A girl at work had a surprise bridal shower for me and I'm very grateful. I hadn't planned on adding 30 people to the wedding invite list though. It's a supportive work place but I am not close with many of them. Do I change my contracts and plans to allow for more people and start mailing more invitations?
2007-06-19 01:09:27 · 13 answers · asked by Eva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You do not need to add those guests. The "official" shower from your Matron/Maid of Honor or your family members should only have people who are on the guest list...but an impromptu party thrown by your co-workers does not obligate you to add them to the guest list. The shower itself is their celebration of your marriage.
2007-06-19 01:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
No you don't have to invite them. You have a set amount of guests with the ceremony/reception site. If you had wanted to invite them you would have. Don't just invite them because they went to your bridal shower.
I'm sure they will understand you not inviting them. Some may be hurt but I feel weddings are for family and close friends. If your coworkers were very close to you then they would have been invited already.
I like the idea of having a barbecue or something in appreciation of the surprise shower.
2007-06-19 08:45:53 · answer #2 · answered by Terri 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would definately invite the people who put together the surprise shower, but honestly, do you think that most of the 30 will show up? Personally, I like the people I work with but I don't really want to see them on my day off, even the ones I'm particularly close to. Lots of people have a work side and a personal side and they don't like to mix the two. If your office is like mine, only a handfull will show up, so just require an RSVP to attend.
2007-06-19 13:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by SecretariesRule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO
There are several reasons for this the most important one being the possiblity of being over fire code at your venue and the fire dept shutting you down. This has happenend!
They knew when they planned the shower that they hadnt been invited to the wedding, they did it out of the kindness of their heart.
WHAT YOU CAN DO
If you havent already send each person a personalized thank you note with a remark about something they did, said or gave at the shower.
Invite them to the reception (again keeping the size of the venue in mind).
SInce you work in an office-send a thank you note to the office you acknowlege all of them and their support at this time. If you would like you can note that you wish you could invite all of them to your wedding but your plans for a small guest list can not be changed at this time. You can also use this or evite to invite them to the reception but a separate message should be used for this purpose.
They should all understand-especially those who are married or who have participated in a wedding
Save your money for your life after the wedding. Whether they are able to attend the reception or not make sure that they all receive individual thank you notes for their contribution to your happiness on this day.
Congratulations on your pending nuptials!
i hope this helps
2007-06-19 08:22:40 · answer #4 · answered by msijg 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you ask the people @ your work how many would like to attend & then adjust things in that manner. It would be the nice thing to do since they did participate in your bridal shower but since you are not close with many of them leave it open for those who'd like to attend,to let you know by a certain time and then you can make arrangements from there.
2007-06-19 08:15:36 · answer #5 · answered by Unique Soul 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no, i was going to say that if you invited them to a bridal shower, then they were automatically invited to the wedding, but you didn't invite them, so no. If you have to explain, say its a small private wedding with a number cap. they will understand if they are all that supportive. GOOD LUCK!
2007-06-19 08:13:25 · answer #6 · answered by Paige 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes if they went out of there way to throw a surprise bridal shower for you. Otherwise you may be looked at as rude. I am sure not everyone will show up but at least they will know that you did show then enough respect to invite them.
2007-06-19 08:14:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
i invited all the people i work with and all the ones that my partner works with as the more u invite the more better atmosphere but we are not paying 4 it if u r then just invite the ones that u are more close 2 that's what i would do
2007-06-19 08:30:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yup, it would be very rude if she threw you a surprise shower and you didnt send her an invitation. She's probably planning right now what she's going to wear to your wedding. Please do invite them.
2007-06-19 08:12:38 · answer #9 · answered by yogurlmsbunny 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Of course.
You can at least show them you care by inviting them.
And when they come be sure to greet and thank them for coming.
2007-06-19 08:13:18 · answer #10 · answered by mo2dajizzo 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋