I had a dream last night about a guy from college. We went out once in college & that was it. I haven't talked to him in a 2 years b/c I moved after college & he moved to Guatemala. Last I heard he got married in Jan. to a friend. I don't remember how the dream started but what I remember is I was going somewhere with 4 of my brothers (I have 5). I was sitting in the front seat & my bros asked the guy from college if he wanted to come w/ us. He said yes & hopped in the front seat w/ me. Next thing I know he is kissing me & stuff all over. At first I was unsure but then I was ok w/ it. We went to a store & were looking around & he wanted to hang out w/ me but I was trying to get away from my bros. He stayed w/ them & I went alone. Later I went outside to find them & they were all hanging out in the parking lot waiting on me. He came over & kissed me some more. I woke up and feel like I cheated on my boyfriend. What does the dream mean & should I tell my boyfriend?
2007-06-19 02:24:05 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YOu are not satisfied with the current relationship...but don't tell him...just be more aware of your own feelings in between you and share those!
2007-06-19 02:27:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T tell your boyfriend. It was just a dream. I had a dream about a guy I went to homecoming with in school (I haven't seen or heard about him for 15-16 years). It was a pretty hot and heavy dream, but it was only a dream. I'm not sure what caused it either since we never really dated, and I haven't thought about him for years. Just shake it off and move on. If you tell your boyfriend, he will probably do what most men do and get jealous. It's not worth chancing it over a dream. Just forget about it. It didn't mean anything.
2007-06-19 09:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! after reading what other people wrote back to you, I'm probably more of a square than anyone out there. My advice to you is, if you have a very open relationship with your boyfriend, then I would tell him about the dream. Communication is a BIG Deal in relationships. If your relationship is open and you can discuss things that bother you with him, then I would tell him about your dream, and I would also tell him on how it made you feel. And just go with the flow- I have a very open relationship, and I am very secure with the person I am with. When something bothers me, I discuss it with him, and we discover new things about ourselves- we realize just how vulerable we are as humans- and that often times we share the same fears, and concerns which helps us remain intimate with each other at a different level. It helps us grow closer!
2007-06-19 09:37:06 · answer #3 · answered by babysteppin2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had one of them dreams once... I think that everyone has them, some people feel bad about it and others dont, because it is just a dream.. Guys have to have dreams like that.. They thing about sex all the time..
You cant control who your dreams are about, you are a sleep.. If it is eating you up inside, then maybe you should tell him to make yourself feel better.. It might build trust and he might respect you for it.. On the other hand.. You didnt really cheat, so No you dont have to tell him about it..
I will tell you though, youll probably have more dreams like that through out your life time!
Good Luck!
2007-06-19 09:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't think our dreams mean anything. I had a dream about running from a tornado last night. I tell my fiance all about my crazy dreams, even ones that involve other men. You can't help what you dream about so you shouldn't feel as if you have cheated.
2007-06-19 09:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely do not tell your boyfriend, there is nothing to be gained. A wise person once said to me "You don't have to tell absolutely everything." You are not intending to actually cheat and you did not cheat. You had a sexy dream which might mean you were role-playing in your mind and you enjoyed it, which scared you. But its OK to fantasize in a dream.
2007-06-19 09:26:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No need to tell. Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. The dream could represent so many different things that you would knock yourself out trying to get a handle on it.
2007-06-19 09:31:32 · answer #7 · answered by Raintrain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dreams are often the way we work problems and our desires out in our subconscious. By themselves they don't mean anything. But I wouldn't really offer up to my boyfriend that I've had dreams about another guy. Guys being what they are, are a little sketchy about that stuff.
2007-06-19 09:28:53 · answer #8 · answered by no_wait_hes_spartacus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fist of all you have to think about...do you still have feelings for this guy? And if you don't then its all okay, but if you do, you need to try your hardest to get over them. Secondly i would suggest telling your current boyfriend your dream, but tell him that, that is now how you truly feel, you just needed to get it off your chest and let him now. This will make you feel a lot better about the situation.
2007-06-19 09:30:17 · answer #9 · answered by Taylor G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dreaming is OK, acting out that dream is not. We never swear an oath not to have fantasies, or no marriage would be safe.
2007-06-19 09:26:50 · answer #10 · answered by Steve C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋