why do parents always think there kid(s) is the cutest in the world??

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i mean think about it. most parents want to teach there kids to share and be nice but a parent would say " your the best" or your the cutest". i've even read some profiles to some parents say "parent of the cutest kid in the world" or something close to that. so how is a kid supposed to realize he/she is no more important than any other kid if they are told they are the cutest or or the best, etc etc etc...............

that's true, there are some ugly babies out there.

Answer 1

You're right. There are some ugly babies out there

Answer 2

Obviously you don't have your own kids. If you do, then you might want to do some reading about child esteem and confidence! The fact is that you can teach your kids that they are cute or "the best" to raise their confidence and make them feel good about themselves and still teach them to share and be nice. Think about it. Have you ever had anyone tell you that you were the most beautiful woman in the world, perhaps a boyfriend or parent or even just a friend? Is it true? No. And you knew it. You're not dumb. But it made you feel better about yourself. If this, or something like it, has never happened to you, then that is too bad. You don't know what you are missing. In any case, the same thing holds true with children. They are not stupid. If you teach them all the values of being a good person, when you tell them they are the cutest or best or brightest, they'll know what you mean.

Answer 3

I would hope that the parents who put "mom of cutest kid in the world" are just showing their love, not actually telling their child that.

The fact is, there will always be somebody better, smarter, prettier, younger, etc than you. And me. And our children, for that matter. I tell my daughter she's wonderful, and I tell her she's beautiful, and special, and smart, and all that. But I never ever tell her she's the most - most beautiful, smartest, etc. Because you are correct - in the long run, that's very damaging to a child, because it's simply not true, and no one has the stamina to spend their lives living up to that image anyway.

Praise them, but don't lie. Compliment them, but don't exagerate. Love them, but don't idolize them. That's my 2 cents anyway.

Answer 4

When all my children were born the first thing I did was count their fingers and their toes,then kiss each one . They were the most beautiful thing I had ever seen, each and everyone of them. I looked at my beautiful babies and couldn't believe that me, little old me, just you're average everday person. could creat something so beautiful in just 9 months. Nothing I have done in my life has even came close to comparing to that.All babies are beautiful in the eyes of their mother because we knew them long before anyone else laid eyes on them, they were a part of us, we were the first to love them, the first to hold them next to our hearts. It takes 9 months to make a baby and the most wonderful thing of all is that you have a life time to enjoy them. Yes I had the cutiest babies, now my 2 daughter and my son are still the cutest to me simply because I'm their mom and no one will ever love them more than I do.

Answer 5

I always liked this line... "Yes, you're unique and special.... just like everyone else."

I can't even begin to count how many outright ugly babies I've seen whose parents think they're the cutest things ever. It's probably because they don't have an objective opinion on the matter because they're the parents.

We spend the first 18 years of a kids life telling them they're unique, special, adorable, etc. and then the rest of their life telling them to fit in, be a part of the team, etc.

Answer 6

I agree. I think people are always going to think their kids are the cutest because that is the way God meant for it to be. If they weren't cute and adorable to us, why would we want to take care of them when they are screaming? As for putting more importance on appearance than necessary, I think this is something we have to try hard not to do. I always try with my daughter, who is beautiful, to say things like "I love how you shared with your brother today" or "You were very thoughtful" instead of what I really want to say "you're so cute!" She hears it all the time from strangers, and I want her to realize there are other qualities with more importance. I think there is a fine line, because they still need to hear from us that we think they are cute, too.

Answer 7

Well, mine really are the cutest kids in the world!! I think its important for parents to stick up for their children and boost their confidence, but without being over the top about it. It's a hard balance to strike, I think. But mine are still toddlers and haven't been exposed to the real world yet!

Answer 8

Because in a parent's eyes their children are the best in the world. There's nothing wrong with a little positive reinforcement that your child is the most important person in your life.

Anyway, my child is the best and cutest in the world in my eyes! :) and this is my personal opinion. I don't tell her she's the best and brightest person in the world, but I do tell her she is a cutie and that I love her very much.

Answer 9

are you a parent live with a parent of a baby?

if you are you'll know that it's a bond between the parents and the babies. In the healthiest cases that bonds is best when it's gone at 1-2 years old because if it remains after that it'll ruin the childs' upbringing and will create a child that will turn out to be a bully, a show-off, or a child with some other bad characteristic that will hurt them in real life.

Answer 10

I don't think you can give your child too much positive reinforcement about themselves. But along with letting them know how beautiful the child is, it is important too to let them know about inner qualities that you appreciate in them and teaching them values and morals like how to love, accept, forgive, and share (as you mentioned). It's just a compliment and no different that telling your boyfriend or husband how attractive you think he is or all of the things you love about him.
What is beautiful about a child that you have is being able to look at that baby and know that he or she is a product of your love and that you carried him or her in your belly for nine months because you love them so much. Or that you adopted that baby because you wanted them that much. Kids need to be told how special they are in every way. And how wanted they are so they never doubt that when things get hard.

Answer 11

I think it is good to be your kids greatest fan. I think it is good for your kids to come home from school or having someone be rude to them at the playground and come home to knowing that when they get there.. there will be people who think they are simply the best and will hug it all better and play a game with them because they are just the cutuest most loved. I think that is a good thing. Everyone needs to know that they are the most important to somebody. Believe me, when they get out to school at age 4-5, they figure out in 2 days that they are one of thousands