Please Help..?

Question

My and my ex split after a very difficult, abusive, and emotional relationship. He was my first love, at first everything was perfect and id never been as happy as i was. Then at the 9th month its turned into constant arguments, by the 11th month he never wanted to see me and would never see me, he would always push me away and arguments turned physical. I still love him so much, and found a message which he left me last years 3 months into the relationship saying how he loved me and we have years together still. Im so heartbroken and feel like i could be sick. He is moved on, he doesnt love me anymore and doesnt want to speak to him, i feel like its all my fault, im bored and lonely, i just feel so depressed, its making me want to throw up, i was so so so happy last year, and look at me now, living each day alone in my room, whilst hes happy probaply meeting new people. Please help me.

Answer 1

My heart aches for you. Ending a relationship is so hard, and everyone works through it in their own time and their own way. This sounds like it really was a very destructive relationship and you will be better off when you have worked through the sadness and heartache. Do you go to church? Become more involved in your church if you do, if not start going to one now. Try a non-denominational church with a strong music ministry. It will be very positive and uplifting. Do you do any volunteer work? Check with your local hospitals or schools and see if they need volunteers. I bet they do, and I bet if you find some focus on those in need your own situation will be so much more bearable.

God loves you honey. You are in my prayers.