hi i'm 18 and i just found out i was pregnant around 3 weeks ago and my boyfriend keeps hinting he wants me to get an abortion. BUT he also keeps telling me he's there for me in whatever decision. i want to keep the baby, but i'm not too sure he does. what should i do? and if i have the baby, do you think he'd leave?
2007-06-19 03:43:42 · 29 answers · asked by Lauren C 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
well my dad is the EVP of business units and marketing for nestle waters north america in connetcut.. money/housing isnt an issue
2007-06-19 03:55:17 · update #1
This is a tough decision. He will probably leave if you keep it and sadly he may leave even if don't keep it. You have to make the decision for you. Don't count on him to be there either way. You have to do what's best for you and that unborn baby. He just wants you and that baby to pay for a mistake. To me that just ain't right. Good Luck and I hope you make the right decision!
2007-06-19 03:53:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not let ur boyfriend or anyone else make this choice for u. If u feel that u will have the money, the time, and the heart to bring a baby into this world and make a good life for the baby then go for it and have the baby... If the boyfriend sticks around it will show that he has grown up and willing to take a step forward since he was responsible for half of what happened.... If u do not think that u will be able to be a loving dependable mother who will be able to provide for the baby then maybe u have a few things that u need to think about before making a choice of wanting to give the baby up for adoption or having an abortion... I do not really believe in abortion... But that is just me in general... So def take the time and make the right choice the one that u wont regret in the end.... :o)
2007-06-19 09:13:30 · answer #2 · answered by momof2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for keeping the baby! If your boyfriend really loves you and will support you in whatever decision you make then, dont do an abortion. Keep the little creation God gave you, its a precious gift and if your boyfriend isnt man enough to stick around and help you raise the baby or chooses to have nothing to do with the baby then YOU also dont need him!
However... if you do want the baby please talk with him about it. Explain you want to keep it and that you'd appreciate his support with this decision.
Good luck to you... I pray you do decide to keep the baby!
*note after reading an answer to this question. I got married at 16 to the man of my dreams and got pregnant at 18 with our first child. Were still together to this day. 16 years of marriage celebrated this past Feb. So to say anything about being with the same man at that young of an age until your 80 is unbelievably naive. If its love... it'll work.
2007-06-19 04:10:46 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This situation happened to me when I was 21. I already had one daughter and my boyfriend (who was quite a bit older than me) had two children. When I found out I was pregnant he demanded that I get an abortion, even going so far as calling abortion clinics and trying to make appointments for me. He would tell me that if I did this he would love me forever, and all kinds of things that were absolutely ridiculous. At the time I was scared to death and had no clue what to do, I absolutely didn't want an abortion and even though he threatened to leave me several times I decided to have the baby. It was the best decision I ever made. I realized that no matter what he said or did I could never live with myself if I had an abortion. My daughter is now 5 and the center of her fathers universe and has been since the day she was born. So all I can say to you is to do what you feel is right, it's the only way you will ever be able to live with yourself!
2007-06-19 03:52:56 · answer #4 · answered by euchre_princess_23 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First off don't listen to the one saying get an abortion, your child won't suffer anything unless you do get an abortion, if you know how abortions go you would know the fetus suffers if aborted, if your bf doesn't want the baby who cares your body your choice, if he doesn't like it you can find someone else, tell him you won't get an abortion if he loves you he will respect your decision, if he doesn't dump him you deserve better, especially if you already have two kids, a third will just bring more joy to you, if you have been together for so long why haven't u met his family??? U should have met them by now, if you haven't met them no point in being worried about them hating you, its not their decision anyway, it truthfully sounds like he wants no responsibility for his own child and that is selfish, i would break it off with him if he doesn't accept that u wanna keep the child, he also is sounding like he doesn't love u anymore, if he loves you he will respect your decision to keep it, if not he doesn't love u anymore he will continue to pressure u into the abortion, keep the baby, and depending on how your bf takes it, should be the decision i make whether he loves you or not, there are others out there
2016-04-01 05:30:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter at this point whether or not your boyfriend stays if you decide to keep the baby. He obviously doesn't want it if he's hinting for you to get an abortion. You're old enough to know that if you have unprotected sex (or if the condom broke, etc...) you take a risk of getting pregnant. It's your body and he cannot make any decisions for you. If he supposedly supports you in whatever you decide, then sit down w/ him, explain to him that you want to keep this baby, and see what he says. If he doesn't like it, let him walk. Regardless he'll be a part of that baby's life if you lock him in the system. He can't hate for you something that he played a part in. Point blank.
2007-06-19 03:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by Shortie [Mama of 2] 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"and if i have the baby, do you think he'd leave?"
Statistically, the odds are one in six that the two of you will end up together after the birth, even for just a few years.* Not great.
"well my dad is the EVP of business units and marketing for nestle waters north america in connetcut.. money/housing isnt an issue"
Not an issue FOR YOUR FATHER, which is NOT you and your baby. What, the two of you will leech off him for your full income for 18 years? Grow up.
2007-06-19 04:08:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are not 100% sure you want an abortion you should not have one. You will regret it for the rest of your life and there is no changing your mind about it. If you want to keep the baby then you should keep it. He may or may not leave if you have the baby, but legally he will still have to be financially responsible, so make sure you get all of that taken care of before you have the baby. If he says he will support you either way, he probably will. He's probably just scared and wishing it hadn't happened, but do not let him pressure you into an abortion. You can do this with or without him. Good luck.
2007-06-19 04:07:02 · answer #8 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that if you want to keep the baby then that is your decision to make, not his. you should keep it and even if he is scared, you have more righ to be then he is. you should talk to him and tell him that you want to keep it and then ask him to be honest and tell you the truth if he wants to keep it too. I believe that it is wrong to get abortions because that is killing the living thing inside of you. If you made it, and made a mistake, it's your mistake to live with. Wouldn't you feel bad knowing that you killed your child. Think of how much fun you could have. It's a big responsibility, but you should just talk to him and tell him that you really want to keep it. If he says he will stay with you no matter the decision, he sounds like a good guy, but if you're worried about him leaving over this, then maybe it wasn't meant to happen. Good luck!
2007-06-19 05:27:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to make that decision, and it sounds like you already have. If he is a good guy, he will stick around and probably fall in love with the child.
I think if you are going to keep the baby, you need to get prepared. I am guessing that you aren't ready yet, and you need to make yourself ready. A child is a huge responsibility. No parent is perfect, and there really is no perfect time to have a child. Once you decide you are keeping this baby, you no longer come first, so your priorities need to go towards raising that baby.
You can do it, with or without your boyfriend.
I hope you choose to keep it, and that you never regret the decision you make.
Good luck!
2007-06-19 03:55:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋