My father and I?

Question

I stole my fathers credit card last year to call a man 2,000 miles away. It cost my dad alot of money. His wife kicked me out. He wont talk to me. Even after I said sorry. He doesn't care. I got no call on my birthday..I even saw him...and he wont even say hi to me. I feel so bad ( which I should it was a very wrong thing to do) I dont know what my next move should be. I really wanted to have a relationship with him. and I did before when he divorced my mother and ran off with his other family. I just want him in my life, and I don't know how to do it.

Thank you very much for your answers. I have payed him back in full what I stole from him. Im going to try the letter thing. Also I heard the wife was going out of town for a week or 2. So im going to see if I can talk to him then.

Answer 1

That's pretty severe punishment for a one-time offense. Perhaps his wife has more to do with it. Also, sometimes it's hard to talk to people face-to-face when they're mad at you and you're intimidated by your own feelings of guilt (and vice versa). If it's possible to write him a letter and address it to his work, so that the wife wouldn't find it, I suggest you do that. I had a lot of problems with my mom when I was younger, and we found that we solved everything through writing each other letters--no interruption, no screaming, easier to be completely open and honest... I hope this helps. Good luck. That's really sad.

Answer 2

Surprised your dad let his wife get away with such a step,no doubt you did something very wrong ,but the punishment or decision to do something about it should really have come from him,I get the feeling she was looking out for such an opportunity ,so she could take this drastic step.
Obviously money is the 'Big Issue' here,try to pay back at least as much as you reasonably can with a promise to repay the rest as & when you can,do this with grace & a genuine apology ,leave the rest to him ,after all there isn't more you can really do,is there ?

Answer 3

Write him a letter telling him how sorry you are and what you are feeling and what you desire from him, as a father daughter relationship, then send him a picture or letter once a month (just a hello or an update on you)it lets him know the doors open when he comes around and forgives you for it,then give it time, dont come off needy your already apologetic he needs to move from that, you messed up but you are still his daughter.

Answer 4

Have you tryed to pay him back the money it cost him. why not send him a letter telling him you are sorry but this time offer him the money back that might be what he is wanting from you. But if he doesen't contact you after that at least you know you tried to do the right thing.

Answer 5

One day maybe he will forgive you . But his wife kicking you out was wrong because she is not your mom ,your dad has no backbone ,she is obviously calling the shots and as long as she is around ,you will not be able to talk to your dad . I think your dad needs to be in control of his household and right now he is not . I would go to him and tell him exactly how you feel . That was very wrong of your dad to let her kick you out . Dad needs to grow a set and tell this woman where to go . good luck .

Answer 6

You must have had a lot of answers. BUT:
If your dad is a sensible man, I'm sure he will accept your apology and forgive .
You must show him that you're really sorry for what you have done and that you will never do such stupid things again. Tell him that you need him badly.
If you have brothers or sisters let them help you.
Good luck

Answer 7

I think if he really loves u, he will forgive you, for a moment dont repeat your mistake. Just for once say sorry to him and then ignore him, after a while he will definitely come to you and everything will be fine

Answer 8

I am very sorry about it :( but you did a wrong thing.I think ıf you send him a new credit card or money, he will Forgive you.Don't stop practicing about it!

Answer 9

ouch thats sad just give him time hel come around