God gives you parents so that they can raise you and teach you what is right. And when you get older, they are there for guidance. I'm 21, still living at home, love my parents. I met a guy but it was online. I told my parents and I told them I wanted them to meet him. They were not happy about the way we met but agreed to meet him. They met him and dislike him. Reasons given by mom: he's not good enough, I'm looking down, he doesn't have a degree yet, and she even gave negative comments about his looks. Reasons given by dad: doesn't believe that the guy is in school, also commented on looks, he also thinks I have a problem with my own race since the guy in filipino and my first boyfriend was korean and I'm black. I love my parents by I think they are judging and looking down on someone, and I don't think it's right. But the bible says honor your parents so how do I do that in this situation? I'm praying about it but I still wanted feedback from others. comments?
2007-06-19 03:01:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You're 21 now, and the ultimate decision is up to you. The first thing is for you to decide how you feel about him. Don't let your parents make your boyfriend decisions for you, but don't go out with a guy just to rebel against them either.
If you like him, go out on a few dates. If you don't, then gently break it off and tell him that you can still be friends.
2007-06-19 03:08:09 · answer #1 · answered by Julia Sugarbaker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is yet another way religion harms society.
Honoring your parents is generally a good thing to do, since they put so many resources into raising you. However, such blanket statements never fit every situation. Parents are people, too, and as such, they make some bad mistakes sometimes and hold bad views. Some parents are horrible and don't deserve respect at all, though this doesn't seem like the situation in your case.
And for your own relationships, you should probably listen to your parents, only because they have more experience than you do in these matters and can offer some good advice. However, it is your relationship, so any ultimate decisions in these matters are yours. You know your partner and yourself much better than I do, and even much more than your parents do. How much of your parent's advice you take is up to you. Also remember that parents are very protective, and nobody is really going to be good enough for their daughter. So, realize their biases and make up your own mind.
Prayer is a waste of time.
2007-06-19 03:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by nondescript 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i like the way you love your parents, there is a main difference as you dumped your other ones you probably will dump this one too, I'm not saying you would but you cannot dump your parents, This is not religions fault, let me give you a bit of advice Filipinos, well most of them are disgusting i have noticed I'm not racist or hater, Look all im saying is follow your heart, but, if you love him deeply and he loves you and he is kind to you then tell your parents he is the one. Not matrix style, the one you love . But there is a problem if your parents hate him or dislike him, Go with their opinions as your mother was the one who developed your mind and she is your fist teacher remeber that.
2007-06-19 03:13:41 · answer #3 · answered by Lyrical Peacemaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not dishonoring your parents by loving people. it doesn't matter what race you are dating that is your parents hang up. i could see their point ( not really) if you were only dating white guys or only dating mexican's or only dating asians but you're not. you are just dating who you are attracted to and that is the whole point of life. to not judge anyone by what they look lik ebut love them for the person that they are.
I agree with the first answerer. this is why don't believe in religion because your parents aren't acting according to the bible but they are going to make you honor their "unholy" decision based on the bible. assinine!!!
2007-06-19 03:11:28 · answer #4 · answered by kaluah96 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honor your parents insofar as they gave you life and raised you to be a good, responsible adult (if that is indeed the case). But if they do bad things - and meddling in an adult child's love life for no good reason is one - you have no obligation to do as they say.
In other words, "honor" and "blind obedience" are two different things.
Lay down the Bible for a moment and seek other books that teach good morals relating to a child's duty to his/her parents. "King Lear" is a fine example to start with...
2007-06-19 03:09:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think parents should be honored no matter what
you should read the book A Child Called It
solution to prob: move out and be an adult
2007-06-19 03:16:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are old enough to make your own decisions,listen to what they have to say,but you have to live your own life they cant live it for you,just keep in the back of your mind their comments and if you start thinking they might be right then you make a choice,they might just need to get to know him and then they will change let them know you like the guy and to give him a chance.you are not dishonoring them by living your own life
2007-06-19 03:11:22 · answer #7 · answered by san_ann68 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the way I see it. Your parents want you to be happy and safe. So if you are happy and safe with your boyfriend then you have honored them. Let them figure that out on there own.
2007-06-19 03:09:05 · answer #8 · answered by Yahoo Sucks 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a laugh I see more so call church people who never do any thing for their parents,,,, but when they die then they are the first one at the lawyer to get their share of the money.
2007-06-19 03:06:29 · answer #9 · answered by Gypsy Gal 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are old enough to make your own choices. Just make sure that you are willing to gamble / live with the consequences, whatever they may be.
2007-06-19 03:08:05 · answer #10 · answered by HeVn Bd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋