I like this guy (co-worker I see everyday),and I have been emailing/calling/Im-ing/texting/coming up to his room as much as I could,
but he never does that or initiates that,I have a feeling he has been taking me for granted,so Im thinkining of STOPPING WHAT I DO.
But hes the only hot coworker I know,I cant eat lunch alone!!!
please tell me should I invite im for lunch again (for the sake oof not being lonely) or wait till he misses me?
2007-06-19 00:43:59 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Are you that desperate for company over lunch? Try reading a magazine or newspaper. It sounds like this guy is not into you and I don't mean that to be nasty. I just want you to stop being so needy and move on to something, someone else. If and when he comes around and initiates something with you then great. Until then, back off. :-)
2007-06-19 14:55:51 · answer #1 · answered by Red 4 Green 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to offend you, but it sounds like this is a one sided relationship. A lot of men have a hard time telling women they don't want them to call them or email them or text them etc. They try to be polite because they don't want to hurt your feelings and often desperate woman will take their politeness as a sign that the guy is interested. In this case the fact that the guy doesn't call you or text you or email you first should be a clue that he isn't interested in you and is trying to avoid hurting your feelings. The best thing you can do is leave the man alone. Oh and so what if he is "hot" .
2007-06-19 11:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My answere differes depending on if you want a romantic relationship with him, or just company for lunch. If you just want company for lunch, then you can continue to be the one to initiate meetings and conversations, and trust that if he wants to eat with someone else sometimes, he will tell you. If you want to persue a romantic relationship, then I suggest that you either back off and see if he then initiates showing that he has some interest in you, or that you ask him out sometimes after work hours. If you back off and he never initiates, that will tell you that he is not interested and you should just enjoy your office friendship, but not expect anything more. If you ask him out after hours and he says, "No", then same thing applies. Good luck in getting whatever it is you want out of the relationship.
2007-06-19 08:07:20 · answer #3 · answered by wendy08010 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could loom a little larger on his horizon. Some men will never take the initiative. Anyway, why deprive yourself of the companionship?
2007-06-19 07:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by jsardi56 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He doesn't appear to be interested, so cut it off. Want another good reason? Office relationships usually end badly. Ever heard the old saying "Don't fish off the company pier"? 'Nuff said.
2007-06-19 07:52:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All the anxiety and uncertainty you're feeling is bound to interfere with your work, so please get your mind off this kind of thing while at work.
As for lunch, just invite anyone, or read something.
2007-06-19 09:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he has same feelings towards to u. I see not problem to meet him.
2007-06-19 07:59:09 · answer #7 · answered by A.H.M. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you like him because he's the only hot one, you are shallow aren't you
2007-06-19 07:47:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋