For the past month I have been having problems with my girlfriend and we broke up about 2 weeks ago. We tried to be friends, but that didn't work. She has been ignoring me for the past 5 days now. I haven't bothered her either(phone calls, text messages, none of that) I miss her so much and I just can't stop thinking about it. I have 2 jobs, and a vacation coming up in 2 weeks. A concert this weekend, along with a tennis tournament. I don't feel like doing any of these things. I have gotten a total of 10 hours of sleep the past 5 days. I've tried talking to my friends and family about it, but it only makes it worse. I am currently waiting on my doctor to call me back so I can talk to him about this. I just like to see what other people would think. I have lost total interest in everything. I have never been rejected in my whole life. I know this is part of growing up, but this is tough stuff. I pray all the time about it too. I just don't know what to do. help me!
2007-06-19 03:09:37 · 8 answers · asked by hobofromhell 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You have to remember, depression is a disease. To me, it seems you are hitting the low point of your life and feeling down and depressed. That is not the same thing as having a depression.
Give yourself more time.
Don't write it off as a disease. Deal with it. It will end. Every problem will eventually reach and end. You really don't have any choice because rejection is just part of living.
By the way, rejection is an opportunity to start out fresh... it's all how you look at it. There WAS a reason why two of you broke up. Something wasn't working. You really don't want to get back into it, unless the reason behind the break up was a total mis-understanding and happened in heat of the moment.
2007-06-19 03:19:02 · answer #1 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I could remember how many times I cried over some guy I dated you would laugh. You have life by the B****!! Look at all the great opportunities you have going on . Vacation a concert two jobs. People would kill to have opportunities like that. Are you depressed yes, do you have depression no, I surely don't think so you got dumped suck it up happens to everyone. You will meet more women in your lifetime than you can shake a stick at (yeah who creates these expressions)!! Anywho, make it work go out and have fun that is the greatest thing you can do for yourself go flirt when your on vacation and at your concert it will make you feel like a million bucs. GOD BLESS it only gets better!!!
2007-06-19 10:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand how you feel. based on your symptoms, i think you have exogenous depression (the depression that comes from external factors --- like losing your girlfriend), but still, check with your doctor.
10 hours of sleep for the past 5 days does not sound good. please seek medical help.
rejection is tough, i know. and the way you feel can't be changed overnight. at least, you have a desire to get better. keep up that desire, as well as your prayers, and the activities that you find solace in. take these as your sources of strength to get through this hard time.
hope i helped.
2007-06-19 10:25:35 · answer #3 · answered by NervousWreck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to think of the bad things about her. Her bad habits, her bad nature. Things which will make you feel you r better off without her. Time is the biggest healer. Given time, you will come out of it . Take a light tranquilizer at night so you could get good night's rest. But don't buy more than 2 at a time, good luck!
2007-06-19 10:28:04 · answer #4 · answered by aWellWisher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaks up are hard and being friends with ur ex is harder....(dont see or tlak to ur ex for 6months). You need time to recover and move on. Its natural to feel blue and not sleep after a breakup but still check with ur doctor. Try ur best to go out and enjoy life(even though u dont feel like it right now). You have to push urself to moveon. Get friends to help you...things will get better and after 6months u can try to be friends with your ex. my best friend is my ex. we had a messy breakup and didnt see each other for months(we volunteer at the same place...so we see each other everyday). But i needed to recover so i stopped volunteering for 2months to give myself time to moveon and enjoy lfie as a single person. Slowly i got over it and now starting another relationship with a great guy and my ex is happy for me. Dont worry things do get better slowly. if u do get depressed call a friend not ur ex for support. read "its called a breakup b/c its broken" by greg. it will be ok...but if ur doctor say u are depressed is ok....just email me and i can help cuz i been suffering from deprssion for 3yrs.
2007-06-19 10:52:34 · answer #5 · answered by Bunnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you are depressed from your brea-up..break-ups can be devestating there is such things as adjustment disorders and depression from a tramatic event, not anything to do with your biochemistry. I think after you work through the break up find a new girl, you will see the depression disapate
2007-06-19 10:19:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the moment I would say that you are feeling down. You are going through a stressful time.
If you still feel like this in another month or so then I would suggest you go and see your GP.
If you feel that you are at risk of hurting yourself, i.e. cutting yourself or suicidal thoughts or ideations then go see your GP tomorrow!
2007-06-19 10:22:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel ya, but u gotta move on and forget her, go hang out with friends, just do stuff thats fun, and exercise too, lift weights, it helps.
2007-06-19 10:14:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋