2007-06-19 11:20:17 · answer #8 · answered by wingedstrider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont need to rush things. you will know when you are completely ready to move on. trust me you have all the time in the world. if you wanna go out, just go out with the girls once in a while, if you meet someone, then you meet someone, if not then you still got to hang with the girls.
ps - i am VERY sorry to hear about your fiance! God bless him, you and your families.
2007-06-19 11:16:08 · answer #9 · answered by dywillacker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course, they are only trying to do good by you, but you are the only one who can decide when you are ready. I don't think you're quite there yet.
Take your time...
2007-06-19 11:15:02 · answer #10 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋