How do you deal with grief?

Answer 1

http://www.elisabethkublerross.com/

Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross is probably THE most recognized authority on grief. Here is some information from her website. Take care of yourself.

About Grief & Bereavement
Grief is a natural process to death and dying.  It is not pathological in nature, but rather, is a necessary response to helping heal from the overwhelming sense of loss when a loved one dies. 
 
It is important to understand grief as part of the human experience.  If you are grieving, some things you can do to help yourself include:

 -Attending support groups in your area
Many communities have secular and faith based support groups focused on spousal, parental, and child death.

-Therapy with a psychologist or other qualified mental health professional
Therapy can be helpful in many ways especially when combined with a support group.

-Journaling
Writing is a catharsis for many!

-Eating well
It is important to eat healthy foods and take supplements.

-Exercise
Take walks or work out: jog, aerobics or a spring-cleaning week will do as well. Physical exertion is a great stress reliever and may afford you some time alone to gather your thoughts in the process.

-Get enough rest
Give yourself plenty of time to rest. Grief drains your emotional battery and you will need to recharge more often. If you simply don't want to get out of bed in those early stages of grief, then don't!

-Reading and learning about death-related grief responses
Knowledge helps people regain a sense of control over their experiences and environment and helps reduce feelings of vulnerability.

-For some, seeking solace in the faith community
It can be helpful for some to seek the wisdom and comfort that churches, synagogues, temples, mosques, and other places of worship provide.

-Seek comforting rituals
This include funerals and memorial services, planting gardens and trees, donating to a cause, and other comforting and culturally appropriate ritual

-Allow emotions
Tears can be healing.

-Avoid major changes in residence, jobs, or marital status
Major changes can be too burdensome during grief.  Wait for about one year after the death of a loved one before making any major changes.

-Participate in the International Movement "The Kindness Project"

Answer 2

I always write when I feel down. It helps me unload myself from doubts, uncertainty and guilt which all come together to give me a bad heartache and the only cure for that is writing. At the end of the day grief is not such a bad thing for me, as it inspires me and awakes my creativity. Out of my sorrow is born the beauty of Art: Poetry, Creative Art, music or writing in general. So I think I don't really have to deal with grief as I invite it and play courtesy with it. And that would be my advice to anyone who wants to know how to deal with grief: Don't fight it; let yourself get drowned in your inner tears as it floods out a part of you that you might not even know. Try to bring out good consequences out of the sorrow. Example: If you get beaten to the floor, then pick yourself up and try to find a way to help others get up and to fight for justice. Make grief become your inspiration and determination for a good cause! :-)
I really enjoyed answering this question! Thank you very much :-) !!

Answer 3

Everyone deals with grief in their own way but their are stages that you go through...denial,anger,bargaining,depression and finally acceptance. Acceptance is always the last one but the other stages can happen in any order. I guess thats more of a technical answer so on a more personal level the only things that really make it easier for me is time and knowing that by passing on they dont hurt anymore or that there was a bigger plan for them somewhere else...whether or not its totally true I'm not 100% but its what gets me through it. I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 4

You just go with the flow and allow for the grief to evolve in order to heal. Read article here on how to survive grief and loss:


http://www.selfempoweredwoman.com/index.php?cat=3&submit=Go%21

Answer 5

You cry, and sometimes even get angry, and you cry some more. Just try to remember some happy thoughts about the person you are grieving for, and it is ok to smile and forget that you are missing someone in your life. The process has no time limits and is very emotional. It's a cliche but time really does help the healing.

Answer 6

Time.

Answer 7

Getting it out. Crying, talking to someone, writing my feelings down.

Answer 8

Let it out, live it, don't be embarrassed by it, kindly thank those who acknowledge it - and BE BUSY with living as soon as I can!