Is there any people here that want to remain single for their rest of their lives?

Question

Please what are the advantages of staying single all your life? Or are humans happier with a mate?

I think Im going to remain single because im already 34, im to extremely shy, not very good looking, okay, im on the ugly side, and girls really don't notice me. So Im trying to convince myself that been single and lonely ain't so bad.

So I will like some good reason for this lifestyle or bad reasons. Thanks

Answer 1

I am 35, female and single! I absolutely love it! I was in a long term relationship (more than 12 years) and when I finally got rid of the jerk, I found myself to be happy! For me the pro is that I don't have to worry about having to answer to someone when I get home at the end of the day. I don't have to explain myself to anyone- I do what I want, when I want, and how I want to do it.

I get to spend time alone, learning about me!!! Being single is great!!! I don't mind being around other people, but I also like my quiet times with myself.

Sure there are times when I'm lonely, however, even married people are lonely at times.

Being single means, I can prepare myself more for my future.

For me being single is great!!!

I hope this helps!!
Good Luck!!

Answer 2

Hi John.
Research has shown that people who marry live longer, are generally healthier, wealthier and happier than those who remain single. There are obvious benefits to being one half of a couple, splitting the bills and halving/sharing the burdens :) I choose to remain single because it works for me. There are alot of things in my life that would suffer if I were married and the cons outweigh the pros in my case. I think that there has to be something of great importance and/or meaning in your life if you are to remain single because it is a sacrifice and something needs to fill the gap.
I don't think your reasons for being single are very valid. :) There is no reason for you to be alone if you don't want to be. Looks very rarely enrich anyones life on anything more than a superficial level. We all come to the realisation some day that they are only skin deep. If you can enrich someone elses life, and she yours - get out there and find her! Good luck

Answer 3

I think you gotta be happy with yourself first in order to be ready for a healthy relationship. Women look for self-esteem & confidence in a man.

You need to work on yourself to make yourself a little bit more marketable. I read a few books such as "Double your Dating" that have helped me gain a great perspective on the opposite sex. You don't have to try that hard. Just fine-polish your skills. Being shy is ok but you might want to upgrade your skills a little bit. Such as inviting body-language. Expose yourself to many situations where women hang out (yoga class, bookstore, community service events). Invest a little bit in your warddrobe. Work on your humor and what you are going to say to them. The ages of 34-44 are still very young. You need to take control of your situation. Either you control your destiny or your destiny controls you. You need to empower yourself, be strong, optimistic & work on improving your skills. The reults will come but you need to put the time in.

Answer 4

I was married for 30 years, I gave it my all, and got screwed at the end. Getting a divorce now and I do not have to answer to anyone at anytime, anywhere, my life ,my money, and I'm doing ok. I have a dog and she loves me more than he ever did. You might find someone but you must be will to get out of the house and get to know people.

Answer 5

Are there people who will remain single all their life.? yes but not me I have met the girl of my dreams. Good reasons to remain single? you can save more money, do want you want, go where you want. Bad- society looks down on you or feels sorry for you, no one to back you up 24/7, no one to share your stories with, no one to hold at night. so many more in both ctaegories

Answer 6

nicely, there has continually been (and could be in destiny too) "previous-bachelors" and "previous-maids"... 4 substantial motives are: a million. some could endup to be loner from their own will... 2. some could grew to grow to be loner due that they had misplaced their soulmate, "the only love", and that they think of that they are able to never detect a alternative... 3. Or had sometime one among those undesirable relationship that they only misplaced faith in fellow human beings, and created emotional scars which do not disappear, and that they are able to not recover from it... 4. Did pursue examine/profession whilst youthful, and then "awaken" too previous due in existence to certainty, to type a family participants, and then confronted age discrimination, and ended up as a loner... i think of that people who settle on from their own unfastened will that they stay single relax of their existence is okay... in my view, i'm nonetheless single. i became partly affected by element 2, then few years later partly affected by element 3. Then I centred to my profession, or perhaps although nonetheless youthful.., i does not be taken aback if in far destiny i could discover myself to be an previous-bachelor... and that's partly due that I dont have faith in miracles anymore (and that i could be da*n taken aback if some lady chum could seem to my existence), and my artwork (in administrative place in employer) and relentless travels take care that i'm not that easy to realize (obtainable), and girls are actually not that involved approximately me... So, in easy terms who could be "with adequate braveness" (to objective her success), and able to speak with me in many circumstances, is my secretary, yet she focuses extra to the works....

Answer 7

yes, you don't have to lust and get naked and do nasty acts. period

Answer 8

You have freedom...