My girlfriend's graduation is tonight. She asked me to take off I did and I told her I would go. I didn't realize that her graduation was on a Tuesday. Tuesday nights are basketball nights. I work so I NEVER get off Tuesday nights so this is a first for me. I told her if I wasn't playing basketball I would attend her graduation. She talked to me told me it was fine if I didn't go but she wanted me to be at her graduation party which is in two weeks. I promised her I'd be there (which I will.) Well, it turns out the guys aren't play basketball tonight and I told her that. She told me she'd really appreciate me coming to her graduation but it was up to me. I still don't want to go. It's just graduation I don't see what the big deal is? I graduated last year I didn't really invite her it was just immediate family. I don't see what the big deal is! Isn't her graduation party enough? I think she's making a big ordeal out of nothing.
Am I right?
or is this mean of me?
2007-06-19 02:27:26 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It obviously seems to mean a lot to her and if you really care for her you should be there. A relationship is not all about your feelings...it's doing things for the other person as well. If you go when she knows you don't really want to it will show her you care about her and her feelings. Just be sure not to sulk the whole time you're there. Women do tend to be a bit more emotional about things like this.Let her be happy on her special day!
2007-06-19 02:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like her graduation is important to her. I can understand your feelings about your own graduation not being that big of a deal, but don't project your feelings about the event onto her. She probably feels like she worked very hard to get to this point and she wants you there to celebrate with her because you are important to her. I think you should go.
2007-06-19 02:34:49 · answer #2 · answered by tnk3181979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the time it took you to write this, you could have attended the graduation. Dump her if you really care this much about her.
Yes this is mean, but it's not a big enough deal to worry about.
2007-06-19 02:34:21 · answer #3 · answered by Scott 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like its a BIG DEAL TO HER. Guys always complain they cant figure a girl out trouble is your not listening..... If you really care about her u will make the effort if nothing more then to put a smile on her face.
2007-06-19 02:34:17 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In any relationship, youre going to end up doing things that you rather wouldnt for the sake of someone elses happiness. This is one of those things. If you care about her feelings you would show up and be there for what she considers to be an important day. Its called sacrifice.
2007-06-19 02:37:04 · answer #5 · answered by mrsNO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like graduation is important to her and means more to her than it does to you. Many times there have been things my husband hasn't wanted to go to and vice versa but we have gone because our significant other is important to us and we take each others' feelings into consideration. You should go and be happy for her. It will let her know how much she means to you.
2007-06-19 02:36:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be a big deal to your girlfriend. I know that it really meant a lot to me to have my fiance at my college graduation. It showed that he supported me in my education and that it also meant something to him. She probably really wants you to go, but doesn't want to seem naggy. Although your graduation didn't seem like something to celebrate, she may feel differently. Just because it doesn't seem like a big deal to you, it may be something really special to her.
2007-06-19 02:34:11 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should consider what is important to her and not to you?
So, Yes, it does sound mean.
2007-06-19 02:34:43 · answer #8 · answered by cobra 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋