I met a smart and very beautiful girl who goes to a church near my house. While I was walking by, I saw her struggling moving some boxes from her car into the church and I helped her. Afterwards, we talked and exchanged numbers. But she told me she would only go on a date with me after I went to church with her and her family.
I really would like to date this girl, not just because she's good looking but also because she seems intelligent and we converse very easily. But I would feel like a real charlatan going to church, since I don't believe in God at all. Should I just go to church with her once so I'll have a shot with her?
2007-06-19 04:06:41 · 16 answers · asked by Subconsciousless 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you two converse quite easily, just tell her what you've told us. If thinking about going to church with her and her family makes you uneasy, how do you think you'll feel sitting there, waiting for the right time to tell her you're an atheist? I've lied about my beliefs before, and I can assure you that you'll feel much better just being honest. And if it doesn't work out, it'll be her loss. Believing that no supreme being exists doesn't make you a bad person, but lying sure does.
Oh, and that thing that lets you know whether your actions are right or wrong is called a conscience!
2007-06-19 05:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by Eron_Rathbone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a future with this girl and not just a quickie maybe you should think about the idea of having to go to church often it's obviously important to her and she wont stop going.
My now husband is a church goer and I am not I question faith to much to believe in it. However I go to chuch with him and his family and our daughter is a Catholic so I feel to help her choose her path I must show willing to at least attend church. I must say I dont mind going sometimes but we came to a compramise and only go once a month. Sunday is are day to be a family the rest of the time.
2007-06-19 04:19:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are two sides of this, one going to a different faith church will not harm you if you are firm with your faith, but as a sign of respect its either you decline or just go there and do what they are doing, but if your intention is just to get her, i do not think that is a good thing to do. Being a atheist is not bad, but i know being a human being you are taught how to respect, and so as respecting also the belief of others.
The other side of this, yes it a nice move, why not. maybe you may also consider her religion for a change.
2007-06-19 04:13:45 · answer #3 · answered by sharron_4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't share her belief.And you feel that you would be a hypocrite for attending a church? And if the relationship evolves into romance,Then what? Will her parents expect you to attend church with them to make sure your good enough for their daughter? What if she wants a church wedding? Would you be willing to change your views for her? About 95% of the world believes in some type of supreme being,Believe me if she feels strongly about this and I'm sure she does,She won't just let it be. So my question to you is,Do you think she is worth it? If so,Then prepare to be willing to compromise. The choice is yours......
2007-06-19 04:18:58 · answer #4 · answered by master_escrimador 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you should go "so you'll have a shot with her". I think that you need to consider the fact that you two could be together for awhile. If you really do like her, you'll go with her because you want to be with her for who she is.
However, I don't think it would work out between you two, because you're an Atheist and she obviously isn't. You're already questioning how far you should go for her, which isn't a good sign.
2007-06-19 04:13:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better believe it would. Grow up. If you don't sgree with one of her most important life decisions to believe in God... you need to leave her alone. Get your head out of your ***. You don't go to church to 'pick up women.' You go to pray and worship. Why would you go if all you can contribute is your skewed views of spirituality and faith. Do yourself a favor... date another Atheist. Then you both can date and at least agree that you are faithless with no foundation to stand on.
2007-06-19 16:04:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most hurches have no problem with people of other faiths (or none at all) attending their sevices. Do a little reserch-- find uot if there is anything you CAN'T do. the last thing you want is to mess that up. also be honest with the fact that your atheist. as long as she still understands that i dont think there wil be a problem!
2007-06-19 04:15:38 · answer #7 · answered by Trish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does not want to be "unequally yoked'. Meaning being tied to another who is not a believer. Leave her alone. I suspect if you told her you were an atheist she would not date you any way. How long could you keep THAT to yourself? Best let her find some one that believes as she does, and you find someone that believes as you do. It is better off for all concerned.
2007-06-19 04:13:20 · answer #8 · answered by boogersmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure go to church with you! What could you loose- you're already convinced there's no GOD!!
You're going to hell anyways! Maybe God will just sit right down next to you while you're in church and start talking to you!
Good Luck!!
2007-06-19 04:11:01 · answer #9 · answered by babysteppin2003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No - don't waste your time. You need to find someone who has the same beliefs as you. She will eventually figure out that you are an atheist and that will be the end of that. Besides, you don't want to start out a relationship with a lie.
2007-06-19 04:12:25 · answer #10 · answered by Be me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋