My boyfiriend wants to go to the strip club, we have been together for 4 years and he has only been 3 times. But it bothers me becasue why is he going? Why does he need to go?
Need a guys point of view: Why do you go if you are in a relationship?
2007-06-19 01:21:27 · 20 answers · asked by Beach Bum 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not a guy.... far from it actually.
But, why is it a bad thing if he wants to go to a strip club?
Have you ever thought about going with him?
It's not like he is going to stand a chance with any of the women performing.
I have gone to a strip club with my old man on more than one occasion and I enjoy it. Just recently a group of us went. All couples. We had a blast.
2007-06-19 01:25:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Try giving him an erotic show in the bedroom like he sees in the clubs. It's not about the women or the female bodies in the clubs – you can't touch, taste (not that you'd want to) or handle them, it all about how they present themselves in a naught way.
Pick a show night for him, set a time, get all dolled up and perform for him. The benefit? He will get extra horney and he can slip one dollar bills into your g-string (or use Monopoly money – you'll get rich dancing and he'll feel like a big spender). The biggest payoff? He can have all of you after you both get hot enough.
Guys go to these clubs to experience what their wives no longer do, or never did. When sex becomes mundane, strip clubs offer an alternative: a women doing something unexpected and we (the men) didn't have to suggest or beg for it in the first place.
Take a chance and give it a shot. If you don't try it, you'll never know the outcome. Who knows, you both may enjoy it so much (you flaunting yourself and him the voyer), that you dedicate a couple of shows a month to him.
All of your shows should all have a spectacular finish with him. Every women has a naughty side that needs to be released. Try it and keep me posted :)
2007-06-19 08:40:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm not a guy but I can tell you that men go to strip clubs because it boost there egos. Strippers play men and tell them what they want to hear. He doesn't like/love you any less and depending on where you live, strip clubs can be harmless. Now if he goes every weekend then that's definitely a problem. He probably likes someone there. I hope that helped you out a little bit.
2007-06-19 08:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by Nicki 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I worked at a strip club as a waitress and most guys there just need a place to relax. A strip club is a place where girls flirt with guys...this makes guys feel attractive b/c cute girls are hitting on them. If you have been together for 4years you should trust him not to cheat. But if it makes you that uncomfortable ask him not to go as often or go with him...you might enjoy yourself. Lots of couples go to strip clubs...and he might apperciate that you are not judging him but trying to understand him better. Or you could go to a strip club alone and see whats happening (you be surprised cuz its different from what the media presents it). A strip club is a place where noone is judged but treated nicely and treated like royalty. stripers are not there to steal your bf or force him to cheat. They are there to entertain and be a understanding friend (and of course make money to pay the rent). Plus stripers just strip if they have sex with the customers then they can go to jail and the clubs can be ticketed. Club mangers are always watching for that bad stuff and many strip clubs have rules about touching. DONOT forbid him not to go b/c that will cause tension in your relationship and that will make him want to go even more. Strip clubs are not about guys cheating sometimes guys go in there just for a drink and to talk. When i was waitressing many guys that were in a relationship came to strip clubs...and some talked about their gf or wife. Some guys ask us how to better their relationships and what gift to get their gf/wife. Some were there to network(meet guys from other businesses and get coneections). Surprisingly not all guys are bad or cheaters. They just need a break from reality and want to step into a fantasy world even if its only for a few hrs. Think about the 3 times he went to the strip club...were you guys having relationship problems at the time?...did his friends take him out for lunch/dinner(yes some clubs serve lunch)...or were you guys fine? Remember guys dont like it when their gf or wife doesnt accept them. He might not know it makes you uncomfortable. Just talk to him about but dont jump into conclusions or judge him for liking girls. I also advise that you read "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" this book will help you understand guys better and undestand why we(women) do things that drive men away. get back to me if you need anything else abotu this issue. i want to see how yuor relationship goes
2007-06-19 08:53:39 · answer #4 · answered by Bunnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a guy, but I use to have a problem with my hubby going until I realized at the end of the night he will be home with me. He only goes maybe 1-2 times a yr. with his buddies to socialize and have a beer. Maybe if you went and seen what it's about then you wouldn't feel so insecure about him going because most of the men are not gawking at the women..they are playing pool, watching tv, and drinking with their buddies. It's not like he wants some trashy stripper cause if he did he wouldn't be with you!
2007-06-19 08:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by Amber S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beach bum, Do you act sexy enough for him when it is just the two of you? Do you pose like a porn model for him? Do you strip and dance for him like a stripper? Do you have sex with him like a porn star? If not, why not? Do all these things and then see if he still wants to go see the strippers. If so then he probably has serious flaw. Of course maybe your marriage is really not working on many levels and the improved sexual stimulation is not what is really needed. Maybe he is just not willing to work at your marriage any more. How about you? Are you willing to work at your marriage? How hard? If both parties are not willing to work really hard at their marriage then the relationship is bound to suffer and crack and be less than ideal and he is going to want to go elsewhere.
2007-06-19 08:45:31 · answer #6 · answered by Toosense2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If both partners are happy in their relationship, there is no need to go to a strip club.
2007-06-19 23:49:03 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The strip club is more of a social thing. It is a time to hang out with the guys, talk, and maybe smoke a cigar. You shouldn't be worried. He probably just going to hang out with his friends. If you dont have a problem with it, im sure he will be willing to take you with him. I always go with guys and girls to the strip club. And by girls I mean straight girls, they go for the social aspect.
2007-06-19 08:29:46 · answer #8 · answered by Ω 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why does he want to go? With his buddies, or has he asked you to come along?
If it's a night out with the guys, maybe you should tell him to go have some good, clean juvenile fun. He'll think you're aces for being the type of chick who's cool with it.
If he wants to go alone, or tag you along, maybe you need to assert yourself. He may just be attempting to indulge a fantasy. If you go, the girls will hang all over you, teasing him to get more dolla bills out of his pocket.
Or, put it another way: tell him you want a night out to go see a gentlemen's review. If he's cool with that, you know where you stand with him.
2007-06-19 08:51:04 · answer #9 · answered by senor~vin 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's about him finding out how much power he has in your relationship and how far he can go with doing things that only he likes to do no matter how you feel about it.
This will carry over to other facets of your relationship. If you are uncomfortable, you have only two choices to achieve happiness.
Change or leave.
2007-06-19 08:30:42 · answer #10 · answered by lunatic 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋